Kubo, umgca kwiphepha lemibuzo "isimo somtshato - singatshatanga" siyinxalenye ebaluleke kakhulu, uphawu lwabo lokwahlukana. Ngaba abanakulahlekelwa njani lo mmahluko ebomini - kunzima ukusho. Bona ngokwabo abafuni ukukhangisa iindlela zabo, kwaye akulula ukuvula isigqubuthelo seemfihlelo zabo. Mhlawumbi yintoni isizathu sokuba ubomi bezilwanyana ezinqabileyo buzungezwe ezininzi zeengcinga kunye neengcamango. Eyona nto iqhubekayo kwaye ihlala idibana nabo siya kuzama ukukhangela.
Inkolelo 1. I-bachelor nayiphi na indoda engatshatanga.
Kule mpazamo yokuqala kunye nenkulu, umntu akakwazi ukuvuma konke. Ukuba umntu usele (okanye sele sele engatshatanga), oku akuthethi ukuba unobhala. Ukuze ubhalise kwindawo yoluntu okholisekileyo uyadinga okungaphezulu kwesitampu esingekho kwipasipoti yakho. Isimo "somtshato" isimo asiyiyo imeko yentlalo, kodwa indlela yokuphila. Isangqa sabantu abanjalo kuncinci kwaye bonke bahlala kude nentsapho. Into ebalulekileyo ye-bachelor yeyona nyaniso iyinkxalabo ekhethekileyo yokungahambi kakuhle kweminqweno yakhe, imikhwa, izinto zokuzilibazisa kunye neziqhotyoshelweyo. Kwaye bayicinga ukuba umtshato uyingozi yokwenene. Yingakho i-bachelors yangempela iyayiqonda into enzima yomtshato.
Okumangalisa ngokwaneleyo, kodwa oku kukukhangela abalandeli kubo. I-bachelor isoloko ngumhlambi wabalingisi kwisandla nangentliziyo. Oku kuhambelana nokukhuphisana - ngubani onokuthi "adibanise" umntu ongenankululeko ongenakukhuseleka?
Inkolelo-mbini 2. I-bachelor isoloko iphantsi kwezinga loluntu.
Ewe, ngokuqinisekileyo kukho ipesenteji ethile "yezilwanyana ezinobomi", abafana baka-mama abancinci, abakwazi ukwenza izinto. Kodwa zisezincinci, kwaye ubuninzi benamadoda angatshatanga banokukwenza, abanobomi abaneleyo. Enyanisweni, oku kukuzinyameko abalindayo ngenzondelelo, ngokuchanekileyo kunye nokuphepha kwabo kwaye abafuni ukuhlukana.
Kubuhlungu ukuvuma, kodwa xa ufika emtshatweni ukuba umntu udla ngokunyanisekileyo ithuba lokufezekisa. Ubomi bentsapho obudla zonke iimpembelelo zokuqala. Ukulingana kwabatshatileyo kukukhohlisa, kodwa ngokwenene umntu ufanele ahlawule amaphupha abo, mhlawumbi nababini ngokukhawuleza. Ngoko i-bachelor - isidalwa asikho nto, kwaye, mhlawumbi, enye indlela ejikeleze. Unayo onke amathuba okuphuhlisa, kwaye akukho mqobo kule nto, ngaphandle, mhlawumbi, ubuvila bakhe.
Intsomi 3. I-Bachelors iyamthiya kwaye iyamoyika abafazi.
Akungabazeki ukuba abafazi ngokwabo, abangazange baphumelele "ukubetha" i-bachelor ethembisayo, beza nale nto. Olu luhlobo lwaso lomntu - aluzange lubonakale ngokucacileyo ukubonisa umnqweno wokuqhankqalaza iofisi yokubhalisa. Abazingeli abaxhamli abayinto engabonakaliyo kwaye bayayijikeleza ngendlela yeshumi. Enyanisweni, bahlala bengenazo iingxaki ekunxibelelaneni nesini esahlukileyo. Ukongezelela, ngu-bachelor okwazi ukuqonda kumfazi, kungekhona umlinganiselo wokuqina komtshato, kodwa ubuntu. Abafundi be-Bachelors baqhelana nabahlobo, abadibaniselwano, abasizi bamabhinqa ebomini. Ngelo xesha, abayidonki nabani na ekhitshini, musa ukukhankanya kwikhati labo elingasigxina kwaye ungazami kwindlalifa yabantwana babo kwikamva.
Kukho, kunjalo, phakathi kwabo kunye ne-misogynists, kodwa akukho ngaphezu kwamanye amadoda. Oku kunokuba ngumlinganiswa wokuziphatha, kwaye akuyona into ebalulekileyo kwimeko yentlalo.
Inkolelo-ngqungquthela 4. I-bachelor ayikwazi ukufumana umsebenzi omhle.
Le ngqungquthela isele idala, kodwa isaphila. Nangona ngexesha lethu inkulumo malunga nabafundi be-bachelors banokuhlulwa kuphela ngabaqeshwa abaqinekileyo beSebe labasebenzi kwizakhiwo zombuso. Isimo sengqondo kuluntu lwabantu namhlanje siye sashintsha ngokuphawulekayo. Abaqeshi abasanda kubheja kwi "zhenatikov" namhlanje bakhetha ukukhetha i-bachelor ye-ambitious. Uhlala ekhululekile, ehambahambayo, unokuhlala nanini na ixesha elingaphezu kwamaxesha angaphezu kwexesha, ngaphandle kokulibaziseka ukuba ahambe ehambo loshishino. Ngokwezibalo, izikhundla eziphezulu ngoku zihlala ngabantu abangatshatanga.
Iingcali 5. Izigulana zingcwatyelwa kwiingxaki zasekhaya.
Umntu olambileyo, ongenalutho ongekho mhlophe kwiingubo ezingcolileyo othi "imeko yentsapho ingatshatanga" ebunzini lakhe, ngoku ungabona kuphela kwifilimu yakudala. I-bachelor yangempela yanamhlanje igcina isimo esifanelekileyo - lo ngumfanekiso wakhe. Izinto eziqhelekileyo zesekhaya ziyakwazi ukujamelana nemicimbi yazo yansuku zonke. I-bachelor iyaneliswa kukuba unokukwazi ukujongana nemiba yasekhaya eyedwa. Kwiimeko ezibucayi, inkonzo yobomi bemihla ngemihla okanye omnye wabancedisi bokuzithandela ehlala ekhona kwiluhlu lwayo oluphuthumayo uya kunceda.
Inkolelo-ngqangi 6. I-bachelor ayinayo ngokwaneleyo ngesondo.
Le ngcamango ephosakeleyo, edlalwa ngabantu abatshatileyo. Bona, mhlawumbi, banomona. Ingxabano yabo eyintloko - "i-bachelor ayikwazi ukwenza uthando xa efuna nje, kwaye umfazi usoloko ehamba." Enyanisweni, yonke into ihamba ngokuphambene naleyo - le ndoda esitshatileyo isoloko ikulinda umzuzu xa abantwana behamba nogogo okanye xa umfazi uphela iintsuku ezibalulekileyo. I-bachelor kwimeko enjalo isoloko inokhetho lokugcina (kwaye akukho nanye).
Kwaye kukho enye into. Indoda esitshatileyo iyanyanzelekile ukuba yenze uthando xa engafuni. I-bachelor ayifuni ukuzinyanzela ngenxa yokwesaba ukuhlaziswa yi-"engenamandla" okanye "inqabileyo".
Iingcali 7. Izigulane zihlala ngaphantsi.
Kukho ukubalwa okungalungile. Inyaniso kukuba, abantu abatsha abangakaze babe nexesha lokutshata bavame ukubhekwa njengezilwanyana, okuye ngokwabo kunciphisa umlinganiselo wexesha eliphakathi. Kwaye abanye abaphandi babhekisela kwizibhedlele kunye nokuqhawula umtshato. Oku kuphazamisa kakhulu amanani.
Kubonakala ngathi akukho mbambano okholisa ngokwenene ngokuphathelele "inxaxheba kwentlalo-engatshatanga". Kodwa kunjalo, malunga namaxesha amaninzi ngonyaka, xa bonke abahlobo abatshatileyo bevuyiswa ngeeholide zentsapho emva kwesitya se-Olivier, i-bachelor iba buhlungu. Ngaloo nto ucinga ngokufihlakeleyo ngomlingane wokuphila. Kwaye ngaloo mzuzu i-bachelor iyona nto inobungozi.