Amadoda nabasetyhini bafana ngeendlela ezininzi kwaye kunjalo, ukuze baphendule umbuzo obonwe, kubalulekile ukuqwalasela ukungafani kwabo. Ukwahlukana kubangelwa zizizathu ezahlukeneyo: i-biological, ingqondo kunye nentlalo.
Idivaysi eyahlukeneyo yezesondo zenza ubundlobongela obuhlukeneyo. Ibhinqa lihlala li-sexy, indoda kuphela ngamanye amaxesha. Indoda ilawula isigxina sakhe sezesondo, umfazi, ngokuchaseneyo, unamandla akhe. Kwizinto eziphilayo, indoda inxulumene neyobhinqa yecala elikhuselayo, elisebenzayo. Ibhinqa yinto yokuhlaselwa.
Ekubeni umntu edibanisa i-biological and social in the same way, indoda elala ngesondo ijwayele ukuhlaselwa, kwaye umfazi unakho ukuvelisa. Ukwahluka kokukhula kunye nobuhlunu be-muscle abuhluleli nje kuphela amadoda kunye nabasetyhini kwisini esomeleleyo nesinyanzelekileyo, kodwa kubangela ezininzi izichaso: umsebenzi - ukungahambisani, amandla-ukungeniswa, ingqiqo-intuition, ukulandelelanisa - i-chaos, njl njl. Imvelaphi eyahlukeneyo ye-hormonal iqinisa kuphela umahluko phakathi kwesini. Umxholo ophezulu we testosterone wenza indoda ibe nefuthe. Yingakho abesetyhini benza amacala ambalwa kunoko amadoda. Kwakhona, phakathi kwezinto eziphilayo zohlukwano, ukukhankanywa kufuneka kwenziwe ngokuxhomekeka komzimba wesetyhini kunye ne-psyche kwixesha lokuya esikhathini.
Ubukho beengxaki zengqondo phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini akunakuzaza. Inani elikhulu lophando lwenziwa kwiingxelo zezi zigqibo ezilandelayo. Abasetyhini banamakhono amanqaku, amadoda anenzuzo kumboniso-wendawo. Abasetyhini banemvakalelo nangakumbi. Indoda ihlala ingqiqo, umfazi-engazi, uyayibona indoda.
Ingcamango yowesifazane ibhenxa phezu komhlaba, indoda isetyenziselwa ukungena kwizinto ezisisiseko. Amantombazana nabasetyhini ba bhetele ekujonganeni nemisebenzi eqhelekileyo. Baye banqwenela ukungathandabuzeki kwaye bangacetyiswa, banezinga eliphantsi lokuzithemba. Amadoda anamakhono aphakamileyo emathematika, aphethwe kakhulu ngendalo. Abasetyhini banophuculo oluthe xaxa, kunye nombono womntu (umfazi uthanda indlebe, indoda-amehlo). Ngendlela, amadoda nabesifazane baqonda ngokungafani ukubonakala komntu: indoda "ibona" kwingqibelelo, kunye nomfazi - ngokubanzi. Yaye uzame ukumqinisekisa ukuba umntu ulungile, ukuba uthe, akazange afune impumlo okanye iinwele zakhe.
Umntu noluntu aluhluleki. Kuphela kuluntu lwakhiwa ukukhathazeka. Intlalo ephakamileyo yoluntu yomntu ivela kwintsapho, kwimeko, isikolo. Akunjalo indima encinci idlalwe ngamajelo. Umntwana "uzama" inxaxheba yakhe yesini, kunye nolwimi, imfundo, inkcubeko, inkolo, inkolo, iyomeleza kuphela. Kwaye kule nkalo yeengxaki zibandakanya: iindibano zesini, ukwahlukana kwezabasebenzi ngokwesini kubafundi besifazane nabesilisa, ukucalulwa ...
Ngoko ke, umbuzo othi kutheni kunzima ukuba umntu aqonde iingxaki zabesetyhini akakwazi ukumangaliswa. Akuyena onke amabhinqa aya kuqondwa ngabantu. Amadoda ayayiqondi imeko yabasetyhini, abafazi abaqondi abantu. Ukunyathela ngokwakho kwaye isitshixo sakho akunakwenzeka, kwaye akukho mfuneko. Ubume bowesifazane ngumfazi kangangokuthi udla ngeengxaki ngokwakhe. Ingxaki zabesetyhini - "Yintoni enxibayo?", "Ndiyatyebile," "Akangithandi," njl. Ngaphandle kokuba "iingxaki" ezinjalo ubomi bobulili obufanelekileyo bungaba buhlungu.
Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, iingxaki zangempela, oko kukuthi, iingxaki ebubudlelwaneni, xa indoda kunye nomfazi bengayiqondi, kuyimfuneko ukugqiba, kwaye kungabikho ukuqokelela. Yenza oku, awuyidingi "kwi-bell tower," kodwa ucinga ngengqalelo yesini esahlukileyo. Ukuba kukho ukungavumelani okukhulu, ukuphinde ufundisane omnye akunakuncedo, kuthana nokuthetha kumntu: "Yiba ngumfazi!" Okanye-kumfazi: "Yiba ngumntu!"
Ukuba unengxaki ezininzi, unokungenalo ulwazi olwaneleyo malunga neengqondo zesini okanye ubugcisa bokuhlala kunye. Kule meko, iintetho ezikhethekileyo kunye neeminina eziphathelele ubudlelwane phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini zinceda kakhulu. Kubudlelwane, kuvela, kunamalungelo kunye noxanduva lwawo onke amaqela. Ukutyelela ezo zifundo kunye, unokufikelela kwiziphumo eziphantse. Ukuba iqabane lakho lichasene, qalisa ukuguqula. Unokukunceda uncwadi olukhethekileyo, intsingiselo edlalwa ngokubanzi ekufundiseni umfazi ukuba abe ngowesifazana, kwaye umntu abe nesibindi.
Ingxaki ayiyikuxhoma kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo, ukukwazi ukufumana ukufana okuninzi kunye namanqaku oqha ga mshelwano. Amadoda nabasetyhini bahlukileyo, kodwa abahambisani nomnye, baxhasana kuzo zonke izinto.