Naliphi na ibali lomthando liqala ngethuba elingenakulibaleka, umcimbi, umhla wokuthandana, ovelisa umboniso wokuqala kunye ongenakulibaleka. Uthando lobudlelwane lwakhiwa ngabantu ababini, balwela ulonwabo kunye nekamva. Imihla yokuqala yimiba ebalulekileyo ebomini besibini, kuba le isiseko sekamva. Ngoko ke, kwinqanaba lokuqala, izibini zizama ukukholisa kwaye zikumangalisana. Ukubonisa uvelwano nothando kwisiqingatha sakho sesibini kuyisitshixo kwixesha elide kunye nolonwabo oluthandayo. Emva koko, wonk 'ubani uyavuyiswa ukubona xa iqabane eliqhelekileyo, elithandwayo iminyaka emininzi, lilungisa imihla yothando kunye neentlungu kumnye nomnye. Yonke intokazi esesitheni yincinci encinci, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ubudala bayo kunye namaphupha onke amabhinqa endalini. Kodwa xa iindaba zobomi zifika ebomini bethu, sizama ukufumana uhlobo oluthile lobuqhetseba. Siqala ukuhlaziya iingcamango, ukuqikelela, ngakumbi ukuba umntu, uthi ndiyamthanda kwiintlanganiso zokuqala
Ukuvuma ukuthanda kuthatha isinyathelo esinzulu sokuthanda, kuthetha ukuba uthemba kwaye uyathemba iimvakalelo zakho, ubomi kumntu okhethekileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo owokuqala ukuphula abafazi. Oku akusiyiphutha, kuba sithandana, sinyanisekile, kwaye simemezela ngokwemvelo ukuba bazinike baze bahlanganyele uthando lwabo. Ukuba ungowokuqala ukuvuma ukuba uyamthanda, indoda yakho ayiyikumangaliswa nje kuphela, kodwa iya kuxabisa inkalipho yakho kunye nokunyaniseka, xabisa isinyathelo sakho sokuqala nesona sinoxanduva.
Xa ulwalamano, utyhafiswa yimvakalelo, leyo ngokwayo izisa ixesha lokubongwa ngothando kumntu wakho. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba ukubonakaliswa kothando kwenzeka kwangaphambili kwaye kungekhona kwinqanaba lakho. Kuthiwani ukuba umntu uthi "uthando" kwintlanganiso yokuqala? Indlela yokusabela ngayo kule nto kwaye kutheni ukwenza oku?
Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba ngenxa yokungafani kobulili kunye nokwahlukana, amadoda nabasetyhini bahluke kwihlabathi jikelele, ngobuzwe kunye nokuqonda konke okwenzekayo. Ngoko ke, asiyiqondi isizathu sokuba umntu athi "Ndiyamthanda" kwiintlanganiso zokuqala. Mhlawumbi lesi sicwangciso sobuqili, esinye sezinto zesicwangciso sakhe esingenakucala sokubamba intliziyo yethu, okanye mhlawumbi okuchasayo kukubonakalisa ubuthathaka bakhe. Into ephambili ekuqwalaseleni ukuba ungumntu uthi "Ndiyamthanda" kwiintlanganiso zokuqala kwaye kungekhona kuphela. Emva kwakho konke, amadoda angokwemvelo ehlabayo ngamazwi, kwaye awakuthi lutho.
Okokuqala, cinga uphinde uhlalutye uhlobo oluthile lolwalamano lwakho kunye nomfana wakho. Ukuba ucinga ukuba ungumhlobo okanye mhlawumbi ungaziwa, kodwa uvele kwinqanaba lokuseka uqhagamshelwano, ke ungagqibi ukuya kwizigqibo. Indoda ayiyi kuvuma ukuthanda, umfazi owaziwayo. Mhlawumbi, kwaye ngenxa yoko udibana naye, mhlawumbi ulungelelanise yonke into, ehlelwe kunye nabahlobo ukuba baqhelane nawe ngokusondeleyo, okanye ngokufanayo yena wathabatha inyathelo. Ngoko ke, njengendlela yokukhetha, ukuba umntu uthi "Ndiyamthanda" kwiintlanganiso zokuqala, ngoko ulungele ukuziphatha ngokuzibandakanya nawe ekuhlanganyeleni emphefumlweni wakhe. Xelela ngeemvakalelo zakho, into ayenayo ngaphambi kokuba uqhelane. Kule nto akukho nto ikukhathazayo ngayo, yinto eyahlukileyo. Akayena ilitye, unako ukuphula, ukuba nje ube nawe, abafana abamele balahleke. Akayizihlazo zeemvakalelo zakhe kwaye unokuzibonisa ngokukhululekileyo nangenkululeko, akusiyo yonke intokazi ephuphayo ngayo?
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba umntu uthi "uthando" kwintlanganiso yokuqala, kodwa akathethi ukuba, kubi. Kungenzeka ukuba uzama ukukwenza uzive kakuhle, kuba abafazi bathanda indlebe. Kodwa ucinga ukuba, ngaba ihambelana nawe? Ngaba unelisekile ukuba umntu uthi ndiyamthanda ezintlanganisweni zokuqala, ukuba nje ndibophe umfazi kum ngokwamabinzana afudumeleyo? Ukuba kunjalo, wayedlala umdlalo wakhe ngokugqibeleleyo, wafumana oko wayekufunayo, wakunqoba kunye nama-pacifiers, ngamazwi amanga. Ukuba ayikufanelanga, musa ukukhawuleza kwinqabana uze uchithe ubudlelwane nomntu. Mhlawumbi akazange afune ukukusebenzisa nje, kodwa wayefuna ukuqinisa ubudlelwane kwinqanaba lokuqala. Yaye ngokutsho kobubudenge bakhe wathi, yintoni ekungeyayithethiwe ngoku, kuba kufuneka uvelise iimvakalelo zakho, kwaye ungathethi nje ngabo. Ewe, loo mntu wenza iphutha, kodwa ngenxa yokulungileyo, unokuxolelwa.
Kodwa ukuba umntu uthi "Ndiyamthanda" kwiintlanganiso zokuqala kunye nakwiiyure zokuqala zobudlelwane bakho ngokucacileyo kwaye rhoqo. Cinga ukuba mhlawumbi ufuna kuwe ngaphezu kokuba uhlangane kunye nothando akuxelela lona. Akukho nto ephosakeleyo ngokuba nendoda kunye nowesifazane olala ngesini kwinqanaba lokuba nobuhlobo babo, kodwa isondo akufanele sibe sizathu sokuba indoda ifuna ukuba nani. Emva koko, ngokukhawuleza akufunayo kwaye wayifumana, ngokukhawuleza unako ukugqiba isigqibo, kodwa kuya kukulimaza. Funda ukubonwa komntu othandanayo nawe phakathi kwemigca, kuba phakathi kwemigca kukho konke okusemgangathweni komyalezo.
Abantu abane-Smart bathi basetyhini bakhetha amadoda abo, kodwa into yokuba ekugqibeleni bagqithise amanyathelo akuthethi ukuba abazange babambe ukukhathazeka kwengqondo yakho. Umfazi ohlakaniphile ngokwakhe uya kukhetha indoda yakhe ethandekayo aze amvumele kuqala ukuba avume uthando lwakhe, ukuba wayeziva eyona nto, eyona yokuqala, eqinile. Le ngenye yeendlela zokukhohlisa intombi ekhaliphile neqhinga elifuna ukuthandwa.
Kwaye ukuba umntu uthi "Ndiyamthanda" ezintlanganisweni zokuqala, oko kuya kuba nokuba unyanzelekile kwaye unengqondo. Kwaye akusiyo iphutha, into ephambili kukuba umntu uyazi ukuba uthetha, okuya kuba mnandi nawuphi na umfazi. Ngako oko, kungcono ukuvuya ukuba umntu ufumene amandla ukuxelela umfazi ngeemvakalelo zakhe, kunokuba abe kunye naye ixesha elide kwaye ulindele ukuvakaliswa ngothando. Okungenakwenzeka.
Kodwa ungathini ukuba ungaphambuki, akukho mfazi omnye ongenakuvuma ukuba uyamthanda. Kwaye akunandaba, kuya kuba ngeentlanganiso zokuqala okanye emva kobudlelwane obude, into ephambili umntu ayithandayo, kwaye uyayiqonda xa kukufanelekile ukuvakalisa nokuvakalisa iimvakalelo zakho.