Kodwa, apha, bonani rhoqo engqondweni.
Amadoda ngokubanzi njengabantwana, bathanda ukujonga imifanekiso emihle. Yaye ukuba le nto mbazana iyayikhathalela, yinto emangalisayo. Intombazana enhle, ehlambulukileyo iya kuhlala iphakathi kwengqwalasela yeembono zabantu.
Kodwa ukuphikisa ukuba ukubonakala komntu yinto ebalulekileyo ebomini ayicebisi. Inyaniso yokuba xa udibana nomntu ubeka ingqwalasela ekuqaleni kwindlela intombazana ebonakala ngayo - yinyaniso. Kodwa, ngaphezu kweembonakalo, ukuba indoda ibaluleke kakhulu ukuba intombazana leyo iyinto yokungaqiniseki. Ukuba le ntombazana inhle kakhulu kuneNaomi uKembel, kwaye ihlala ngexesha elifanayo ukuba libonakala lifana nomntu oyintloko wechungechunge oludumile lwe-TV "Ungazalwanga mhle," ngoko intombazana enjalo iya kugwenywa ngumntu. Le ndoda ayinakuyithobela ingqalelo, kuphela ngenxa yokuba yinkimbinkimbi kwaye amehlo akhe akafundeli ukuzithemba kobuhle bayo namandla. Kodwa, ngokuqhelekileyo kufuneka uqaphele ukuba intombazana engenawo umfanekiso omhle okanye ubuso obuhle, ibuthela umkhosi wabantu abathandayo. Kwaye kutheni? Kwaye konke ngenxa yokuba uyaqiniseka ukuba akanakulinganiswa kwaye njengowesibini kwaye akanako. Ukuzibonakalisa ukuzibonakalisa kuyinto enamandla eyenza ukuqhuma kwenyukliya.
Yintoni elandelayo apha? Ukuba ukubonakala komntu akuyona into ephambili, inokwenzeka. Into ephambili kukuba kukho intembeko kwintombazana kunye nokubonakala kwayo kucocekileyo. Nayiphi na intombazana inokuguqulwa ibe yinto enhle, i-pokoldovav encinci phezu kokubonakala kwayo-intle enhle, intsebenzo encinci kunye nokumomotheka ebusweni bayo - isisona esibalulekileyo sowesifazane ekulweni namadoda.
Kwaye makhe sihlalutye yonke imeko ukususela nakuye. Umzuzu wendibano yokuqala: umntu ubeka ingqwalasela ekuqaleni kwintombazana. Uyakhangwa ngendlela aphethe ngayo, indlela ekhangeleka ngayo, umfanekiso wakhe, ukumomotheka kwakhe, njalonjalo. Emva koko, ngokukhawuleza xa eqokelela onke amandla akhe enqabeni, kwaye uya kuziqhelanisa, intetho iya kuqala phakathi kwabo. Kulo mzuzwana, loo ndoda iya kuphulaphula ngokungafani noko akubonayo ngamehlo akhe. Uya kugxininisa ngakumbi ukuhamba, isiqulatho sezwi, ukujonga. Uya kuliphulaphula intombazana. Kulo mzuzwana, njengoko uqonda, ukubonakala kwakho kuya kuvela kwimvelaphi. Ekuqaleni, ukuzithemba kwakho kuya kuphuma.
Yaye yintoni elandelayo? Ukuba indoda ivele yenzeke ngokubonakala kwakho, kodwa ihlabathi lakho langaphakathi awunomdla kuye nayiphi indlela, ke ungalindelanga ubuhlobo obude. Imbonakalo enhle ayinakwenzeka ukuba igcine indoda ede eceleni kwayo.
Enyanisweni, ukubonakala kubaluleke kakhulu. Indoda iya kuba nawe kungakhathaliseki ukuba ukhangeleka njenge-Miss Universe okanye intombazana eqhelekileyo. Ukuba unako ukungena entliziyweni yakhe kwaye uyamdla, ngoko unokuqiniseka ukuba uya kukuphatha ngokukodwa.
Xa umntu ethanda, uyakuthanda nangayiphi na indlela nasiphi na isimo sengqondo. Uya kuvuyisa ukuvuka nawe ekuseni kwaye ujonge ubuso bakho obuthongo. Uya kuba mnandi kuye, nangona udibana naye ngokuhlwa emva kokusebenza ngeempuphu zasekhaya kunye ne-slippers ezihlekisayo.
Amantombazana, kubalulekile ukuba sikhumbule ukuba ukubonakala kwethu kuyisixhobo esihle kuphela ukutsala ingqalelo yomntu. Kodwa, ubuhle bakho abuyi kuba namandla xa umntu engenomdla wokuhlala kunye nawe ngokuhlwa phambi kweTV. Siphila kwihlabathi lenene, apho, mbulela uThixo, iimpawu zomntu zangempela zisabaluleka, kwaye azibonakali kakuhle.