Kulo lonke ihlabathi, kukho isithethe sokuthatha abantwana abashiyekileyo ngaphandle kokunyamekelwa kwabazali kwintsapho. Ngaba akusixesha lokuba sihlolisise nembono yethu kule ngxaki?
Inyathelo 1. Ukwenza isigqibo.
Ukuba ngumama noba ngumsebenzi onoxanduva. Kwaye kuba ngabazali bokwenene kumntwana womnye umntu udla ngokuba ngumdlali. Akuyena wonke umntu onokukwazi oku, kodwa, ngokwenene, abo banokujamelana nomsebenzi onzima kangaka, kunokuba sinokucinga. Qinisekisa ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukuthatha umntwana womnye umntu kwintsapho yakho, ngaba uyakwazi ukuba yintsapho, umntu osondeleyo, kungekhona nje umfundisi?
Musa ukumthabatha umntwana, ukuba izenzo zakho zikhokelwa kuphela ngesihawu. Ngaloo mvakalelo wothando lwenene awunakuyakha, emva kokuba zonke iintlungu zidlula ngokukhawuleza, xa umntwana ebonakala kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo zendlu. Cinga ngamaxesha amaninzi ukuba ulungele iingxaki ezinokwenzeka, ngaba uya kuba nomonde okwaneleyo kunye namandla ukuze unike lo mntwana kangangoko unokunika umntwana wakho.
Isisombululo esona sisisombululo sokuqala kubonisana nengcali yengqondo. Ingcali iza kunceda ukuba uqonde ukuba ulungele, nokuba unako ukuba ngumzali wangempela ngomntwana womnye umntu. Mhlawumbi uza kusombulula ezinye iingxaki ngaphambi kokuba bazive beziva. Oku kuya kunceda wena kunye nomntwana wakho wesikhathi esizayo.
Ukongezelela, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba akubona bonke ababa ngabazali abathobelayo. Urhulumente uyabanyamekela abantu abafuna ukufumana umntwana, ngoko bahlolisisa umviwa ngamnye. Ingcono xa utshatile, sele unamava okufundisa abantwana bakho okanye abanye abantwana. Akufanele ube nezifo ezithathelwana ngesondo, i-AIDS, i-hepatitis, i-syphilis kunye nabanye. Ukongezelela, ubukho beenkolelo zobugebengu kunye nokungabikho kwengeniso engapheliyo kunye neendawo zokuhlala kunokuba yimingcipheko enkulu kwiliphu.
Inyathelo 2. Ukulungiselela amaxwebhu.
Ukuze ube ngumgqatswa kubazali abavayo, kufuneka uqokelele izatifikethi ezimbalwa. Okokuqala, kufuneka uhambe kwi-arhenteti kunye ne-arhenteti arhente, umemezele umnqweno wakho wokuba ngumzali owamkelayo kwaye ufumane iinkqubo eziyimfuneko.
Uya kufuneka uqokelele la maxwebhu alandelayo:
1. ngcaciso emfutshane;
2. isatifikethi esivela kwindawo yomsebenzi kunye nesalathiso sesimo kunye nomvuzo okanye ikopi yesibhengezo semali;
3. ikopi yeakhawunti yezemali kunye necatshulwa esuka kwindlu (indlu) kwendawo yokuhlala okanye uxwebhu oluqinisekisa ubunini bendawo yokuhlala;
4. Isatifiketi se-arhente yezopolitiko zangaphakathi ngokungabikho kwirekhodi yolwaphulo-mthetho lolwaphulo-mthetho olujongene nobomi okanye impilo yabemi;
5. isatifikethi sezonyango esikhutshwe sisiko likarhulumente okanye likamasipala kunye neziko lokukhusela kwiimeko zempilo yomntu ofuna ukufumana umntwana, ekhutshwe ngokuhambelana nenkqubo eyenziwe nguNgqongqoshe wezeMpilo we-Russian Federation;
6. Ikopi yesatifiketi somtshato (ukuba utshatile).
Xa amaxwebhu alungile, uya kuba nokubhalisa njengabaviwa kubazali abamkeleyo.
Inyathelo 3. Ukunyulwa komntwana. Ukukhetha umntwana, ngamnye ukhokelwa yizinto ezizicingayo. Omnye ufuna intombazana, kwaye umntu othile yinkwenkwana kuphela. Omnye ufuna iintsana, kodwa umntu ungumntwana omdala, umntu unomdla kwamehlo aluhlaza kunye neenwele ezimhlophe, kunye nempilo yomntu wengane. Kufuneka ukwazi ukuba kukho iibhanki zedatha zedolophu kunye neengingqi eziqulethe ulwazi malunga nabo bonke abantwana abangamkelwa. Uya kunikwa ulwazi olupheleleyo malunga nomntwana ngamnye othandayo.
Abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba ukukhetha umntwana ixesha elide akufanelekanga. Ekugqibeleni, xa ugqiba ukuzala umntwana wakho, usengozini. Abantwana bahlala bekottery, kodwa ababelethi banikwa amathuba amaninzi okukhetha umntwana.
Xa unqumle ukhetho, unokufaka isicelo kwinkundla, eya kuthatha isigqibo malunga nokudluliselwa komntwana kwintsapho. Kwakhona unokutshintsha igama, ifani, i-patronymic kunye nosuku lokuzalwa komntwana, ukuba unqwenela.
Inyathelo 3. Ukulungiswa.
Inyaniso yokuba emva kokumkelwa komntwana kuyinkqubo yokuxilongwa, kungekhona wonke umntu owaziyo. Ukutshintshwa kwe-Adaptation kwenzeka kuphela kumntwana, kodwa nakwabazali. Umntu udlula eli thuba ngokulula, kodwa ezininzi iintsapho zijongene neengxaki ezithile. Abantwana kaninzi baziphatha ngokumangalisa - banokuwela emntwaneni, ukunyaniseka, ukuphuka amathoyizi, ukwenqaba ukuthobela, ukulala, ukulawula ukutya. Abazali bavame ukuziva benetyala, baxakeke, bazisole ngokuba benza le "mpazamo." Enyanisweni, konke oku kuqhelekileyo kwaye ekugqibeleni, kudlula. Eli xesha lisoloko lithatha iinyanga ezi-4, ingakumbi ukuba usebenza kwiingxaki.
Bobabini kunye nebhokhwe zifumana kwindawo entsha, kwiimeko ezintsha. Ngokuqinisekileyo. Ngamnye wenu udinga ixesha lokuba nisetyenzisane. Ukunyamezela, uvelwano, imfesane kunye nobulumko kuya kukunceda ukunqoba ezi ngxaki.
Ukuba ukwamkelwa ngeso sizathu asifanelekanga, kwaye ufuna ukukunceda ubuncinane umntwana omnye, ungadikibali. Kukho ezinye iintlobo zokubekwa kwabantwana kwintsapho: ukugcinwa, ukuxhaswa, intsapho, intsapho yabantwana. Ukuba umnqweno wokuba ngumzali kumntu olahlekelwe nguye unamandla, ngoko uya kunqoba zonke izithintelo uze ufumane indlela yokuphuma.