Ukuboleka umntwana? Okokuqala, kufuneka uhlawule umlingiswa, njengokuba umntwana ngamnye ngumntu, oko kuthetha ukuba umntu ngamnye uneminqweno kunye neemfuno zakhe. Ukuzola abantwana, imidlalo ephulekileyo ifanelekile: iipuzzle, umdwebo, umbala, iincwadi zokufunda, indlela umntwana akhetha ngayo. Ukusebenza, kuya kuba yinto efanelekileyo yokuzonwabisa imidlalo. Oku kuya kubangela ukuvakalelwa. Kodwa nangona kunjalo, unganikeli umdlalo osebenzayo ngaphambi kokulala.
Abantwana banokuxhatshazwa kwaye balala ngobusuku.
Ngokuqhelekileyo kwiintsapho ezinabantwana ababini okanye ngaphezulu, kukho umona. Gwema oku, unokuthetha kuphela nabantwana abadala. Kubalulekile ukuchaza ukuba umntakwabo omncinane okanye udade kufuneka anikwe ixesha elide. Kodwa xa ekhula, uya kudlala kunye. Ibali kufuneka liqhutywe kwifomu efikeleleke kumntwana. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, umntwana kufuneka azi ukuba umama noyise bamthanda. Nangona umntwana wesibini uncinci kakhulu, sebenzisa ixesha elide kangangoko, unganxibe umdala. Ukuba ufuna ukuhlamba udade wakho (umzalwana), yenzani nentsapho yakho yonke, ukuze uhlale unomncedisi.
Ixesha elinzima ebomini bomntwana liza ngexesha loqeqesho kwi-kindergarten. Usana luyesaba, kodwa ngokukhawuleza umama akayi kuthatha emva komsebenzi womhla kwi-kindergarten. Kwaye okokuqala ukuhlukana kunye nomama, ubuninzi bexinzelelo. Ngoko ke, ukulungiswa kokuziphatha kunye nokuzilungiselela umgangatho wesifundo kufuneka kuqhutywe ixesha elide, ngaphambi kokuqala ukutyelela eli ziko. Ukuqala, ngokukhawuleza ufunde umntwana kumlawuli oya kuba ngumyezo. Oku kuya kunceda kwixesha elizayo ukukhawuleza ukufunda. Ukuba umntwana uhlala ekhaya kwaye akaqapheli ootatomkhulu, ngoko kufuneka uqaphele ngakumbi ngengqondo yengane yokuhlukana kwexesha elizayo.
Njalo utsho ukuba uyakuthanda kwaye ungashiyi. Thetha ngomyezo ngangokunokwenzeka. Ukuba kuya kuba neqela elininzi labantwana onokudlala nabo, kuya kuba nemisebenzi emininzi enomdla. Kwaye umncinci ngomncinane umntwana uya kufundiswa kwimbono yesibini, kuba uyazi into eyenzekayo apho. Abantwana abaye bakhuliswa ezikolweni zangaphambi kwesikolo kulula kakhulu ukuzivumelanisa neqela elitsha, oko kuthetha ukuba kuya kuba neengxaki ezincinci kwisikolo. Iminyaka eyi-13-15 yobudala, le yinye inqanaba lokukhula. Kwaye kunye neyokugqibela, ihamba neengxaki. Kodwa ukuba usemncinci, unayo igama lokugqibela, ngoku, akudingeki ubeke ingcinezelo kumntwana. Ekubeni kuleso sikhundla kukho into enjenge-maximalism yabantwana. Yonke into ibonakala iyingozi, kwaye sele ufuna ukuba ngumntu omdala ukwenza izigqibo ngokwakho.
Ngako oko, nasiphi na imeko enzima, kungcono ukunikela isisombululo esingekho esichengileyo kwiingxaki, okanye, ngenxa yamava akho, kunceda "ukuguqula" isigqibo esifanelekileyo ngaphandle. Kodwa ukwenza oko ukuze umntwana wakho acinge ukuba isigqibo sakhe. Kwaye ngoko uya kufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo.
Khumbula, abantwana banabantu abancinci abazalelwe ngomlingiswa kwaye bahlelwe ngokwemizimba, iimpawu ezithile. Umsebenzi wabazali awuyi kuphinda ufundise, kodwa ulungelelanise ubuntu. Kuxhomekeke kwiziphi iimpawu ozibeka phambili. Ukuphinde uphinde ufundise indlela yokuphula umntwana. Ubomi obuphukile buyingozi. Ukunika ithemba kumntwana wakho, ungalibali ukuyidumisa.