Iingcali zengqondo zichaza ubuhlobo njengobunye obusondeleyo phakathi kwabantu. Ubuhlobo buvela kukuzikhethela ngokuzithandela, kuba akukho "ubungani obungabonakaliyo". Ekuqaleni, umhlobo olungcono kumntwana ngumama. Emva koko umntwana uthetha nabanye abantu. Phantse kwiminyaka emihlanu kukho isidingo somhlobo osondeleyo. Xa ndandineminyaka eli-14, mna nomhlobo wam sathetha iintsuku ukuze abazali bethu bangaveleli, abafana beza kunye neentombi zeentombi. Ubambiswano lolutsha luhlobo lwe-psychotherapy, lufumana ubungqina bokuthi umntu ulwabelana nethemba, ukwesaba, ukungathandabuzeki.
Iingcali zengqondo zithi abahlobo kunye nokuguga kuya kubaluleka kuthi, xa zonke iinkalo zemisebenzi zihanjiswa, abantwana baya kukhula. Ubuhlobo babasetyhini buya kuhlala kude kube sekupheleni, ukuba lufanelekile, luya kukhula.
Ubuhlobo obutsha.
Ubungane nabafundi besikolo bagcina isikhundla esithile esikhethekileyo iminyaka emininzi. Kulo lonke uluntu lucatshangelwa, ukuba unabo bantu abasondeleyo emoyeni ebusheni bakho, ngoko ulahlekelwa ithuba lakho. Kuyimpumelelo enkulu ukuba ubuhlobo nabahlobo besikolo bugcinwe ngexesha. Kodwa ukuba iindlela zihlukanisile, akuthethi ukuba awudingi ukujonga abahlobo abatsha. Kule minyaka, utshintshile, utshintsho lwakho lwendalo.
Isimo sengqondo somntu omdala kumhlobo.
Umntu omdala uphatha ubudlelwane bomntu ngokucophelela, kwaye angene ngokukhawuleza kwiintsebenziswano. Akufanele uqinisekise ubungqina bakho, uyazi into onokuyithanda. Ubuhlobo bomdala bubudlelwane bokuxhasana. Nasi isabelo esithile sokugxekwa kuyimfuneko kwaye kuvunyelwe. Kwaye ukuba uzibonele kwicala lomntu okhulileyo ulungele intombazana yakhe ukuva ezinye izinto ezintle kakhulu. Abantu kwiminyaka bebekhethileyo kwaye banomdla. Ngoku siyakuqonda into esinokuyibuyisela kwaye siyifumane kwindlela yokunxibelelana. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuhlanganiswa kwabantu abadala kuthatha iminyaka. Kungenzeka ukuba abantu abangathandi omnye nomnye bangaba ngabahlobo, kwaye kulula kakhulu, ekugqibeleni, aba bantu babonisana.
Indlela yokufumana umhlobo.
Umhlobo ngumntu ohlala ekhona. Ummelwane ekamelweni lehotela kwintengiso, umntu ohlala ekhaya, kuyimfuneko yokuba kusetyenziswe ubudlelwane obunobungane. Isizathu sokwazisa singabamelwane. Kufuneka uzame ukuba ngabahlobo kunye nabo bantu abasondele kuwe, nokuba bangaqondi ukuba i-cappuccino ihluke njani kwi-ristretto, kwaye nangona bengaboni uchungechunge oluthandayo lweTV. Simele siphethe ubuhlobo njengenkqubo, kungekhona njengento. Ukukwabelana ngokubakho ngokutsha, ukuba ube kunye kunye. Ukunyamezela, ixesha, indawo eqhelekileyo yindlela yokufumana ubungqina bokwenene.
Umntu onomhlobo, uzinzile ngakumbi kunokuba uvaliwe kwaye unesizungu. Amava kwezinye iziganeko azibuhlungu kakhulu kubantu abasondeleyo nabaqondayo. Kwaye akunandaba nokuba ngaba, ubunzima bezezimali okanye ukugula.
Ubuhlobo bubalulekile kumntu .
Kulula kwaye kulula ukuhlala kwihlabathi ukuba ngaba ngabahlobo abaninzi abaza kuvula iingcango kuni na kunini na, nokuba naphi na nantoni na eyenzekayo, bakukhathalele. Ubuhlobo luncedo kakhulu kwimpilo. Abo bahlobo, bahlala ixesha elide, bafumane ngokukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza, kubanda. Ukuvalelana ubudlelwane kwenza umzimba womntu uqomelele ekulwa nesifo sofuba okanye umhlaza. Ubuhlobo besibini bubizwa ngokuba "ubudlelwane obungabalulekanga", kwaye sinabantu abangakumbi abanetalente kunamadoda. Ngenxa yoko abahlolokazi bahlala ngaphantsi kwabesetyhini abalahlekelwe ngamadoda abo, baxhomekeke kwizifo ezahlukahlukeneyo. Yaye kungekhona ngenxa yokuba abazi ukupheka kakuhle, abahlobo oluncinane.
Ekugqibeleni, unokuxelela indlela yokufumana umhlobo wenene. Landela ezi ngcebiso kunye neengcebiso kwaye uya kukwazi ukufumana umhlobo olungileyo.