Nangona kunjalo, khumbula: akubona zonke izicwangciso zokunyamekela umntwana ezifanele umntwana wakho! Bonke abantwana bahluke, kwaye ngamnye umama uyayibona ingcebiso nje kuphela yeengcebiso. Kule nqaku, siza kuxubusha iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokunyamezela ngayo umntwana, enokufanelana nomntwana wakho.
Into yokuqala ndingathanda ukuyiqwalasela. Ukuze unakekele kakuhle umntwana, kufuneka ugxininise yonke ingqalelo kuyo. Inkqubo yokondla umntwana osandul 'ubele ngesibindi ingaphelela kwimitha engama-45, ngoko kufuneka ujwayele ukuziqhelanisa nokuzinza.
Kwakhona kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba unako ukusondeza kakuhle umntwana wakho. Ngamava okuncelisa, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kukhetha indawo epholileyo apho unokunyamekela umntwana wakho, ukuze yena kunye nawe ukhululekile. Kodwa okokuqala, ungayisebenzisa le ngcebiso: hlala nomntwana esihlalweni okanye kwi-sofa, apho uthanda khona, kwaye ubeke umlotha phantsi komqolo wakho.
Oku kuya kunciphisa ubunzima bakho emthonjeni ngexesha lokuncelisa kunye nokuxinzelela kwisisu esisweleka emva kokubeleka. Kuya kuba mnandi kakhulu ukuba uhlala kunye nomntu osondeleyo, ukuza, ukutya, okanye ukubeka umsila phantsi komqolo wakho. Loo mntu unako, umzekelo, wenzeni umyeni wakho okanye omnye umntu ekhaya, akhululekile kwishishini.
Xa uqedile ukondla umntwana wakho, unako ukoma. Phuza kakhulu umbane phambi kokuba uncelise umntwana kwaye emva koko, ukuze umzimba uphinde uzalise amanzi.
Ungayilisa njani umntwana xa engafuni ukuthatha isifuba emlonyeni wakhe? Ukwenza oku, ukubetha esitini sakhe okanye isikhumba ukuze avule umlomo wakhe ngomlomo, aze amsondeza kuye ukuze athathe isifuba. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntwana wakho uqale ukusela nje ingumlenze (ngaphandle kokuwucoca kunye neentlobo), ngoko ke kunokubangela ukuba buhlungu emva koko, iimbumba kunye neengono. Gwema oku kwaye uqinisekise ukuba umntwana omncinci uyabamba isangqa ngokujikeleza ingono (ngendlela eyahlukileyo).
Ukuba umntwana usondliwe ngokufanelekileyo, isandi sesandi sifanele sivale ukususela kwisisu. Uyakwazi ukukhokelela kumbuzo wokunyamekela ngokusondeza umntwana ngentshebe ngokubhekiselele kwisibonakaliso esinjengale: ukuba awuvalelwa ukuphuma kwebisi kwisifuba. Le nyaniso inokuthi abanye besetyhini bangqina malunga nenkqubo engalunganga yokunyusa umntwana kunye nobisi lwebele. Ukuba ufuna ukuyeka ukutyisa nokukhulula isifuba kwizinsini ezixinyiweyo zentsana, faka umnwe wakho omncinci ngasemlonyeni womntwana, kwaye ukhawuleza uchithe ingono.
Ngoku ndiya kunika iingcebiso zeengcali eziza kukuxelela indlela yokuncelisa umntwana kakuhle. Bancoma oku kulandelayo: ukuba umntwana ancelise isifuba sakho njengokuba ufuna, akufanele unqabe ukuncelisa. Yena ngokwakhe, xa ephelile, uyayeka, adle, kwaye ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba umntwana uyazithoba, unokuyeka ukuncelisa umntwana wakho.
Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba ubisi kwisifuba sokuqala seluphelile, ngoko unokuqala ukondla umntwana ngesifuba esilandelayo. Emva kokuncelisa umntwana, ungancika ngokubhekisele kwigxala lakho, ulibeke ngokubhekiselele ukuze likwazi ukubuyisela ubisi oluninzi.
Apha, mhlawumbi, kunye nazo zonke iindlela zokunyamekela umntwana kakuhle. Emva kwexesha, njengomama, uya kuqala ukuqonda kangcono umntwana wakho. Uya kufumana lonke ubuhle bokuncelisa ibhinqa kumfazi. Lo mvakalelo ongenakulibala onobunye nomntwana, ongenakulibaleka emva kweminyaka emininzi.
Ndiyathanda ukuba wena kunye nosana lwakho lukhule kwaye luqine!