Indoda ethandanayo - oku kuye kwaba yinto engaqhelekanga kwihlabathi lanamhlanje. Abaninzi, bezibuza ukuba zilungile okanye zimbi xa umntu esithandana naye, athambekele ekungaboni. Kutheni abantu beyeka ukucinga ukuba uthando luhle? Kutheni sifuna ukuba: indoda iyintando, inhle okanye imbi?
Ngoku siza kuthetha ngabantu-romantics, kuhle okanye kubi. Ngubani oyindoda? Yaye ngubani oyintando? Kutheni ukuba ube ngumcebisi wezinto eziphathekayo kunye nomhle Kutheni ukuthanda ulwalamano kukubi?
Amaqhinga ngamadoda abathandanayo
Enyanisweni, kubafazi abaninzi banamhlanje, indoda ethandanayo ibonakala ibuthathaka. Bacinga ukuba ulwalamane lunokunika kuphela iifomom kwaye unike iparadesi kwikhaya. Kwaye, oku, akunjalo. Nazi abafazi kwaye bacinga ukuba uthando lubi.
Leyo yinto nje engafanelekanga. Enyanisweni, i-spineless and hopelessness can be a rude, unromantic person. Ngubani ke yena, onothando lwangempela?
Okokuqala, masingazidibanisi uthando lomntu kunye nesingqiqo esingaqhelekanga. Ngabo bantu abaphanga umfanekiso wothando. Ngenxa yokuba abaninzi abafazi bathabatha iindwangu zabo zokulila kwivesi kunye neprose njenge-romance. Enyanisweni, amadoda anjalo enza konke ukuba kuxolelwe. Nokuba benza oko. Abazange bafumane abafazi ukuba basebenze. Yaye ngamagama abonisa kuphela ukuba buhlungu nokuba bubi kangakanani, kuba babengathandwa.
Yaye xa abafazi bebanika ithuba lokubonisa into ethile, endaweni yokusebenza kwabo, abafana nje baqala ukuthetha malunga nenjongo yobomi kunye nobunzima ebomini. Amagama angaphezulu abafaki ukungena. Ngenxa yoko, abafazi baxhwabile ngokusula i-snot yabo kwaye baqala ukuvakalisa ukuba kungcono ukuhlala ngaphandle kweengqungquthela kunye neesekese, kodwa kunye nomntu onokwazi ukwenza okungenani into eyinyani, kwaye kungekhona nje ukukrazula kwimibhobho yeentyantyambo ze-chamomile.
Ungubani, indoda yangempela?
Umntu onothando wangempela akafani noko. Ngokuqinisekileyo, uyazi nendlela yokubona ubuhle emafini aqhelekileyo okanye ukunika iintlobo zeentyantyambo zasendle entombazana. Kodwa ngeli xesha le ntombazana yentliziyo iya kuhlala emotweni yakhe. Ukuthandana kwangempela kwikona yezinto zonke kukuthanda. Azingatshintshi ngenxa yezihlwele, ngoko ke, xa befumana "umfazi" wabo, ngokukhawuleza bazibeke ebudlelwaneni obunzulu. Kwaye ukuba umntu ufuna into ebalulekileyo, ngokufanelekileyo, uyaqonda ukuba akufanele abe nexanduva kuye kuphela.
Uthando lwangempela luhlala luyenza yonke into yokuba lunakho ukukholisa intanda yakhe ngokumangalisa. Ewe, insizwa ayikwazi ukunika iingubo zoboya kunye neadayimane. Kodwa, uzama ukwenza yonke into kwithuba elizayo. Nangona kunjalo, akayi kuzama ukuthenga ibhinqa ngemali. Abantu abanjalo abazikhetheli loo ntombazana enomdla kuphela kwezobutyebi kunye nezinto eziphathekayo. Ngelo xesha, i-romantics ayiphiki into yokuba ubutyebi bezinto eziyimfuneko. Baya kuzama ukwenza konke ukuze intombi yabo ethandekayo ingabi nantoni na. Kodwa, kwimeko apho bebona ukuba intombazana imnika uthando kwaye izama ukuxhasa nokukunceda kuyo yonke into.
Ngabantu abathandana nabantwana abancinci abakwazi ukuziphatha kakuhle kunye nentombazana yabo ethandekayo. Nangona bengabonakali ngaphambili, bafakwa kuyo kwaye babonakaliswe njengephepha le-litmus, xa kuphela omnye kunye nentanda ethandekayo evela eceleni.
U-romantics wangempela uzama ukwenza into enhle kumfazi. Kodwa, oku akuthethi ukuba bahlala bethenga ixabiso elininzi. Hayi, konke malunga nenye into. Ngaloo ndlela uhlobo lwendoda luhlala luphulaphule ngenyameko kumfazi wayo kwaye izaziso zonke izinto ezithandayo kunye nezifiso zakhe. Nguye oya kumnika umhla wokuzalwa wama-roses akhe abomvu abathandayo, kungekhona amaqhekeza, njengabanye, kuba ihlobo elingaphandle. Nguye ohlala esithenga i-banana juice kuphela, ngenxa yokuba uyayithanda ibhanana, uya kufumana uhlobo oluthandayo lwe-cheese kwaye uya kuyala ikhekhe lebhanana le holide.
Amadoda athile amaRoma athobela iminqweno yowesifazane othandekayo. Ubundlobongela kubo akulona ithuba lokuzondla. Eli li thuba lokwenene ngokwenene kumntu wasemzini. Ngako oko, abayifuni nxamnye kwaye abayikunyanzelisa, ekuboneni kule nto, kuqala kokubakho, ukubonakaliswa kwemvakalelo, kwaye ke ngoko-ukukhangeka ngokwenyama. Kwaye xa i-romantics ifumana kwisondo, abazami ukubonisa nantoni na ukubonisa ukuba bavule. Abantu abancinci banqwenela ukuba abantu basekuhlaleni bavuyiswe.
AmaRoma onke amhlonela umfazi wabo. Ukuze kungenzeki, abayi kuze bavumele ukuxoxa nabo abathandekayo babo kunye nabahlobo, bathethe ngezinto ezimbi, bakhe into ebonakalayo kwinkampani yamadoda engcono kwaye ihamba phambili.
Bahlale bekhusela abo bathandekayo. Oku akukona nje ngomfazi othandekayo, kodwa ngoku, ngokuqinisekileyo, ngowokuqala. Kuloo ndoda enothando ukuba akaze akwesaba ukuhamba ngezitrato. Ngenxa yokuba uya kwenza konke ukukhusela intanda yakhe. Unokuzonda ukulwa, kodwa ngenxa yakhe, angene ekulweni, akafuni ukubandakanya kwezobugcisa obuhlukeneyo, kodwa ufundisise ukuze kungabi yinto embi ukuba ahambe kunye nemimiselo emnyama.
Ukhangelelana ngokwenene?
Uthando lubukeka luhluke kakhulu. Akukho mfanekiso omnye phantsi apho kuya kwenzeka ukuba ulungele lodidi lwamadoda. I-romantics yangempela ayinxibe iingubo ezinde, iikhati ezimhlophe, ziphathe ngokuzithoba kwaye ucingisise. Nangona kukho abantu abatsha nje. Kodwa, nokuba yintoni na, kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba yayibukeka njani njengomntu, uhlobo lwakhe lubonakala kwihambo kunye nesimo sengqondo kumfazi. I-Romantics ihlala ihlonipha abafazi kwaye izama ukungazihlambalazi, nokuba zifanelekile. Kwaye nangaphezulu ungaphakamisi isandla sakho.
Ngako oko, ngaphambi kokuba uthethe ngokuthandana okubi, kufuneka ufunde ukuhlukanisa i-romantics yangempela kulabo abazama ukubonakala kubo, kodwa ngokwenene baziphatha njengento engokoqobo, okufuneka uyenze, uyisondeza, uyikhusele kwaye uyisindise. Akuyithandani. Laba bafana nje abaqhenkcekisayo isitala esithi "amadoda", kodwa ngokwenene bavela kuba bafana nabasetyhini abathintekayo.
