Ujonge uSnezhana uze uzimangele wena: ingaba ungumama wabantwana abane? Osemncinci, omhle, omtsha, ngokusemgangathweni! Ukubuzwa ukusuka kwimithombo efumana amandla, umdlali we-TV kunye nombukeli weTV ngaphandle kokungabaza: "Kubantwana bakho!"
U-Snezhana Yegorova no-Anton Mukharsky banomdla kakhulu ukukhusela ubomi babo, ngoko asizange sinyanise ukuthatha iifoto kunye nentombi yabo uAntina. Ngethuba le-interview, umntwana wayesekho inyanga. Snezhana, uvuma, uzive utshintsho olwenziwe kuwe emva kokuzalwa kuka-Arina? Kwakungabikho utshintsho lwekhadi. Xa umntwana wokuqala ebonakala, kubonakala ngathi ihlabathi liyajika. Yaye ukuba le nto yesine, izinto ezininzi sele zicacile. Into eyoyimangalisa kukuba ukuqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuvakalelwa kweenyanga zokuqala zobomi be-crumb zilibalekile. Kwaye kwakhona uyothuka: ngaba abantwana bancinci kakhulu? Ukukhula ngokukhawuleza! Ndiyakhumbula xa indodakazi yam yokuqala yazalwa, ndandifuna ukuba avule amehlo akhe, wahlala phantsi, wathi "aga", waqala ukuthetha, waya esikolweni. Ndandisoloko ndakhawuleza ukukhula kwakhe. Kwaye ngoku, ngokuchaseneyo, andiyikukhawuleza ndizonwabele ixesha elihle. Ndiyathanda ukuba umntwana akhale! Akucaphukisi.
Uvakalelwa njani kwindoda yomama wabantwana abane? Kubonakala kum, kuyamangalisa! Kodwa abo bajikelezile ngenxa yezizathu ezithile bayamangalisa kule ndaba. Ngelishwa, namhlanje abantu bayaqiniseka ukuba ngenxa yesizathu esinye okanye esinye abanako ukukwazi ukufumana abantwana. Kwaye inkulu intsapho yinto engaphandle kwesiqhelo. Uyazi, ndiyamncoma abantwana abancinci, ingakumbi iintsana. Ngokunyanisekileyo, ndiza kuzala ngakumbi. Kodwa iimeko ezikhoyo kweli lizwe asinalo. Akukhona nje kuphela kwaye akuninzi kakhulu kwicala lezinto eziphathekayo - ndixhalabele ngokusingqongileyo. Xa ndiba nabantwana ngakumbi, ndiba ngabasebenzi abaninzi. Ndiyakhathalela ukuba yeyiphi ihlabathi eliza kukhula, yintoni abantu abaya kuba ngabahlali babo. Nceda usitshele ngokuzalwa. Ndabelela esibhedlele № 1 ugqirha, esiwaziyo iminyaka elishumi elinambini. UArina ngumntwana wesithathu, wamkela. Intombi yam yokuqala uStasya, ndazala, njengoko bethetha, nge-ambulensi. Ndandiselula kakhulu, ndahlala kwelinye idolophu nomamazala. Kwaye, njengabantu abaninzi abaqhelekileyo, andizange ndicinge ngokufuna isidingo sokufumana ugqirha kwangaphambili kwaye uyavuma ukuba uya kukukhokelela ukukhulelwa kwakho. Ngako oko, ndinethuba lokuthelekisa loo mava okuqala kunye nokuzalwa okunolwazi kunye nogqirha ovela kuyo. Umehluko lukhulu-kokubili kwinkqubo ngokwalo, kwaye ngokubhekiselele kuwo, kwaye, ngokubanzi, ngenxa yoko.
Ngoko ke, ukuba umfazi unzulu ngokubeletha kwaye ufuna ukuba kamnandi ujongane nenkqubo yokunxibelelana nomntwana (ukuze umntwana ulethe uvuyo, elele kakuhle, enempilo kwaye engakhathazeki), umntu kufuneka athathe ukhetho lukagqirha ngokubaluleka. Akuninzi oogqirha abalungileyo, kodwa kunjalo. Ngako oko, ndihlala ndithetha ngokuvuya kunye nokubulela ngugqirha wam, ngubani ondimkhulu, oothixo ekusebenzeni kwakhe. Kulo nyaka ndaphinda ndaqiniseka ngoku. Inyaniso yokuba ukuzalwa kwakuyimaminithi elineshumi elinesihlanu ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka kunye nezinye iingxaki, kwaye andizange ndixoke ngeentsuku ezisibhozo zingenakuze zibekezelele kwaye azizange zithinteke ukuxinezeleka kwangemva kwesifo, kuphela ukufaneleka kwayo.
Ukuzalwa komntwana ngamnye kuhlukile. Yintoni engaqhelekanga malunga ne-Snezhana Yegorova no-Anton Mukharsky? USnezhana wazitholela into enye: iyeza lethu lendabuko kunye nesimo sengqondo sobuntombi kubomama beMinyaka Ephakathi. Ngokomzekelo, kumazwe aseNtshona asekuhlaleni enomgangatho ophezulu wokuphila kunye namayeza, ixesha elifanelekileyo lokuzalwa komntwana wokuqala nguminyaka engama-34. Kuthi kuthi ngathi? Kwabesetyhini abakhulelweyo emva kwee-27 ubudala zebhile "i-old-timer" iphelelwe. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oomama bafuna unyango olukhethekileyo. Oko kukuthi, oogqirha kunye nenkqubo yonakekelo yonakekelo lwempilo bamisela umfazi into yonke, eyaneleyo yokuzala. Ngoko kwimeko yam. Ndihlala ndihlala ndithwala ingqondo ngokubhekiselele kwengqondo yomntwana, ngenxa yokuba umama ungowamvelo wendalo. Ndiyabulela kakhulu kubantwana bam: akukho namnye kubo ondinike umangaliso obunokubandezela ubomi bam. Ngako oko, ndandisoloko ndizolile malunga nokukhulelwa kwam, de ndiqale ukuthetha ngesidingo semvavanyo eyongezelelweyo: bathi, uneminyaka yobudala. Malunga nobudala bam kukho intuthuko yokuba mna ndandiphazamiseka. Kwaye, ngokunyanisekileyo, i-Aesculapius yancinci kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo yafaka ingxaki kum.
Ekuqaleni incinci , kodwa ngokusondeleko komhla wokunikezelwa kweenkonzo, ndaqonda ngakumbi ukuba ndandingakwazi ukulungiselela ukubeletha ngokwengqondo! Kwakukho uloyiko: kwaye ngokukhawuleza ngokumalunga neminyaka yam into engavamile iya kwenzeka (nangona ndiziva ndiqhelekile, ngaphantsi kokuqwalaselwa kwaye ugqirha akazange akhathaze). Sekunesibhedlele ndaxela kunye noogqirha wam: "Uyazi, uDmitry Nikolayevich, ndoyika kakhulu! Ngokuqala ebomini bam. Oku kuzalwa kwesine, kodwa andizange ndiloyike. " Waphendula wathi: "Snezana, ingabe ucinga engqondweni yakho? Ngubani na ophulaphule khona? Yonke into iya kulungile, ungakhathazeki. "
Emva kokuzalwa kuka-Arina, amaninzi amaphephandaba agqiba ukuxelela iindaba zeli hlabathi. Kwaye ndayigqala ngento enye: iimpapasho eziprintiweyo azizange zikhumbuze abafundi ukuba bangakanani na kum kunye nomyeni wam. Ngokuqinisekileyo wonke umntu ngaphandle kokubhaliweyo wabhala: Snezhana Egorova (37), uAnton Mukharsky (41). Ndithukuthele kungekhona ngenxa yokuba ndifihla ubudala bam. Ngokucacileyo le nto ibonisa ukuba: uluntu lwethu alulungele ukuba babe ngabazali emva komda othile weminyaka. Sisekholelwa ukuba oku kulungele ukudala. I-pier, kubalulekile ukuzala, ngelixa kusekho impilo, ukuze ube nexesha lokufundisa. Yaye ukuba indoda eneminyaka ephakathi ifuna ukuba nezingane? Umthwalo onjalo! Ngokombono wam, xa sivuthiwe ngakumbi, sinokukhuliswa ngendlela enokubaluleka ngayo esinokuyenza kumntwana wethu, kunye nolunye, inqanaba eliphezulu lomthando kunye nokunyamekela. Abazali abavuthiweyo baqonda ngakumbi, kwaye umntwana wabo uzizwa ekhuselwe kweli hlabathi. Ngoko ke, ndiyakholwa ukuba kwilizwe lethu "ubudala" isimo sengqondo malunga nokubeletha siza kutshintsha.
Ngaba kukho iingxaki ngexesha lokubeleka? U-Arina ngumntwana omkhulu kunabo bonke abantwana bam. Walinganisa i-4 kg 40 g ngokunyuka kwama-53 cm. Ukuthelekisa: intombi yam endala, endizalelwa kuyo kwiminyaka eyi-17 eyadlulayo, yazalwa ngobunzima be-2 kg 900 g ngumlinganiselo omkhulu. Ukuvuma, kwakukho amaxesha ambalwa xa ndicinga ukuba andinakukwazi ukuzala, ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba uphuphe le ntloko enkulu. Ndatshwenyeka. Kubonakala ngathi le nkqubo ihlala ixesha elide kwaye ayiyikuphela. Abasetyhini abaninzi abanqabile ukuba ngunina ngenxa yokwesaba intlungu, kuba ibali elivakalayo livelele ekunikweni kwabazali "abanolwazi" njengam. Kodwa ndizama ukuthetha ngayo ngehlazo, kuba ndiqinisekile malunga nokubeleka. Kwaye abanye banamava amaninzi: omnye wabo oomama wazala kakhulu kwaye akayi kukhetha ukongeza kwintsapho. Ukususela ekuphakameni kwam namava okhulileyo oomama ndingenokuqiniseka ukuba intlungu yokuzalwa ikhunjulwa ngokukhawuleza kwaye ihlawuliswa ngumonwaba kunye nenwaba yokuthetha nomntwana. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ndingumzekelo onzima gqitha wokuthetha ngeentsilelo! Ndiyazi ukuba u-Anton wayekhona ekuzalweni kuka-Arina ... Ekuqaleni, ndichasene nokuzalwa kwabalingani, kuba phambi kwamadoda, kungekhona kwintsapho - abazange bangivumele ukuba ndibe kwi-ward yomama. Iminyaka emithathu edlulileyo ndazala uAndryusha.
Ngelixa iimfazwe zaqhubeka , walinda ukujika kwakhe kwidilesi yokubeletha. Iingcango ze-kindergarten zavuleka, kwaye ndabona ukuzalwa kwamanye amazwe ekhoneni lam iso. Inkqubo yayibonakala iyimvelo kum, engayilungiselelwe amehlo abantu. Ngoko ndagqiba isigqibo sokuba andizange ndibize umyeni wam ukuba abelethe.
Ubuso buka-Anton buyingozi. Andizange ndiyiqonde: ingaba sele ndibeletha, okanye nditya kakhulu. Ekuqaleni sam isisu sam, ndaqalisa ukutsala umva wam. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ndagqiba ekubeni ndibize ugqirha xa kwenzeka. Kwaye uthi kum "Phakamisa izinto ngokukhawuleza uze ushiye." Endleleni, mna no-Anton wema kwi-Kiev-Pechersk Lavra ukusela amanzi, kuba ubusuku bokubhaptizwa. Kwaye ndambuza: "Kubonakala kum, uAntosha, ukuba ndiza kuzalwa ekuseni. Mhlawumbi uza kuhlala nam? Ngokufanayo, andinakulala, kodwa ndiza ndedwa. " Kwaye wavuma. Kodwa akuzange kuthathe ixesha elide ukulinda: emva kokuba kufika ukulwa. Kwikhefu sathetha nodokotela, sahleka.
Ngenxa yoko, uSnezhane Egorova no-Anton Mukharsky bacinga ukuba ukubeletha ngumsebenzi omnandi kakhulu. Kodwa ikhowudi yomntwana sele isele iqale ukuphuma, ndacela indoda yam ukuba ihambe: yayibonakala kum ukuba uya kugula, kwaye esikhundleni sokugxila ekuzalweni, ndicinga ukuba wayevakalelwa njani okanye ukuba ndijonga njani. Kutheni ndifuna le? Ndade ndatsho noogqirha bathi: "Mthabheni ngaphandle!" Bathi kum: "Kutheni, wena, Snezhana, kukho ii-degrees ezingamashumi amabini zeqabunga kwisitalato. Umnini wenja akayi kukhupha ngaphandle kwendlu, kodwa uqhuba umyeni! Siza kumthumela kwigumbi elilandelayo kwaye simcele ukuba angayihloli. " Kodwa kungekudala uArina wazalelwa, u-Anton wabizwa ngokukhawuleza. Xa wayiqhawula intambo, wayengowokuqala ukuthatha intombi yakhe ezandleni zakhe. Ngokusekelwe kumava akho, zeziphi iingenelo zokuba nosapho olukhulu? Okokuqala, xa umntu enabantwana abaninzi, akayikulibala ubuncinane bakhe. Abantwana basigcina kwindawo yokulinda ummangaliso. Ezinye iiholide kwintsapho: Imithi yeKrismesi, amathoyizi endlwini. Ngamafutshane, kukho umoya apho umntu omdala ehlala eminzini yomphefumlo wakhe njengomntwana.
Abantwana - kupholile! Andizi nokuba siza kwenza ntoni nomyeni wam ukuba sasingenayo iPake, uSasha, Andryusha noArina. Kubonakala kum ukuba ebomini bethu ubuninzi obungenamsebenzi obunokuthi buya kubumba.
Ndiyakhumbula umakhulu, owayehlala iminyaka engama-85. Wayenentombi ezisixhenxe kunye nabazukulwana abalishumi elinesibhozo. Andizange ndibone umntu onwabileyo! Mhlawumbi, kum ngolu hlobo kunenhlanhla kakhulu. Andizange ndikhathazeke ngenxa yento endingayenza ngayo inzala eninzi. Ndakhulela kwintsapho apho abantwana babengenanto ingxaki: ukubonakala kwabo kwakulindelwe ngokulangazela.
Ngeli xesha, ndiyazi ukuba kuthini ukuba ngumntwana kuphela wabazali. Nangona ndinezihlobo ezininzi kunye nabazalwana bethu abasondelene nabo, ndandisoloko ndifuna ukuba umntakwethu (okanye "udadewethu") ahlale ekhona xa ndiseyingane. Ngoku, xa ndakhula, andinayo ngokwaneleyo umntu ozalelwe "owam" - kungakhathaliseki ukuba ndilungile okanye ngendawo, ngempumelelo okanye ngiphumelelanga. Indoda ezalwa ngegazi, ngubani, ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo kum, iza kwaye iboleke isandla. Yingakho ndazalela intombi yam yesibini: Ndacinga, mayeke amantombazana ahlale ehlala kunye. Andizange ndiyazi ngoko ukuba andiyi kuyeka kuloo nto. Ndiyonwabile kukuba abantwana bahamba kunye nam yonke into ebomini. Ndifuna ukukholelwa ukuba u-Arina akayi kukwazi ukukhula, njengoko siza kuba nabazukulu - amancinci amancinci amancinci. Kulungile!