Abaninzi abafazi bayaqiniseka ukuba kuphela i-oligarch ingabangela ukuba bayonwabe. Ukuba akunjalo i-oligarch, ngoko ubuncinane umnini okanye umlawuli wenkampani ethile. Abanye bakholelwa ukuba ama-oligarchs akwanele kuwo wonke umntu, kwaye baya kuba namadoda aneleyo kunye neendawo zabo zokuhlala kunye nomvuzo ohloniphekileyo, okanye omnye onokubanceda ekwakheni umsebenzi. Ukushiya eceleni imilinganiselo yokuziphatha (wonke umntu uyaqonda ukuba safundiswa ebuntwaneni kungekhona kulo, kodwa ekubeni loo ntokazi inqume ukutshata ngokubala, naye wagqiba isigqibo sokuziphatha komcimbi ngokwakhe), siya kuqwalasela umonakalo kunye neengxaki zomtshato ngokubala: ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba ulindelo lomfazi ongena kumtshato onjalo, alufezeki.
Inzuzo engathandabuzekiyo yomtshato ngokubalwa kukuba umfazi akaphoswanga yimvakalelo, oko kuthetha ukuba unokuyivavanya okhethiweyo wakhe, uqonde oko akunikeleyo, kunye noko akulungele ukunikela ngokubuyisela.
Kodwa ngokubakho ukubalwa ngamanye amaxesha akunakulungiswa. Ngokomzekelo, ibhinqa litshata ngenxa yendlu, kwaye kuphela (kwaye kakuhle, ukuba ingekho emva komtshato) ifumanisa ukuba indawo yokuhlala kulo mntu ayiyona yakhe, kodwa ingowesinye sezihlobo zakhe. Okomnye, umzekelo, ukutshata umntu osisityebi kodwa umdala ngenxa yelifa, umfazi akanakho ukukrokra ukuba unentsapho yakhe yokuqala emtshatweni, kwaye baya kufumana ubuninzi bepropati. Kule meko, iingxabano "ngokuchasene" nomtshato ngokubala ziphezulu ngaphezu kweengxoxo "ngokuba".
Ukongezelela, umntu unokunyenga nje. Nantsi ubona imoto ebiza kwaye indoda ephuma kuyo kwimeko ehle kwaye ebiza, eyabonakala ingumlawuli wequmrhu kwaye inomdla ngokucacileyo kuwe. Kwaye emva kwexesha elide uvuma ukuba nguye nje umqhubi womlawuli, kodwa wayefuna ukunqwenela.
Kwaye ukuba uthe wadibana nomntu onokufumana umtshato olungeleyo, ekuhambeni kwexesha kunokuthi ukuhlala naye akunjalo. Unako ukukukhathalela ngokupheleleyo, ngelixa uhleli eofisini ngexesha lokusebenza kwakhe, kwaye uchitha ixesha lakhe lokukhulula kunye nabahlobo, kunye nokuziphatha okungathandabuzekiyo kwamantombazana, ekuboneni nje ngokuba unina wabantwana bakhe, kwaye ngakumbi, njengento ayithengileyo. Mhlawumbi uya kuba nomona ngawe kunye neelposts (xa useneminyaka encinci kwaye enhle, kwaye akasekho mhle kwaye uyaziqonda ngokuthe tye), mhlawumbi yena, nangona ecebile, kodwa enesifo esibuhlungu kwaye uya kufuna ukuba ubike yonke ipensenti echithe.
Ngoko, ukungena emtshatweni wokulungelelanisa, "ngokuba" kunye "nokuchasene" kufuneka ulinganiswe ngokucophelela. Ukongeza kwinto yokuba loo mntu ngokwakhe ukhuluma ngaye, ukuze ugweme ukukhohlisa, kufuneka uqokelele ulwazi oluninzi malunga naye kwezinye izandla. Kwakhona kufanelekile ukuba wazi ngaphambili malunga nomlingani weqabane elizayo. Nangona ngoku ucinga ukuba ngenxa yezinto eziphathekayo eziphathekayo zilungele kwaye zinyamezeleke, uhlobo lwayo luya kuhlazeka ukuba awuyi kufuna imali okanye indlu. Ukongezelela, kukufanelekile ukuzama ukufumana kumntu wakhe ubuninzi njengoko kunokwenzeka, kwaye uqinisekise ukuba umhle kuye, kwaye ukuba uthathe wena njengomfazi wakhe, kwaye akayithengi. Kule meko, iingxabano "zomtshato" ekubaleni ziba zikhulu kunokuba zichasane "kunye", kwaye lo mtshato unethemba. Kwaye emva kwexesha - ngubani owaziyo-mhlawumbi uya kuthandana.