Iingcali zenzululwazi azizange ziyeke ukwakha iingcamango ezahlukeneyo malunga nokuzalwa kwamawele. Kwimfundiso ye-genetics, iinguqulelo zitsha zongezwa imihla ngemihla. Kukholelwa ukuba ubudala, ukutya kunye nokukhula komama ozayo kuza kuchaphazela ukuzalwa kwamawele. Kuyathakazelisa ukuba ubudlelwane obuphakathi kwamawele buya kulandelwa esibelethweni, oko kuthetha ukuba indlela yemfundo yabo nayo kufuneka isebenze ngexesha elifanelekileyo. Uhlobo lomama weewele ezikhulele njani kwintsapho enye? Yaye ungayichaphazela njani le nkqubo? ..
Amawele onke ngamaxesha ayebhekwa njengabantwana abangaqhelekanga. Ubunqabileyo babo bububungqina bokuthi ukususela ekuzalweni kwabo ulwalamano olukhethekileyo luvela phakathi kwabo. Nsuku zonke, ndijonge kumzalwana okanye udade, njengesibuko, ndingalokothi ndihlukanise umzuzu, abantwana baqala ukuzivakalelwa njengesiqingatha sawo wonke. Bakhula ndawonye, badlala, bafunde omnye komnye, baziphathe ngendlela efanayo, nokuba namava kwaye bazive ngathi. Iingcali zengqondo ziyabona ukuba ngamanye amawele angabona phantse amaphupha afanayo kunye ne-telepathy.
Kodwa, kwenzeka ukuba abazali, banomdla ngombono wobudlelwane obunjalo babantwana, banikezela amawele. Emva koko, isibini esithandekayo asisoze sathukuthela - siya kuvela kunye nomsebenzi othile. Oku kunjalo, nangona kunjalo, ukwenzela ukuba abantwana bafunde ukuphatha ngokuchanekileyo - ukuxabisa inkxaso, ukuqonda, uthando-kwaye ngelo xesha abaxhomekekanga kakhulu, bafuna uncedo kunye neengqalelo zabazali babo. Ewe, ukunikezela ixesha kwisicatshulwa esingapheliyo semicimbi yasemakhaya kwinkqubo yemfundo - umsebenzi awulula. Kwaye kuyimfuneko ukuzama.
Inkambo malunga nomntu ngamnye
Ngamanye amaxesha abazali abakwazi ukuqikelela ukuba amawele awakhulela kwintsapho efanayo axhomekeke njani.
U-Elena, unina wamakhwenkwe amawele, uthi: "Ndaya kusebenza emva kweenyanga ezintandathu emva kokuzalwa kukaAndrew noStean. - Kwakumfuneko ukufumana imali, kwaye ndanyamekela bonke abantwana kumongikazi. Kwakubonakala kum ukuba wayejamelana kakuhle nemfundo yabantwana bam: ngokuphindaphindiwe ngobusuku abafana baqhayisa kum ngeempumelelo zabo. Babonisa imidwebo, bafunde, baxelele iindaba zeengoma, bahlabelela iingoma. Ngelishwa, andizange ndiqwalasele oko uAndrei afunda kwaye undixelele, kodwa ucinga uSteka. Xa sagqiba isigqibo ngaphambi kokuba sibhalise esikolweni ukuba sibhalise kwizifundo zokulungiselela, kwavela ukuba u-Andrei akazange aqonde i-bill yinto yonke, kwaye uStean uyakwazi kuphela ukudibanisa iilayibhile ezivela kulezo zincwadi u-Andryushka wamxelela ngokumangalisayo. Kwafuneka ndiqeshe umntanami omtsha, oye wawasebenzisana ngokuhlukileyo ngokwemfuno zakhe. " Iingcali ziqaphele ukuba ukusasazwa kweendima akuqhelekanga kwiibini ezimbini. Into esebenza kakuhle kumntu ayinayo enye, kuba abantwana basoloko belahlwa. Ngenxa yoko, le mibini ihambelana kakuhle xa amawele ehlangene, kodwa ngamnye wabo unokufumana ubunzima obukhulu. Ukuze ugweme oku, ukususela ebuntwaneni bokuqala, zama ukufaka iifestile ngamnye ukuba uhlakulele umgangatho wazo. Yiba nguwe, kungekhona enye yezo zibini.
Umanyano obini.
Amawele amathandwayo awanqweneli ukuthatha abantu abangaqhelekanga kwi-microcosm yabo ecolile kwaye ekhululekile: ngokwenene, kutheni ufuna abahlobo xa umntu onokuqonda kwaye osondeleyo esondele? Nangona kunjalo, ekukhuleni, amawele aya kufuneka abonisane nabantu abahlukeneyo, kunye neziseko ezisisiseko salonxibelelwano -ukukwazi ukwenza abahlobo, bafune ukuphazamiseka kwaye bagqibe isigwebo-kufuneka bafunde ngokukhawuleza. Ukongezelela, ukunxibelelana nabahlobo kubalulekile ekuphuhliseni ukuzithemba ngokwaneleyo. Emva koko, ngalinye lawa mawele kufuneka libe nenhlonipho "kuphela" kumhlobo wabo wegazi, kodwa nje kuphela umhlobo kumdlalo okanye ukufunda. Ngoko ke, ngokukhawuleza kunokwenzeka, kude kube namawele avaliwe kwintlalo yodwa, zama ukuwazisa kwabanye abantwana. Khuthaza iinzame zomntu wonke zokwenza abahlobo okanye ukumema abahlobo ukuba bameme elinye lamamawele ukutyelela. Kwaye omnye umntwana makachithe ngokuhlwa yonke nawe.
Abazalwana abangabikhoyo
Nangona ikhonkco, kudla ngokubambisana phakathi kwamawele.
"U-Anya noVika, ngokuqhelekileyo banomdla kwaye banokuthobela, ngokukhawuleza baqala ukulungiselela imfazwe yangempela," kusho uSvetlana, unina oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala. Bafungela ngenxa yento encinane: ngubani oya kuhamba ngebhasi kwifestile, ngubani oza kufumana iqhekeza lekhekhe ngeqhekeza le-orange, kunye naye ngaphandle kwelokuhlala edilini lomkhulu. Kwaye emva kokuba benze ihlazo, becinga ukuba yeyiphi i-cherry ngaphezulu kwiiprons zabo. Ndiyesaba nje ngomlingiswa wabo! Andiyazi indlela yokuzivumelanisa. "
Isizathu esivakalayo solu ngquzulwano yinkcenkcesho yobudala kunye nomona. Njengomthetho, amawele athambekele ekufumaneni ukuba ngubani owona mbona ogqwesileyo kunye oyintloko. Kodwa inzondo iya kuba yinto engapheliyo, xa abantwana bebanomdla babelane. Omnye wamawele uya kuthatha isikhundla senkokeli, enye-ikhoboka. Kwaye oku kuqhelekileyo. Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba "ukuhlukana kwezithuba" kwimeko yamawele awakhula kwintsapho enye iyafumaneka kuma-80% amacala. Ngokuqhelekileyo le nto ihambelana nomoya weewele ngalinye, kwaye ayikhokelela ekukhutsheni ezinye iimpawu ezibalulekileyo okanye ekuphuculeni komntu omnye komntu.
Ewe, ngelixa abantwana bebalwa - banomonde. Musa ukuphulaphula iintsuku zemihla ngemihla phakathi kwazo kwaye ungaphazamisi ngaphandle kwesizathu esihle. Kwaye, ke ke, ungakhohlwa ukukhumbuza abantwana ukuba yintoni inhlanhla kuba nomhlobo, umntu oye waba nawe ukususela ekuzalweni, uyakuthanda kwaye uyakuqonda ukuba awunamnye.
Izixhobo zemfundo emibini.
Kukho enye indlela yokufunda ngeengxaki okanye iimfuno zomntwana-ukuthetha naye. Bonisa ingqalelo nganye kweewele (kwaye kungekhona kokubili!).
Amawele afuna iwabo, kuphela ezo zinto. Wonke umntu kufuneka abe nendawo yakhe endlwini, izinto zabo (isikhalazo, itafile, isihlalo, njl.), Zabo iimpahla. Kwaye, ke, ibhokisi yakhe ngamathoyizi yipropati yomntu, angayifumani kunye nommelwane wakhe.
Ncedisa abantwana ukuba bakhe umfanekiso omeleyo ngokwabo. Yiba nomntu wonke abe neenkumbulo zabo, iimvo zabo, amaphupha abo. Ukwenza oku, banokuhlukaniswa okwethutyana: umzekelo, omnye wabo waya kweseksi, kunye nomnye-kumdlalo webhola. Omnye uthatha ngeveki ukuya kumakhulu, kwaye omnye uhlala ekhaya. Unokunikela ukuba ufundele iincwadi ezahlukileyo, uze uxoxe ngezinto nganye ezicingayo ngebali. Kwaye, xa kunjalo, xa uthetha nabantwana, zama ukufundisa kancane kancane ukuba bacinge ukuba akusoloko kufike ngexesha elifanelekileyo umntakwabo angasondela.
I-Gemini, ngokungafani nabazalwana noodade abodwa, banako kwaye bafanele bafaniswe. Kodwa kungekhona ngenjongo yokulungiswa komnye, kodwa ukuphinda ugxininise iimpawu zomntu. Ngokomzekelo, yithi: "U-Masha uphawula kakuhle, kodwa uVika uyakhala ngokugqithiseleyo."
Shayela ngalinye ngeamawele ngegama, kwaye kungekhona nje "abantwana." Ukuba ufuna into yokubuza abantwana, banikeze imisebenzi ethile, apho wonke umntu uya kuziva ukuba uxanduva lwakhe kwaye unokuthi: "Ndenze" - kwaye akunjalo: "Senze." Umzekelo, vumela enye yezingane ukuba iguqule phantsi, enye iyakususa amathoyizi (kwaye kungekhona kunye baya kwenza enye into yokuqala, ibe enye).
INKCAZELO YOMFAKATHI:
Anna CHELNOKOVA, utitshala
Ukuba izinga labantwana labalingani kunye nomlingiswa lifana, kwaye ngelo xesha abazali abavela kwiminyaka yobudala bahlakulela ukuzimela kunye nokuzimela kwamanye amawele, ngoko ke, akukho nto iphosakeleyo kunye nelokuba abantwana baya kufunda kwiqela elilodwa: kuqala kwi-kindergarten, ngoko esikolweni. Mxubushe nje ngutitshala ukuze aqhubeke nekhosi yokuhlukanisa abantwana. Ewe, abantwana abafanele bahlale kwideskiti enye, benze umsebenzi omnye kwiibini kunye nokuphindaphindilana kwiziganeko. Kodwa ukuba amawele axhomekeke kakhulu kumnye okanye omnye wabantwana ungumkhokeli ocacileyo, kanti enye iyanqabile ngokupheleleyo kuye, kuyacaca ukuba ucinge ngecandelo. Oku kuya kuba luncedo kumkhokeli kunye ne-wingman. Umntwana- "ophantsi" uya kuba yedwa ozimeleyo (emva koko, umntu ohamba phambili ude kude, akukho mntu unethemba, kufuneka senze izinto ngokwazo). Inkokeli yengane iyayeka ukunyanzela udade okanye umzalwana wayo, ufunde ukunyamezela abanye (akulula ukukhokela abanye njengamawele akhe). Ngexesha elifanayo, kufuneka likhunjulwe ingqalelo ukuba ukuhlukana kwamanye amawele ngamabini kunokuba ngumxinzelelo kubo kwaye banefuthe elibi kulo lonke uphuhliso lomntwana. Ngoko ke, musa ukwahlula abantwana ixesha elide. Iiyure ezimbalwa ngosuku kubafundi basesikolweni kunye nesiqingatha semini kubafundi besikolo banokwanele ukuba amawele azibonele njengabantu ngabanye kwaye anethuba lokuthetha nabanye.