Into yesibili, ngaphandle kokungekho mntu onokukwazi ukulawula kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo akayi kukhanyela - lo wesondo wesimo. Njalo kwaye ngamaxesha onke ubulili obuqinileyo befuna ukuba umfazi amthandayo, kwaye waqonda umhlaba wakhe wangaphakathi. Kwaye akazange akwazi ukumqonda, kuba ukuba wayengamthandi ngesondo, akazange afune ukuba ngama-50% naye. Yintoni ongayenza ngayo. Sonke kunye neenkonyane zethu. Kodwa amadoda kulo mbandela acacile kwaye acacisa. Emva koko, xa sifuna iimvakalelo, zifuna iintshukumo ezibaluleke kakhulu kubo. Abanye abesilisa baphishekela isondo ukuze bazinelise. Bacinga ukuba ukubonga kwiindlela zabo kunye nokubonisa isiqingatha sezinto ezivela kwi-Kamasutra, uya kufumana nantoni na, kuba naye uyindoda kunye nenkosi kule shishini. Kwaye bambalwa nje abafuna ukunyanzela umlingani wabo kwaye abenzi amacwecwe kunye naye, kodwa bamane bamhlangule. Amadoda anjalo ayazi ukuba kwizo zesini ezo ziza kuzuza iimvakalelo ezininzi kwaye zisondele ngakumbi. Ngamanye amaxesha isondo ngomntu sinokukhupha emva kokuxinezeleka kwengqondo, okanye mhlawumbi ngokuthe ngqo, ukuyihlawula ngamandla kunye namandla. Ubundlobongela kwisimo salo kubanika ithemba lokuba le ntombazana ingowakhe ngokupheleleyo, kuba bonke abanikazi bendoda, kungakhathaliseki ukuba banobunye ubusuku, inyanga okanye iminyaka yokuphila kunye kunye nolonwabo. Ubuhlobo obusondeleyo buyingxenye yamalungu olwalamano, ngaphandle kwazo zonke ezinye izinto ziya kuqala ukulahlekelwa iipropati zabo. Nangona ubuhle imihla ngemihla umntu oyithandayo, uya kulala kwigumbi lokuzilolonga, udle ngokufanelekileyo kwaye uyondla ngokutya, kwaye ngokuvisisana ngesondo awuyi kumfanelana naye, okanye ngokugqithiseleyo, akayi kubakho, ulwalamano luya kuphuka kancane. Kancinci uzakuqala ukudelelana nomnye, ukuxabana, ukutshatyalaliswa kunye nokucaciswa kobudlelwane, okanye amava aphumlileyo kodwa abuhlungu kwile ngxaki, iya kutshintsha indawo yokukhupha kunye nokuqabana okunomdla. Ngoko ke ukungcatsha kuya kuqala kwaye ubomi buya kuba sihogo. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, isibini sifanele sifunde indlela yokuthetha ngayo. Futhi musa ukuphulaphula kuphela umhlobo wakho, kodwa naye uyayiva, uyiqonde kwaye uyamthemba.
Ngoko, kwizinto ezi-3 abantu abangaze bawunqabe, indawo yesithathu ihlala ixesha eliphumayo kwisiqingatha sesibini okanye intsapho yonke. Ingabonakaliswa kokubili ukuhlala kwedwa, kunye nokuba kwisangqa sohlobo. Indoda yakho kufuneka ikwazi ukuphumla kuwe, kunye nawe. Ndiyazi ukuba oku akuvakalayo kumnandi kakhulu, kodwa kuyinyaniso. Ufuna ixesha lokucinga ngezinto ezininzi, ukuphupha, ukucima okanye ukuyeka ukuhamba. Ngokubanzi, yena, njengomntu oqhelekileyo, kufuneka okungenani ngamanye amaxesha athathwe kwintsapho. Unako ukuyenza into ayithandayo ngeli xesha, umzekelo, udwebe umfanekiso, bhala ivesi, uthathe imifanekiso, ucule, umdaniso, into eyona nto kukuba akukho mntu ubonayo okanye ophazamisayo. Okanye mhlawumbi nje unayo ngokwaneleyo ukubukela iTV kwiindawo eziziqhenyce, ukuze kungabikho mntu uphawula kwifilimu ayithandayo okanye angafuneki ukutshintshela umzila kwiikhathuni.
Amanye amadoda afuna ukuchitha ixesha labo elikhululekile kwisijikelezo sabangani kwaye sithethe nje nayiphi na into, kodwa iya kuba yintetho yesidoda. Jonga kunye nebhola okanye ibhokisi, uphuze ubhiya ngentlanzi. Hamba ukuloba okanye ukuzingela. Ngokubanzi, phumula ebomini kunye nomfazi wakhe omhle nothando. Emva koko uza ekhaya ngengcinga ecocekileyo, enentliziyo ephilileyo, aze amanga yena kuphela, umfazi othanda ukuthanda nokuqonda.
Nazi ezinye izinto ezi-3 ezihlala zihlonishwa ngumntu kwaye akalokothi avume. Bangancediswa ngabanye ngabanye kubo. Ngokomzekelo, i-whim, njengokuhlala kwindlu yangasese kwiminyaka engama-20-30 emva kokufunda incwadi enomdla kunye nemagazini. Okanye uxhonywe kwigaraji, xa sele esele ahlola iqondo leyinjini yekhulu lexesha okanye ihlale iqinisa into apho. Ewe, ngokufutshane, izinto ezincinci ezinokuthi zinzima, into ephambili kukuqonda oku kwaye uthathe umntu wakho njengokuba kunjalo, kunye neenqatha zakhe.