Abazali abaninzi bacinga ukuba "ukuxhatshazwa kwengane" kubandlululo, kwaye oku akuyi kubachaphazela umntwana wabo. Kodwa kholwani mna, oku ku malunga nawe, kwaye oku akukwenzeka nje kuwe. Mhlawumbi wazibonela ukuba wenza amanqaku kumntwana wakho kungekhona ngenxa yokuba awukhululekile ngokuziphatha kwakhe, kodwa kuba abantu abakujikelezayo babonakala bengavumiyo kwaye bacinga ukuba umntwana wakho uyagula.
Unokukunceda njani umntwana ukuba asinde iminyaka engama-3
Umntwana ngamnye uhlukile kwiindlela zakhe. Umntwana womntu oneminyaka engama-3 ubudala uya kuba engaqondakali, kufana nokuba "utshintshile", kwaye omnye wabazali ekuziphatheni komntwana akabonanga nto ekhethekileyo. Eli lixesha lokutshintsha, xa iqela elitsha liqala ebomini bomntwana kunye nabazali bakhe abafuna ukucinga kwakhona ngengqondo yabo kumntwana.
Ngethuba lokukhulelwa, umntwana uxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kumama, uyamkela kunina yonke into ayifunayo ubomi, ukutya, ukuphefumla. Emva kweenyanga ezili-9, uzalelwe ekukhanyeni aze ahlukane nonina, umntwana uya kuba ngumntu. Kodwa umntwana akakwazi ukwenza ngaphandle komama okwamanje.
Kancinci uhlakulela ukuzimela komntwana kwaye xa umnqweno womntwana wokuzimela kunye nokungaqondi kwakhe ngabazali uba ngumngcipheko omkhulu. Ngamanye amaxesha kulungele ukuba umama enze okuthile kumntwana, umzekelo, ukutya, ukugqoka, njalonjalo, ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa umntwana ufuna ukwenza konke ngokwakhe. Yaye ukuba umntwana engacingi ukuba iminqweno kunye nezimvo zakhe ziyahlonishwa, oko kuthethwa ngaye, uqala ukumbhikisha ngobudlelwane obudlulileyo. Ubudlelwane nomntwana ngenxalenye yabazali kufuneka kusekelwe kwimonde nokuhlonipha.
Impawu yentlekele yeminyaka emithathu
KwiNegativism
Umntwana uphendula kwisicelo okanye isicelo somntu omdala. Wenza okuchaseneyo, kwaye okuchasene noko umntwana akutshoyo.
Ukungavumi
Umntwana ugxininisa kwinto ethile kuba ufuna ukuqwalaselwa ngombono wakhe. Umntwana onenkani uyakwazi ukugxininisa ngokwakhe, ngoko, wayenqwenela ukuba agula okanye akafuni okanye akafuni.
Ubunzima
Umntwana akanelisekanga ngayo yonke into, abanye bayayenza kwaye banikezele kwaye bafune iminqweno yabo. Impendulo eqhelekileyo kula maxesha kukuba "Hayi!". Ngethuba leengxaki, ukunyuka kwamandla okuzimela kukukhokelela ekuthandeni, okubangela ukuba kubekho ukuxabana nabantu abadala. Ingxabano yabantwana kunye nabazali babo bahlala rhoqo, kubonakala bebalwe imfazwe. Umntwana uqala ukusebenzisa amandla phezu kwabanye, utsho ukuba unina unokushiya ekhaya, ukuba uya kudla okanye angabi.
Ukuhla kwexabiso
Umntwana oneminyaka engama-3 unokugqithisa okanye alahle i-toy oyintandokazi, awayeyifumanekanga ngexesha, uqala ukufunga, ngoko imigaqo yokuziphatha ihlaziywa. Emehlweni omntwana, ixabiso ebelixabisa kakhulu, inomdla kunye nolwazileyo kuye linciphisa.
Ingakumbi umntwana uya kuba nezenzo ezizimeleyo, iimpazamo ezininzi kunye nempumelelo eya kuyenza, ngokukhawuleza le nkathazo iya kwenzeka kwaye uya kufunda ukusebenzisana nabantu. Umntwana uza kutshatyalaliswa kamva okanye kamva, kwaye ukuba wathola ngaphantsi kwexesha elifanelekileyo, uya kuzalisa emva kwexesha elizayo. Ngamandla abazali ukuba bangalulali le ngxaki kwiminyaka emininzi kunye nexesha lokuqonda iimfuno zomntwana.
Ukususela kwindlela oya kuziphatha ngayo naye ngexesha leengxaki, kuya kuxhomekeka ekubeni umntwana uya kuqhubeka nokuzama ukuzimela, nokuba uya kugcina umsebenzi wakhe, nokuba umntwana wakho uya kuqhubeka ekufezekiseni injongo, okanye uya kuphuka aze abe ngumlwelwe kunciphisa ukuzithemba, ukungafuni ukuthobeka nokuthobela ukuthobela.
Umntwana kufuneka afunde ukuthetha kunye noontanga, kwaye ukuba ngeli xesha angayi kwi-kindergarten, kufuneka ucinge ukuba uza kuthetha nobani bakhe ontanga. I-kindergarten inokutshintshwa ngamacandelo okuphuhlisa okuqala kunye neeklabhu zabantwana. Into ephambili ngoku iya kuba ngabaontanga, apho umntwana kufuneka afunde indlela yokuthetha kunye nokuba ngumhlobo.