Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba abazali bobabini basebenze kwaye abanakuzimela ekuncedeni nabantwana banoma yiphi na izalamane zabo. Yintoni enokuyenza kule meko? Ewe, umntwana wakho ufuna i-nanny. Umema endlwini oya kumnakekela umntwana engabikho. Umntu abazali abavuma kumntwana wabo unokuba nomthelela omkhulu ekuphuhliseni kwakhe, ngoko ke ukuza kukhetho lomntwana kunzima kakhulu.
Ukuze ufumane umntwana ofanelekileyo kumntwana wakho, okokuqala, kufuneka ube nesineke. Okwesibini, ukuba uyazi ukuba umntwana wakho uya kufuna umntwana, qalisa ukumkhangela xa ekhulelwe.
Ukukhangela i-nanny ibhetele kakhulu ngabahlobo. Ewe, ukuba unomntwana engqondweni, iinkonzo ezasetyenziswa ngabanye abazali - abahlobo bakho abalungileyo. Unokukhangela kwakhona umfana phakathi kwababelethi abanokwenene, abantu abanemvelaphi yokufundisa.
Ukuqhuba udliwano-ndlebe kunye nabaviwa bakho abakhethiweyo. Kucetyiswa ukuba umongikazi angakunika iingcebiso ezivela kwiindawo zangaphambili zomsebenzi.
Yintoni eyona nto ephambili kumntwana? Kumele athande abantwana. Zama ukufumana ngokukhawuleza ukuba ngaba kunjalo. Mhlawumbi lo mfazi weza ukulungiselela umfana ngenxa yokuba ufuna imali.
Ngethuba ludliwano-ndlebe, qaphela indlela isigulane ngayo, umntu uyisisombululo, ukuba uluvo oluvuthiweyo.
Ukuba umntwana unengxaki zezempilo, umongikazi kufuneka akwazi ukubonelela ngoncedo lokuqala. Cetyisa umongikazi iziganeko ezikhoyo ukuba ufumane indlela aza kuziphatha ngayo kule nto okanye kuloo meko.
Chaza umongikazi ukuba yiyiphi imisebenzi ethile eya kufakwa kumsebenzi wakhe. Ngaba kufuneka apheke umntwana, ugcine ucoceko endlwini, njl. Ungakulibali ukuba unyuli umkhonzi wasekhaya, kodwa umntu oza kufuneka anikezele lonke ixesha kumntwana onqabileyo.
Cinga iminyaka yobudala. Abahlengikazi abangaphantsi kweminyaka eyi-18 bangcono ukuba bangaqwalaselwa. Nangona kunjalo, kungekho ixesha elide elikhulileyo libonisa amava okuphila okwaneleyo. Unqwenela unina onabantwana bakhe.
Musa ukushiya yedwa umntwana kunye nosana. Kancinci ungenisa umntu ongaphandle kwimeko yobomi bentsapho yakho. Jonga ukusebenza kweemali zakho zomsebenzi ubuncinane kwiiyure ezimbalwa. Ukuqwalasela indlela umongikazi kunye nomntwana abonxibelelana ngayo. Kubalulekile ukuba akukho nto ingachasani phakathi kwabo ekuqaleni, kuba ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abadala abakwazi ukuhambelana.
Kancinci shiya umongikazi kunye nosana ixesha elide. Jonga indlela umntwana wakho asabela ngayo kumntwana, indlela aziphatha ngayo xa efika.
Ngoko ke, kwafika umzuzu, kwaye ushiye umntwana odwa kunye nomntwana. Kufuneka uqaphele izinto ezi zinto zibalulekileyo:
- Shiya umongikazi kunye nazo zonke iifowuni ezifunekayo. Kwiimeko ezingxamisekileyo, kufuneka azi ukuba ngubani ofuna ukubuyela kuye.
- Myalela umongikazi ukuba ahlale ekwazisa. Ufanele ukwazi ngokukhawuleza ukuba umntwana unenkinga enhle okanye embi.
- Nika umongikazi imiyalelo ecacileyo, ekufuneka ayilandele ngokunyanisekileyo. Umzekelo, uyondla umntwana wakho ngo-8pm. Qinisekisa ukuba wenza oku ngo-8, kungekhona kwi-7 okanye ngo-6.
- Shayela umongikazi uze ucele ukuba izinto zihamba njani.
- Buyela emsebenzini kusenokuba ucwangcise ukuqinisekisa ukuba konke kulungile endlwini.
- Shiya umongikazi imiyalelo ethile yomcimbi, ukuba awuyi kubakho ixesha elide kunokucetywa.
- Awudingi unina ukuba ube ilungu lentsapho yakho, kodwa kufuneka ube nobudlelwane bokuthembela naye.
- Yiba nomdla kumntwana kunye nomhlengikazi njengoko bachitha loo mini. Amabali abo kufuneka ahambisane.
- Mamela i-intuition yakho. Akufanele ube naluphi na ukungathandabuzeki ngomntu obamthembayo umntwana wakho.
- Ukuba unokwenkqonkqo oluncinane malunga nobuchule okanye isimo sengqondo somntwana kumntwana, musa ukulibazisa ukuhlukana naye.
Ewe, ukukhetha i-nanny ngumcimbi onoxanduva, kwaye, ngelishwa, akuqhelekanga ukuba umntanami aphathe kakubi umntwana. Kumele ube nefuthe kakhulu ukuba uzive 'ezintle' iingxaki. Ewe, ukushisa kwabazali kunye nogogo nomkhulu, akukho mntu uya kutshintsha. Ukuba ootatomkhulu banethuba lokunyamekela abazukulu babo, kungcono ukuba uthembele abantwana kubo. Amathuba amaninzi ngeveki ungasebenzisa iinkonzo ze-nanny.