Fundisa inzala ukuba ibonise ukuthanda okanye ukunganeliseki ngamazwi. Xa umntwana ongathethiyo evakalelwa kukuba abayiqondi, uqala ukuthukuthela. Emva koko uyasetyenziselwa ukungazithembi amagama, ngokukhawuleza ujika kwi shishini. Ukuba unqatshelwe i-hooligan yakho encinane, musa ukumkhusela. Nika abantwana ithuba lokuziqonda. Emva koko uchaze ukuba kutheni iimpawu zakhe zenza ukuba asabele. Iinkcukacha - kwinqaku ngesihloko esithi "Yintoni enokuyenza xa umntwana elwa, chukumisa".
Waphakamisa isandla kunina
Umntwana oneminyaka eli-2 okanye kwiminyaka emibini, ukubetha okanye ukuluma yindlela yokuhlolisisa imo, akukho mbi kunabanye. Akayiqondi into eyenza buhlungu, uzama nje ukuzama: kwenzekani xa ndiluma umama? Ukutshitshiswa? Iphosa ngeenwele? Kubalulekile ukumisa le mizamo ukususela ebusaneni. Indlela abasabela ngayo abantu abadala kwizenzo ezinjalo zabantwana kufuneka babe yinto efanayo. Ukuba umama ukhubekile, utata uthukuthele, kwaye ugogo, ekuphenduleni "i-pranks" ehleka - inkunzi engayiqondi indlela yokuziphatha ngayo. Akukufanelekanga ukukrazula okanye ukukhala ngendlela enjalo, mhlawumbi, uyayilungisa kuphela, kwaye uya kuzama ukufezekisa kwakhona. Kunoko, yeka ukuthetha nomntwana: phenduka, uye kwelinye igumbi. Abantu abadala akufanele banike utshintsho. Ukuba, ekuphenduleni ukuluma, uyaluma, intsana iya kuyigqithisa njenge-blanche ye-card: ukuba umama uyayenza, unako ukuluma.
Enye into yokuba ngumama wokhuphiswano. Yinto enye - xa isithunywa sakho sithukuthelwa ngabanye abantwana. Kona akunakwenzeka ukuba oko kungenzeki phambi kwamehlo akho, umzekelo kwi-kindergarten. Chaza umntwana wakho indlela yokunxibelelana nomlindi. Into elula kukukucebisa ukuba uhlale kude nomqhubi. Fundisa i-crumb yakho ukubonisa abanye abantwana ukuba ezinye zezenzo zabo aziyibi. Ukuba umoni lowo uhlala efana, khuluma nabazali bakhe. Ngamanye amaxesha awaziyo yonke into yokuba umntwana wabo ukwesaba iqela. Thetha nootitshala. Ukulawulwa kweziko leziko lezemfundo lilawulwa ngokomthetho ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo yabantwana. Ngoko ke, ootitshala bayanyanzelekile ukuba banqande umonakalo emdiliya. Ootitshala abalungileyo ngamaqela abaqhelana ngokukhawuleza: abantwana banomlutha kwimidlalo, kwaye xa kukho into enokuyenza, ngokuqhelekileyo akuyi kubakho ukuxabana. Ukungazi kakuhle, kubakho ukuqala ukungaziqondi ukujikeleza kunye nokulimala, ukulwa, ukuthatha amathoyizi. Ukuba iziganeko zobundlobongela kumntwana ziphindaphindiwe, nangona kukho amabango akho, lixesha lokuqhubela phambili kwingxoxo kunye nabasemagunyeni. Ukuba akukho nto inceda, isisombululo esihle kakhulu kukutshintsha iqela okanye i-kindergarten. Ihlazo lokuba nguwe, ilungu elimele, omele ushiye i-battlefield, kodwa kungcono ukususa umntwana kwiimeko ezibuhlungu kunokuba uphathe unyango lwakhe emva koko.
Indlela yokutshixa kakuhle umntwana?
Indlela yokwenza umntwana wakho asebenze njani ekuvinjelweni, kwaye akufunekanga ukuba uthinte isandla esabekwa phantsi ngenxa yokuvuthwa? Yithi "hayi" okanye "yima" ngezwi elizolileyo, eliqinileyo. Ukuba uthobela i-crumb, ungumntu omhle kwaye kufuneka akhuthazwe, kuba oku kubonakaliswa kokuzithiba kwakhe. Qiniseka ukuba udumise ukuyeka, ukuthobela, kwaye kuphela kwisicatshulwa sokugqibela esenza isigqibo sokuba awukwazi ukulwa. Uvakala ngathi: "Seryozha, awukwazi! .. Wenze kakuhle, waphonsa intonga, unina waphulaphula ... Uyazi ukuba awukwazi ukucaphukisa abantwana." Abantwana banememiselo emfutshane, kunye neyure emva kokuba isiganeko singenakunceda ukulungiselela ukuxoxisana, ukugqithisa umloli. Ukuba awukwazi ukuhlwaya ngokukhawuleza, wenqabe isijeziso.
Musa ukufunda ukuziphatha, ungacetyisi ukuba ucinge ngesihloko esithi: "Yaye uya kuthanda ukuba bayakubetha". "Abantwana abancinci, ngenxa yokungakwazi ukucinga ngokucacileyo, abasayiqondi into oyibizayo. Ngamanye amaxesha abaqhubi "bayasihawukela" into ephosakeleyo, becela ukuba isikhalazo sizenzeke ngokuzenzekelayo, kuba umama uyalela - kunye nomzuzu kamva bavuselela kwakhona. Lo mqathango ufanele uhlwaywe, kwaye isijeziso esona sihle kakhulu kulo mzekelo sisodwa. Ngokukhawuleza emva kwempembelelo ngaphandle kwengxoxo engadingekile, thatha okanye uthathe imbuzi kubantwana. Ubude kunye nendlela yokuzihlalisa ixhomekeke kumoya womntwana, ngokukhawuleza kwecala, ngenxa yokuba unenkani inkohlakalo encinci ukuphindaphinda imizamo yakhe. Ukuba namhlanje umama uyaxela ukulwa, kwaye ngengomso ayimthobeli, umntwana uyadideka. Gweba nayiphi na inkcazo yobudlova, ngaphandle kokunye.
Akukuhle ukuphendula amandla ngamandla, wonke umntu uyazi oku. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba umxhaphazi womntwana wakho akaqhagamshelani nawe, okanye nawe, okanye ngabazali bakho? Okanye ubundlobongela bubonakalisa ngokungalindelekanga. Okanye inguwe owokuqala (kunye mhlawumbi owokugqibela) ebomini bakho ukuze ubone ukuxhatshazwa, ngoko akukho xesha lokwakha ubudlelwane, kwaye akukho ndlela yokubaleka? Into enye ihlala - ukufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba anike utshintsho. Kubalulekile ukuchazela umntwana ukuba akulungile ukuthabatha okokuqala, kodwa kufuneka ukwazi ukuphendula ukubetha. Ekhaya, yenza ukuhlaselwa kunye nokuzivikela ngeendima; ukudibanisa, xa kunokwenzeka ukuxazulula ingxabano ngokuthula - ukunika umdlalo kumathoyizi akho, ukunikezela ngendlela yokuguqula - kwaye xa kuyimfuneko ukuzimisela ngokwakho. Makuveze umntwana ukuba awuvumeli ukulwa, kodwa kulo mzekelo unecala. Chaza ngoncedo lomdlalo umehluko phakathi kokuhlaselwa nokukhusela. Ngoku siyazi into enokuyenza xa umntwana elwa, udibanisa.