Masibhengeze iimfihlelo zesondlo esihle somntwana kunye.
Into yokuqala ofuna ukuyiqonda yindlela yokutya iimvumba. Akukho zincinci, kufuneka ube nento yonke phantsi kwengqalelo yakho: umgangatho wokutya, inani lokutya, ixesha lokutya.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba imfashini ngoku ingazange isondle ngokukhululekileyo, kulungile kuphela ekusaneni, xa umntwana elula ngakumbi kunokuba umama uyazi xa efuna ukulala, kwaye xa-ukutya. Ukususela esemncinci, zama ukusungula ukutya, kuba wonke umntu uyazi ukuba ukutya ngexesha elifanayo kuvelisa i-reflexary reflex: ijusi yesisu kunye nommatha uqala ukuvela, kwaye ivakalelwa yindlala. Ukuba umzimba wethu usebenza njengewashi, kungcono ukulungelelanisa kuwo, ngoko akuyi kuba neengxaki zokutya kwaye umntwana uya kuhlala enesidlo esikhulu, oko kuthetha ukuba yonke into oyiphathekayo iya kuxoxwa kuzo zombini izihlathi.
Iingxenye zokutya kufuneka zifakwe ngokuqhelekileyo. Uyazi ngokucacileyo ukuba udla kangakanani umntwana wakho, ngoko ungammisi ukuba adle ngaphezu kokuba angadla. Oku kunokubangela ukugatya kokutya kwikamva. Mbeke ngakumbi ukutya xa ekubuza yona ngokwakhe. Ukuba ubeka isahlulo esiqhelekileyo somntwana kumntwana, kodwa wenqaba ukuyidla, ungagxininisi kwaye ungamphoqeleli ukuba adle ngokunyanzela, ukuze inkunzi yenqabe ingadli. Umntwana unokhetho lwakhe, oko kutheni enye isidlo sinokudliwa kunye nezongezo, kwaye enye ingashiywa ngokupheleleyo. Unomama onolwazi uyazilungiselela ukulungiselela umkhiqizo ongeyithandi umntwana kangangokuba uya kucela izibonelelo. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka ube nolwazi olungakumbi ngeemfihlelo "zokutya zamama". Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntwana akafuni ukutya i-cottage shizi, umpheke i-cottage cheese casserole kunye neerinki. Ehle kakhulu kwaye ayiluncedo ngaphantsi!
Yenza umgaqo ngaphambi kokutya ukwenza "okufanayo": ukuhlamba izibambiso, ukubeka iipronsi, unqwenela ukuba wonke umntu "abe nesidlo esinomdla." Iimfundiso ezinjalo zifana nokubeka umntwana kwisondlo esifanelekileyo kunye nokutya ukutya.
Xa umntwana edla, akukho nto imele imphazamise ukutya. Kuya kuba ngcono xa umntwana edla rhoqo kwindawo enye, makabe neyakhe indawo etafileni. Musa ukuvula iTV kunye nerediyo. Ungamphazamisi ngokuthetha kwaye ungathethi nabani na ukuba umntwana angadli. Vumela ukususela esemncinci uyaqonda ukuba "xa ndiyidla, andisithulu kwaye ndisisithulu!".
Nciphisa kanye kunye nonke ukuba ningadliyo phakathi kokutya. Ukutya, ngokukodwa kwimimandla eyomileyo, kukuchaphazela kakubi ukutyalwa kwengane. Abazali abaninzi phakathi kokutya banika umntwana ukuba adle inani elikhulu lekesee, iiskese kunye nekiki, uze umkhalazele ukuba umntwana usitya ngokutya "okuqhelekileyo" ukutya. Ukunciphisa ukusetyenziswa komntwana wakho. Iidandi kunye nekiki kufuneka zihlale zihlala kwindawo apho umntwana engakwazi ukuzifumana khona. Ukuba umntwana uyakhononda ukuba ulambile, kwaye ngaphambi kokuba isidlo sakusihlwa sisekude, unokwenza isaladi yesithelo, okanye nje unike i-apula okanye ibhanana.
Ukuba intsana ayinakuthatha umdla omkhulu ebuntwaneni kunye nemveliso enobungozi njengama-chips, ama-croutons kunye ne-soda, musa ukuwubeka umzekelo ombi kwaye ungawasebenzisi.