Nangona kunjalo, nangona abantu abaninzi banako ukuthetha, ngelishwa, asiyiyo sonke esinako ukuthetha nabantu abanomdla kunye nabanye abantu abangathanda ukuchitha iiyure zexesha lokukhulula, ukuva nje ibinzana elilandelayo emlonyeni wethu. Ngoko sinokuthi sibe ngabaphili beempawu abanokuyisebenzisa, benze ukuhleka kunye nokuthanda nje ngabaphulaphuli ngamagama ambalwa nje alungileyo?
Okumangalisayo kukuba, kulula kakhulu ukuba ngumculi onobuchule, nangona kunjalo kuya kuthatha unyaka omnye ukuphumelela kulo msebenzi. Kwintliziyo yinto ebangel 'umdla kubantu abakujikelezile, ngaphezu kwakho konke, kukuthi "inkumbulo". Ewe, kungenxa yokukwazi ukumangalisa abaphulaphula ngesigwebo ngasinye esilandelayo kwaye siyaba lunomdla kwaye, ngandlela-thile, iintetho ezikhangayo. Umzekelo, ngaba kuya kuba mnandi ukubukela amaqhinga xa uyazi kakuhle indlela nganye iqhinga leqhinga lenziwa ngayo kwaye yintoni ekulindelwe kwisigqibo esilandelayo somlingo olandelayo? Akunjalo! Kuyafana nokukwazi ukuthetha - unokuzijonga njengomntu onomdla, kodwa xa uthetha amahlaya afanayo yonke imihla oyifunayo encwadini ethi "101 ihlaya elihle kakhulu", akukho mntu uya kumomotheka, kodwa hamba uhambe ukuphulaphula intetho , umzekelo, ngaphezu kweengcamango ezihlaziyiweyo okanye i-quantium physics ebomini bomntu oqhelekileyo.
Isifundo sesibini esibaluleke kakhulu ukuba sifunde ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukuphupha ukuba ube yinto ephezulu yokuziphendulela kukuba akufanele uzame ukuthetha ngezinto ongazi. Kungenzeka ukuba unalo ulwazi olunzulu, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni, ngaphandle kweyodwa. Ngoko uzama ukumangalisa abantu ngezinto owaziyo kule ngxaki, kwaye ungakhangeli ukubonga jikelele, ukuxhasa uxhulumaniso ngezihloko ozivile nje ebomini bakho okokuqala. Abantu abaninzi bacela ukuba benze njani ngexesha xa isihloko, kumntu othile kwaye siqondakala kuwe, asinakuguqulwa, njengokuba awukwazi ukuthula. Impendulo, njengoko kunjalo, ilula-ukuzigxeka kuyo kukunceda. Ukubeka nje, xa ujamelana neemeko xa unyanzelekile ukuxhasa incoko ngento ongaziyo, zama ukusebenzisa ukungazi kwakho endaweni yokubuza imibuzo malunga nesihloko, unokuzama ukusebenzisa ubuqhetseba bakho kwaye ucele abanye abanxibelelwano, ke oku kulesi sihloko, ukuba baya kucinga kunye nokude ukuzama ukufumana impendulo, kunokuba unako ukunika ubuncinane, kodwa unomdla wokunxibelelana kwakho. Ukuba awukwazi ukwenza oku, unokwazi ukuguqulela umbuzo owenziwe kuwe, ngendlela yehlaya kunoma yimuphi umntu kwiqela lakho.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, isakhono sesithathu esibalulekileyo kunazo zonke isithethi esithandwayo okanye esingaphantsi esidlangalaleni esinobungqina kunye nokungabikho kokuthozama okukhulu. Khumbula ukuba xa uthetha into ethile, uthetha amagama, amabinzana kunye nezivakalisi ezipheleleyo kubantu abanjalo njengawe, ngubani ongasukuma kwaye uqale ukuthetha ukuze ba khawuleze bakulibale kwaye uza kunyanzelwa ukuba uhlale ngapha nangapha uphuze itiye, ngelixa abanye uVasya Petrov bevela kwisityalo baya kumnandi baze bahlaziye iindawo ezizungezile, kunye nokuziqhayisa ngeenkcukacha malunga nomatshini othile. Ngako oko, kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhumbula ukuba ngokukhawuleza xa uvula umlomo wakho kwaye uvakalise isandi sokuqala - ukususela ngoku uye waba yinkosi yokunqoba kwaye kuya kuwe ukuba kuya kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ngaphambi kokuba ususwe. Ufanele ulawulwe njani ukumkani? Ngokuchanekileyo - ngokuvakalayo, ngokucacileyo, i-multifaceted, ihlakaniphile, kwaye ibaluleke kakhulu - ngokufanelekileyo. Ukuqhubela phambili kule nto, senza ifom ye-rhetoric efanelekileyo: i-good rhetoric = inkulumo ecacileyo kunye ecacileyo + ngeenkcubeko, ezingalindelekanga kunye neziphakamiso kwabanye.
Ekugqibeleni ndifuna ukuphawula ukuba into ephambili ayesabi ukuthetha nokuvakalisa uluvo lwakho, kuba abantu abanokukwazi ukuvumelana nabanye abazange bathande, kwaye abayi kuthanda. Nangona uluvo lwakho luphikisana ngokupheleleyo neengcamango zabanye - zichaze yonke into njengoko ucinga, kwaye ngoko ke uya kuthiwa uhlonishwe ngenxa yesibindi sakho sokulwa nabanye, kwaye ukuba "ubonise" umbono wakho ophikisanayo ngoncedo lwentetho ekhululwe ngokukhawuleza, ngoko abaqhagamshelana nabo abayi kuthetha nantoni na embi, kodwa bakubonga kuphela ngamaxesha amnandi ngexesha bebephulaphule le ntetho enhle, ekhohlisayo.