UNyana ukhula ngamandla
Indodana yam eneminyaka eyi-1,5 ihlala ilwa kwindawo yokudlala, ithatha into ebantwaneni, iwaxoshe, mhlawumbi ibetha. Ndihlala ndibeka izimvo kuye, kodwa akayeki. Kodwa kwintsapho sinobudlelwane obunokuthula, ubudlelwane. Uvela phi? Kwaye kufuneka ndiyenze ntoni?
Ngomntwana ongaphantsi kweminyaka emi-2, ihlabathi lonke liququzelele kuphela kwiminqweno yakhe! Ngokuqinisekileyo akaqondi ukuba abanye abantu baneminqweno yabo, iimfuno zabo, ukuba baziva into ethile. Ngenxa yoko, inkunzi inokuphatha abantu ngendlela efanayo nebheyi yokudlala, iphosa. Akayiqondi isizathu sokuba ungammangaleli ngebheyitha, kodwa ujezise uDima, owamsunduza. Ulungile, kufuneka senze umboniso kumntwana, uchaze indlela yokuziphatha ngayo. Yaye ukwahlukana nabadlali abancinci kwintendelezo kuyafuneka. Kodwa ukulinda iziphumo ngokukhawuleza akufanelekanga: yonke into inexesha layo. Emva kwexesha, umntwana uya kuqonda ukuba awukwazi ukubetha abanye.
Xa umntwana exelela iphupha
Unyana wam uneminyaka engama-4 ubudala. Kungekudala waqala ukuthetha ukuba amaphupha aphuphayo amaphupha, waqala ukwesaba umnyama. Andiyazi indlela yokusebenza, ngaba ndiyishiya ubusuku bonke ubusuku bonke? Okanye unyanzele unyana wakhe ukuba anqobe ukwesaba kobumnyama?
Ukwesaba kwabantwana kudla ngokuqhelekileyo, kwaye kuyisidima sokuba abazali abahlali bebambelele kubaluleke kubo. Uloyiko aluveli ndawo: mhlawumbi into ephazamisayo, eyethusa, ekhuphayo, yamangalisa umntwana, kwaye ingayifumananga loo mcimbi ngokungalunganga, yanikela ngomfanekiso ongaqhelekanga, umlinganiso? Kungaba njengengxaki yokuphila - ukuxabana komzali, ukuxhatshazwa, ukutshatyalaliswa kunye nokulahlekelwa, kunye neziganeko eziqhelekileyo kunye neziganeko eziqhelekileyo kwingqondo yabantu abadala - uhambo lokuphumla, ukuya kwi-dacha, i-movie eyabonwa ngumntwana. Khumbula, ngaba le ndodana ayikuvumi wena kunye nomyeni wakho olala ngesondo? Oku, kunako, kunokuchaphazela ukwesaba komntwana. Buza unyana wakho oko kumkhathazayo. Oku kuya kukuvumela ukuba ufumane apho uloyiko luvela khona kwaye luncede unyana wakho awaluse. Yenza umsebenzi wokulala, vula ukukhanya ebusuku, utshele intsana inganekwane yebusuku, umxube, mvumele ulale ngokulala nawe. Emva kwexesha, uya kuphelisa ukwesaba kwakhe umntwana.
Ikati iya kufuneka ilale ...
Sinekati ixesha elide, kwaye intombi iyakhumbula okokuzalwa. Isilwanyana sele sidala, sigula kakhulu, ugqirha wezilwanyana wamcebisa ukuba amlale. Kodwa indlela yokuxelela intombi yakho ngale nto? Mhlawumbi kungcono ukuthetha ukuba ikati yaleka?
Kungcono ukuxelela yonke inyaniso ngesifo nokulala kwekati. Ngendlela, abantwana bahlala bengaboni ukufa njengento efana nathi, abadala. Ezi zinyaniso, zinjalo, zingabangela iinyembezi, i-hysteria, ukuzihlukanisa okanye ukungabikho kwempendulo yangaphandle. Kodwa into ephambili kukuba uxhasa intombi yakho ngelixa lokulahleka. Kubalulekile ukuba wazisola ngokucacileyo ngenxa yekati, wakhala kunye nawe. Emva kwakho konke, ngenxa yevahleko, ukulahleka kubalulekile ukuba ungagcini, kungekhona ukungena ngaphakathi.
Leyo ngxaki!
Intombi, eneminyaka eli-11 ubudala, yaqala ukusabalalisa yonke into ejikeleze igumbi - iimpahla, i-candy wrappers kwiiskese. Wayethetha ukungaziphathe ngendlela enjalo! Njani ukuba?
Olu hlobo lufana nolutsha - olu lunye lweendlela zokubhikisha, ukungathobeli. Khumbuza intombi yakho ukuba akahlali yodwa kwindlu, kodwa yonke intsapho, kwaye ubuncinane, ngoko ke, kufuneka uhlale ecocekile. Beka, ziphi iintsuku zokucoca kwindawo yokuhlala kuya kuba yimpendulo yentombi, kwaye xa-wena. Yaye uchaze ukuba yeyiphi imilinganiselo oyithathayo xa isivumelwano sivunyiweyo intombi. Kodwa wena uya kufuneka uhlale ucocekile! Xa sele uhlukanise "intsimi", intombi iya kufumana ukuzimela, nto leyo intsha iphupha ngayo.
Kutheni ebambelele kwengubo kamama?
Intombi yam eneminyaka engama-4 ayivumeli ukuba ndihambe inyathelo. Andiyi kumaqela okuphuhlisa ngaphandle kwam, ndikhala, ndithi ndikoyike, kwaye ootitshala bayichasene nobukho bam kwiqela. Yintoni endiyenzayo?
Ixesha le nto intombazana idibana nabanye abantu ngaphandle kwakho? Uninzi cishe akunjalo. Mhlawumbi yeso sizathu esilahlekileyo kwiqela lezingane, ufuna inkxaso yakho. Ngaphandle koko, zama ukuziqonda, ulungele ukuvumela umntwana ukuba ahambe? Ngaba umntwana wakho ubonisa ukwesaba kwakho? Abantwana basithanda kakhulu kangangokuba bazama ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo zethu. Ngaba uyamthemba utitshala onentombi? Ukuba kunjalo, phulaphula icebiso lootitshala: hlala phantsi komnyango uze uze kwifowuni yokuqala.
Ugogo nomkhulu
Abazali bam baphila ngaphandle kwesi sixeko kwaye bahlala bathabatha abazukulu ngeveki kunye neeholide. Andiyi kucinga, kodwa emva kokubuya kootatomkhulu, abafana bam ababini kwiminyaka emithathu neyesibhozo bangakwazi ukulawulwa: i-whims, i-hysterics, inzondo kum. Yintoni endiyenzayo?
Mhlawumbi abantwana bahamba kakhulu ngokutshintshwa kwendawo: ukuhlukana kokuqala kuwe, ukuhlukana nootatomkhulu. Kubonakala ukuba oku kukuxinzeleleka kubo, nangona bengakwazi oku. Le meko mhlawumbi iyancatshiswa yilokuba iibini zazo, kunye nokuxhatshazwa abanokuyithumela. Sisiphi isisombululo? Yiya kubantu abadala kunye nabantwana bakho. Okanye vumela abazali bazokutyelela. Ngunyana omdala unokwazi ukuzama ukuthetha intliziyo ngentliziyo: uvakalelwa njani xa uya kuhamba, indlela achitha ixesha apho, ukuphosile? Yintoni eyenza akhubekise kuwe? Ngoko uya kumbonisa ukuba kukho ezinye iindlela zokunciphisa ukuxhatshazwa, okungaqinisekiyo okuvela ekuhlukaneni.
Khusela indodana yakho ... kumfundisi!
Unyana wam wayengathandwa ngumfundisi. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba ngokunyanisekileyo ukuphonononga ukuvavanya kwakhe, ufumana isohlwayo ngokuziphatha kwakhe. Yiya kuye ukuqonda? Okanye ukhala ngokukhawuleza kumfundisi oyintloko okanye umlawuli?
Umsebenzi wakho oyingcwele kula mabhunga ekukhuliseni abantwana abancinci kukuxhasa iimfuno zomntwana. Kakade, kufuneka sihambe esikolweni. Enyanisweni, ulawulo lwesikolo alukwazi ukuqonda imeko leyo, kwaye kuya kuthatha ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuba liphume. Kwaye ngoko, mhlawumbi, ekuqaleni, ngokubambisana kunye nobunkokheli baya kuthatha icala lootitshala. Ngoko kungcono ukuthetha ngokuqala ngutitshala malunga nento engathandekanga ngayo: ukuziphatha, ulwazi? Makhe unike izibonelo eziphathekayo zokuziphatha kakubi kwaye uthetha ukuba umfundi ophumelelayo makazi njani namhlanje. Ngale ndlela uya kumbonisa ukuba le nkxalabo ikukhathazayo, ukuba awuyi kumvumela ukuba ahambe naye, kwaye ukuba ukulungele ukwenza izinto ezidibeneyo ngumzali-titshala ukunceda umntwana ukuba afumane iziphumo ezilungileyo. Makuvumele utitshala ancomele uncwadi, uya kubeka ixesha lokubuyisela umsebenzi. Kodwa ukuba ungaziva unqwenela uthisha ukuba asebenzisane nawe, qhagamshelana nolawulo lwesikolo uze uzame ukusombulula ingxaki kule nqanaba.
Andiyi ku-kindergarten!
Intombi yam iya kwi-kindergarten. Ukususela ngelo xesha akaqapheliswanga: unengqondo, ulala ngokulala, edla ngokukhala. Uthi "Andifuni ukuya engadini!" Yintoni endiyenzayo?
Imiqondiso ebhalwe kwiibhunga ekukhulisweni kwabantwana abancinci ibonakalisa ukuziphatha komntwana kwindawo yokuxinezeleka. Zama ukutshintsha iqela, i-kindergarten, musa ukuqhubela intombi yakho khona ixesha elide. Kwintsimi kufuneka kubekho isazi sengqondo esinceda ukulungelelanisa nabaqalayo. Tune kwixesha elidlulileyo lomntwana uza kusetshenziselwa umyezo, fumana abahlobo apho.