Intukuthelo iyenzeka ebomini babo bonke abantu. Kunzima kakhulu ukufumana umntu ongeke abambe umntu okhubekileyo. Ngokudla kaninzi bazama ukuthulula izikhalazo zabo kwiinkcazo kunye neentsapho zabo, kodwa nangaphezulu kwendebe yekhofi kunye nabahlobo. Kakade, ukukrazula izikhalazo akunakwenzeka. Nangona unako ukulahla inzondo eyadalayo kwaye awuyikuqokelela into entsha. Wonke umntu uya kuthi izikhalazo zihlukeneyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo uva iibinzana ezinjengale: "Ndandilimala kakhulu okanye kum ncinane waphoswa. " Ngamazwi athetha ngengozi angenayo injongo, angakhubekisa umntu iminyaka emininzi. Nangona ibinzana elithethwa ngumntwana omncinci lingalimaza umntu.
Ngokomzekelo, kwiimeko ezininzi, abanye abanakho ukunyamekela amagama angatshoyo, kwaye abanye bangalimaza ngokuphila. Kutheni le ndlela ikhoyo? Ukuba kukho, ngoko kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba kuyadingeka. Kutheni le ndlela ifunekayo? Uvakalelo lwenkanuko luhlungu ngenxa ye-ego. Kuba umntu ofuna ukuphucula ngokwabo, ukuhlambalaza yi-barometer yekhonkrithi, ukucacisa amacala "athathaka". Wonke umntu unokukhubekisa okanye akhubeke nje. Ngokomzekelo, unokukhubekisa amagama malunga nendlela "ukufumana okufutshane" okanye ummelwane onetalente. Wonke umntu unemizila emininzi yecala. Bakhawuleza bakhuphe xa bebuhlungu. Kuyimfuneko nokuba kucacise ukuba umntu othetha la mazwi ucinga ukuba unokucaphukisa okanye akunjalo. Mhlawumbi lo mntu akafuni ukucaphukisa nokuphanga umoya.
Vala abantu, izalamane, abahlobo bayazi malunga neendawo ezisengozini. Kwixesha la mandulo bathi: "Yonke inetyhefu, njengoko yonke into ingaba yonyango." Ewe, zonke ezi zinto zinokubangela ukucaphuka, kwakhona. Kwimeko apho uvumela ulwaphulo ukuba lukhule, yenza "indiza yeendlovu", ngoko umthetho uya kuba yityhefu, kwaye ukuba uyicinga ukuhlambalaza nje ngamazwi nje, ingaba yonyango. Ukuba ulwaphulo-mthetho luhleli kumntu ukususela ebuntwaneni, ngoko kuya kufakelwa kwintsebenziswano nomyeni, kunye nabazali, kunye nabasebenzi emsebenzini. Xa bebona ubuso obusondeleyo, baya kufuna ukukunceda baze bavele bebuthathaka. Abafazi balolu hlobo baya kumgqirha-wengqondo kwengqesho kwiminyaka emininzi, xelela indlela abangaqondwa ngayo ngabanye. Nangona kunjalo, bona ngokwabo abaqondi ukuba lo mfanekiso ukhethwe ngaphambili ngabo. Ngaloo mntu akwaziyo ukuba aphile ngenye indlela. Kule nto zonke iingxaki ziqala. Abantu baqala ukuqonda ukuba lo mfanekiso uyindawo efanelekileyo kakhulu. Yonke imfesane yabo iphela ngokukhawuleza.
Ngokomzekelo, ekuqaleni komtshato womtshato, imilomo yokubhokoxa ibonakala iyintlekisayo kakhulu, kodwa lo mdlalo unomsindo omncinci. Xa umntu eyeka ukuxolisa. Kwaye abo bantu abangathinteli, kodwa bazenza nje, ekugqibeleni bayeke ukukholelwa. Kwaye xa kunjalo xa bafuna inkxaso, abayifumani. Bonke abantu baneenyaniso zabo kunye nentukuthelo. Izibhengezo kaninzi azibe zikholo ezilungileyo: umzekelo, cinga ukuba bonke abantu banjengabo, kwaye ukuba akunjalo , akusoloko beyinqaba. Bacinga ukuba wonke umntu kunzima ukuwaqonda, njengokuba ngokwawo . Yaye ukuba uyayiqonda, kufuneka uyixhase. Ukuba abafuni ukuxhasa, banokucinga ukuba bacaphukile. Awukwazi ukulindela abantu ukuba bafunde iingqondo. Omnye makacinge ukuba amagama abantu avela kwiminqweno yakhe, izicwangciso kwaye akazange acinge ngokukhubekisa nabani na. Awudingi ukuqokelela izikhalazo, kodwa ufuna iindlela zokuthetha. Kukho uhlobo lweenhlamba ezilula ukulibala. Kukho izikhalazo endala, ngakumbi xa ziphathwa zizihlobo okanye abahlobo, zivame ukuvela engqondweni. Le meko inokuthi yenzeke ixesha elidlulileyo, nangona umoni obenakho ukulungiswa, kodwa khumbula. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo abantu bayakhumbula ukuzisola ixesha elide kunezinto ezithandekayo. Kwaye, ke, asikhumbuli nje kuphela ezi zikhalazo, kodwa ngeli thuba, sizama ukukhumbuza umoni.
Intukuthelo yimeko yesimo sengqondo. Imvakalelo efihliweyo kuyo. Abantu abaqokelela izikhalazo kwiminyaka baxhomekeke kuyo ngokupheleleyo . Ukuhlambalaza kwahlula kwiingxenye ezi-2: zengqondo kunye neengqiqo. Intukuthelo yeemvakalelo ayivumeli ukuba iphile, yonke ixesha umphefumlo ugcwele imizwa enzima, ayinakuvuyisa. Kukho konke oku kufuneka ukhiphe, ukuhlala kakuhle. Kwaye inxalenye engqiqweni yokuhlambalaza yinto yamava ngokwazo. Olu hlobo lokuthuka lubonisa indlela yokusebenza kwimeko efanayo. Ukuba uxolela ukuhlambalaza, inxalenye yezimvo zidlulayo, oko kukuthi, umntu xa ekhumbula imeko yokuphila ayinikwayo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuhlambalaza okunengqiqo kuhlala ngonaphakade. Ngokuqhelekileyo bathi: "Uxolele, kodwa awuzange ulibale." Ewe, akukho mntu ukhohlwe nayiphi na ityala.
Nabani na onokuncedwa ukuba alwe necala. Kubalulekile ukuqwalasela ukuba kutheni uhlale usesikweni. Kufuneka ukhunjulwe ukuba umntu unokuhlaselwa kanye kuphela. Ukuba abantu bakhumbula isigwebo, bahamba nabo ngokupheleleyo. Unokulwa nenxalenye yesimo sengqondo yengqondo. Kuya kuthatha imizuzu engaphantsi kwe-30 kwaye kufuneka ube yedwa. Kufuneka uthabathe ucoceko kwaye ukhulule, nokuba unako ukuvala amehlo akho. Emva koko khumbula isiphambeko, okwakunenkohlakalo kakhulu. Ingcamango encinane, apho inxalenye yomzimba inomsindo kwaye uphendule imibuzo ethile. Ngokomzekelo, yintoni ubungakanani becala, yintoni ukushisa, yintoni ekufuneka uyenze. Kwaye emva koko konke oku kufuneka uqikelele uluhlobo luni lokukhwabanisa. Kakade, lo msebenzi kufuneka wenziwe ngamaxesha amaninzi ukwenzela ukuba ulwaphulo-mthetho luyeka ukuhlushwa. Le ndlela ingasetyenziselwa ukulwa nazo zonke iimvakalelo ezimbi.
Ngoku uyazi ukuba inxaxheba yenzalo yabantwana iyayidlala kunye nendlela yokunceda abantwana balwe necala.