Namhlanje, uluntu lufuna ukuba lithembeke, luthembeke, luthembeke. Kwiminyaka emininzi, abafazi balwela umgangatho weqabane elilinganayo nendoda. Kwaye kwimizamo yabo baye bazuza amaninzi. Ibhinqa lamanje ngokungabikho mntu ongezantsi: unikwe amalungelo afanayo, unamathuba afanayo kunye nemiphumo yomsebenzi wakhe, ubonakalisa into emangalisayo. Kwamanye amazwe - abavakalisi bokholo baseMuslim - Kakade, kukho imveli yamandulo, apho umfazi ehlala engumntu oyisibini kwaye ubizwa ukuba anike inzuzo efanelekileyo kumntu. Nangona kunjalo, ukuxazulula imfihlelo yendlela eyimfihlakalo yaseMpuma kwakungenakwenzeka kwiminyaka emininzi, ngoko akunakutsholwa ukuba abafazi base-Asiya banamhlanje abagqithisi abo baqala ngaphambili ngeendlela ezininzi.
Kodwa ngokuchanekileyo unokuthetha ngendlela abafazi abaye batshintsha ngayo kuluntu, kwi-Islam, ephela kuphela. Umfanekiso wabo wawushintsha ngokugqithiseleyo: wagcwaliswa ngegrikhi ephathekayo, egcwele iziqheno malunga nezinto eziye zaphunyezwa kwaye zomelela iimithombo ezingapheliyo zokuphefumlelwa. Kanye kunye nomfazi, uluntu jikelele luye lwaguquka. Ngenxa yoko, ihlabathi laqala ukuthetha ngexesha elitsha, enye into ebalulekileyo ekuphuhlisweni komntu, ngexesha lokulingana. Ngoko yintoni umfazi onjalo ngokwenene kunye nomfazi onyanisekileyo kweli hlabathi?
Ibhinqa lamanje alisayi kufana nomfanekiso we heroine, ichukumisa kwaye ibuthathaka.
Akunjalo ukuba le yinguqu enhle. Akunjalo ukuba baya kwenza lula iqashisokazikazi. Kodwa inyaniso ihlala: kwintlalo yanamhlanje, umfazi akanako ukukwazi ukuzinikele ngokupheleleyo kumandla athembisayo. Kufuneka abe nokholo. Oku kungenxa yakhe-isidingo sengqondo. Kwaye ngokungafani nendoda leyo, ngokungafihli, ikholelwa kumandla akhe, umfazi akayi kukwazi ukubonakalisa ukufaneleka kwakhe ngenye indlela kunokuba afumane impumelelo efunwayo. Ewe, kunye nomntu wanamhlanje unomdla kakhulu kumfazi ongekho kwindawo yokumncedisa ngengxoxo enzulu okanye ukuxoxa ngezinye zeeprojekthi zakhe. Ngenxa yoko, inxaxheba yodonsa okhuselayo onokuzikhuseleka kumfazi wesimanje ngoku ukhululekile ayikwazi ukuhlala.
Nangona kunjalo, kanye kanye ukuba umbuzo weempawu ezinjani umfazi wesimanje kufuneka abe nazo, ngokubanzi zivele, sele zithetha ngokuguqulwa komntu wesigxina somfazi wesiplanethi. Ngaba bekuyimfuneko kubaphambili abakude bezobuhle bemihla ngemihla ukuba banakekele ukufumana impendulo kumbuzo, bamele babe yintoni? Ewe, hayi: bafundiswe imigaqo yokuziphatha kuluntu ukususela kumncinane, ukutyala ulawulo lwamadoda kunye nobunkokeli babo obungenakunyakaziswa. Kwaye phambi kokuba umfazi wesimanje zonke iindlela zivulekileyo-kwezopolitiko, kwi-jurisprudence, kwihlabathi lokudala lobugcisa. Kwaye akukho ndawo ikhutshelwe khona okanye imimiselo: ingafana nokuba iya kufezekisa iziphumo ezingcono. Isiphelo: umfazi wesimanje kufuneka akwazi ukuhlalutya amathemba kwaye enze izigqibo ezinzulu nezixanduva. Kwaye kufuneka kube isisombululo kubo, ngokwazo nakwabo.
Umfazi wesimanje kufuneka abe ngumfazi.
Abasetyhini baba ngabahwebi abaphumeleleyo, bafumana iziphumo ezingenakwenzeka kumgangatho ophakamileyo okarhulumente, kwimiba yabasetyhini abakwizenzo ezingekho phantsi kwamadoda. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, oku kuyinyathelo eliphambili: njengomntu, umgangatho kunye nomfazi ohloniphekileyo, ekugqibeleni amadoda ayaqonda. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, lo mngcipheko okhoyo kuyo nayiphi na isenzo apho imida iyacinywa. Kwaye nantsi yonke imingcipheko iyahlakazeka ibe yintlupheko kwaye akukho nto ichazwe ngokucacileyo phakathi kwendima yomsebenzi womfazi kunye nendoda.
Enyanisweni, yonke into encinci leyo loo ntokazi isindise yona kuphela (okanye kunoko, yindalo eyenziwe yona) iyancipha kwikhono lokuzala abantwana kunye nokukwazi ukuguqula izipho. Kwaye ke, okugqibela kunye neminyaka, kwakhona, abafazi balahlekile. Kodwa lona wesifazane-elidlulileyo, elizayo, okwenene-kufuneka lihlale lilo mfazi. Ngeempawu zakhe zobungqina be-seductress yangempela, umlingisi onetalente, umama onakekelayo nomfazi othembekileyo. Ngaphandle koko, kwiimpawu ezahlukileyo zowesifazane, kuphela umama oza kuhlala. Kwaye emva kwexesha, lahleka ngobuninzi bemisebenzi yamadoda kunye nayo. Kwaye uluntu luya kutshabalaliswa. Ngako oko, phakathi kweempawu ukuba owesifazane wesimanje afanele abe nazo, umfazi ongenakulinganiswa naye ubaluleke kakhulu. Kuba ngaphandle kwayo, uthando lomtshato luya kubhubha.
Imigaqo yabasetyhini banamhlanje.
Yingakho amabhinqa amnandi kwaye ayamangalisa ukuba afaneleke kumfanekiso womcebisi ohlakaniphileyo kunye nenkosikazi engabonakaliyo, umhlobo onokwethenjelwa kunye nomphathi osisigxina, umnqweno othakazelisayo nomgcini weentloko. Indlela abakwazi ngayo ukuyiqonda le minyaka emininzi, amadoda. Ibhinqa loshishino lingaba lucacise kangakanani kwaye likhonkco ekubonisweni kweprojekthi yalo kwaye lihlale lingenakuqondakala kwaye lingaqinisekanga - ngobudlelwane nomyeni wayo? Umfazi wendlu ulawula njani ukwenza yonke imisebenzi kwaye uyihlobise indlu yomngane enomkhuhlane omkhulu kunye nomhlobiso wakhe ocijiweyo? Umfundi ulungela njani ukuya kwii-nightclub, kwaye ufunde "ngokugqibeleleyo", kwaye uxoxe nabalandeli babini?
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ibhinqa kwiminyaka yakhe yophuhliso lobuqu luye lwafumana iziphumo ezimangalisayo. Kodwa oku akunjalo umda. Kwaye kunjalo nangakumbi-akukho sizathu sokuyeka. Umfazi oyinyaniso uhlala efuna umfanekiso ongaqhelekanga, umgangatho oqhelekileyo. Kodwa kukho imiqondiso emininzi eya kunceda ngamnye umfazi ukuba aqonde ukuba unokuzijonga nje kuye, okanye usenokwenza umsebenzi omningi. Kukho amahlanu kubo.
Umfazi onyanisekileyo wanamhlanje akafihli iitalente zakhe, kodwa akaziqhayisa ngazo. Ngokulinganayo, uyayixabisa impumelelo kunye nokuhluleka. Kodwa kuzo zonke iimeko azikhumbulayo ukuba zombini iinkalo zempumelelo zikhohlisayo kwaye azihambelani.
2. Umfazi okwenene wamanje kufuneka akwazi ukuhlonipha abanye. Kodwa kuphela abo bafanelekile ukuba bahloniphe. Akayithandi kuphela inkampani yendoda, kodwa inkampani yamadoda isoloko imxabisa.
3. Umfazi okwenyaniso wamanje kufuneka abe nezakhono zokuhlalutya nokubhala. Ukuba yinkwenkwezi ngobukhulu bokuqala, akesabi ukuba ekugqibeleni azungeze kunye namaqabane (amantombazana, oogxa, abaqhelana nabo) bexabiso elilinganayo. Ngaphandle koko, ubomi bakhe abuvuyo.
4. Umfazi wesimanje ulungile kwaye ungaphandle, kwaye ngaphakathi. Akayeki ngenxa yomona kwaye uyazi indlela yokufunda yonke imzuzu. Ukunganeliseki okanye ukuzingca ngokweqile akuyena yena. Abamkeli kwaye abakhuthazi kwabanye.
5. Kwaye ke, okwenenekazi wesimanjemanje uhlakaniphile, unetalente, onomdla. Njengabo baqala ngaphambili. Nguye kuphela owaziyo kwaye ngokungafani nezizukulwana zangaphambili, akayi kubufihla isithunzi sakhe kubaphulaphuli.