Yintoni abantu abangayithandiyo kwiintsapho zobudlelwane

Umtshato wendoda yoshishino elinenzuzo. Kwaye nangona amadoda amaninzi athi awanandaba nomtshato, amanani abonisa ukuba amadoda asetshatileyo ahlala ixesha elide kwaye alala ngesondo rhoqo, kwaye afa ngokuncinane kangako.

Indoda, emva kweminyaka engamashumi amahlanu, ihlukanisa okanye ilahlekelwe ngumfazi wayo, inamathuba amakhulu okuba kungekudala igule kwaye ife ngaphezu kohlobo olutshatileyo. Ukongezelela, ngokweengxelo, amadoda asetshatileyo ayenokukwazi ukulala ngesibalo nabafundi. Kubonakala nje ukuba indoda engenawo umfazi inokuhamba kwaye ilulalele umfokazi ngomhla wokuthandana. Njengoko uphando lubonisa, malunga nama-20% amadoda angatshatanga awanakulala ngesondo, ngoxa abahlobo babo abatshatileyo bangena kule meko kuphela kwi-3% yamatyala.

Iingqungquthela zengqondo zithi amadoda ahlawula umtshato ithuba lokulala ngesondo. Kwaye a mabhinqa ahlawula ngesondo ngokufumana ithuba lokuba nesitampu kwi-passport yabo. Kukho inani elithile le nyaniso kule nto. Enye yezona zinto zixhaphake kakhulu umntu ukuba atshate ukufumana ukulala ngesondo kunye nokungenakukukhuseleka kunye nomlingane othanda naye embhedeni. Hayi, ngokuqhelekileyo la maphupha aphukile malunga nobomi kwiminyaka yokuqala yomtshato. Kukho izizathu ezininzi. Okokuqala, abafazi abatshatanga ngesondo, kwaye bayothuka kukuba umyeni wakhe ubonisa kakhulu. Okwesibini, akusiko isiko lokuthetha ngekamva lezesondo ngomtshato ngaphambili.

Akumangalisi ukuba ngokukhawuleza umntu uqala ukuqonda into engenayo ubudlelwane beentsapho. Amadoda ayithandi ukukhanyela, nangona i-comic, yothando kunye nokuvuselela ukubuza kwakhona. Kwaye azinakulungele ukubeka umgudu omkhulu rhoqo ukuba alalane nomfazi wakhe. Ngoko ukuba ubomi bobulili bomtshato abuvumelananga, kunokukhawuleza emva koko kungabikho ukungadibanisi kulwalamano.

Konke oku kuchaziwe ngasentla ngabazithuba zenzululwazi ezifumaneka kubambalwa. Into ephambili yokuxhamla ubomi ... loo madoda atshatileyo ahlala ekhwele abaxhamli. Amadoda ngokubanzi isithembu ngaphezu kwabasetyhini, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha afuna ukuhlukahluka. Isidingo sokuhlala sithembekile kumadoda athile sibonakala siwumthwalo onzima. Emva komtshato, amadoda ngokukhawuleza azibale ngokutya okubandayo okudliwayo okudliwayo kunye neentlonelo ezihlazo kwimibutho, libale ngemigudu abayifunayo ukuba bafezekise ngesondo. Kwaye bacinga ukuba bayaphoswa ulwandle lwamathuba okufumana umfazi obalaseleyo, onobuqili, obhekile. Oku kunjalo ngokukodwa kubantu abangazange batshatile ngenxa yothando okanye uthando lwabo ngomfazi wabo lungenanto. Ngoko ungamthandi umntu womhlobo oluthile lomtshato kuphela ngenxa yokuba kufuneka uthembeke kwenye, kwaye kungekho rhoqo kumfazi othandekayo.

Abaninzi abasetyhini baxhaphaza umntu omthandayo ngemibuzo ephuma kwinqanaba: "Ngaba undithanda?" Bacela ukuba baphinde baphinde, kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo kunye neemeko. Yintoni abantu abangayithandiyo kwiintsapho zobudlelwane bentsapho kuyimfuneko yokuthetha kakhulu ngeemvakalelo, ukuxoxa ngazo. Inyaniso yokuba amadoda ngokugqithisileyo aguqulela iimvakalelo ngamazwi. Ukongezelela, bahlala becinga ukunyuka kwentando ye testosterone, ekhoyo ngexesha lokukhanga. Kwaye ngenxa yesi sizathu, ukungaqondani okukhulu kunokuvela kwiintlalontle zentsapho. Emva koko, ngokuphindaphindiweyo kumbuzo wokuba uyayithanda, umntu uyasabela ngokuwa phantsi kweengcamango ezinzulu. Impendulo kuyo, ngokuqinisekileyo, ayinakuyithandwa ngumfazi. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba umntu kulula kakhulu ukwahlula kwingqondo yakhe uthando lolwabelana ngesondo, unako iminyaka engagcinanga ubudlelwane nothando, kodwa umlingane onqwenelekayo. Kodwa ukuba bayaqonda ukuba akukho uthando, banokuhamba. Kungenxa yesi sizathu ukuba kungcono ukuba ungabuzi imibuzo malunga nothando kumadoda kaninzi.

Umbuzo ochaphazelekayo ngokumalunga namadoda ngumbuzo wokuba uthatha umfazi wakhe ukhuluphele okanye ude kakhulu. Ukuba umfazi unenkxalabo malunga nokubonakala kwakhe, kufuneka afunde ngokungathandabuzeki into endiyithandayo yintsapho. Emva kokuba aqonde izinto ezisiseko zeengqondo zengqumbo, uya kuchitha ixesha elide ezama ukubuza umntu malunga nobukhulu besikhumba sakhe okanye okhalweni. Inyaniso yokuba indoda efuna kwaye ithande ibhinqa, iyicinga ukuba yinto enhle kakhulu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kubonakala njani kwabanye. Kwaye ngokungafaniyo: ukuba iimvakalelo zidityaniswe kwaye iminqweno iswelekile, indoda "ye-Miss World" iza kuqala ukubonakala njenge-club-foot Baba Yaga. Ngoko kungcono ukuba ungathuthuzi umyeni wakho ngemibuzo malunga neenguqu kwimbonakalo yakho. Kubi nakakhulu kunokucela imihla ngemihla ukuba uyakuthanda. Ngokulula ukuba umyeni wakho ngokukhawuleza waqala ukukhahlela ngaphandle, kuyisithuba sokuthatha imiba yokuphucula ubudlelwane bezesondo okanye usebenze ekuphuculeni isimo sengqondo kwintsapho. Kwaye emva koko, ngaphezu koko, ungabhalisa kwiklabhu yokuzivocavoca, hamba ukutya okanye utshintshe iinwele zakho. Kwaye kufuneka wenze oku ngaphandle kwemibuzo engadingekile, ugxininise ekuphenduleni ngokubanzi kwendoda kwizinto ezibonakalayo.

Ngokubanzi, akukho mithetho yendalo yonke evumela ukuba ukwazi ukuba yintoni amadoda angayithandiyo kwiintsapho zobudlelwane. Kwaye kwikho konke oku ngasentla, umntu wakho akanako ukulingana nomgangatho oqhelekileyo. Unako ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza ngamawaka ngamawaka amagama athi "Ndiyakuthanda". Kwaye unokuvuyela ngokugqithiseleyo i-wardrobe yakho okanye umbala weenwele. Ngoko ukufezekisa ukuvisisana nolwalamano nomyeni wakhe, zama ukujonga umntu wakho ngaphezu kokufunda iincwadi ezihlakaniphile. Ukuba unomdla kubuntu bakhe, imibuzo malunga nezinto abantu abangazithandi nonke ingaba yinto engabalulekanga ngokupheleleyo kuwe.