Ukwesaba okumalunga nobudala bubonakaliswe ngokuqhelaniswa nokuziqhelanisa ezithile, ngoko ke kwiinyanga ezi-1-4 umntwana ukhuphuka ebusweni obubukhali, obukhanyayo kunye nesandi; Kwiminyaka eyi-1.5 umntwana uloyiko lokulahlekelwa ngumama wakhe, uyamlandela ngokusondeleyo, angavumeli ukuya kuye isinyathelo esinye; kwiminyaka eyi-3-4, abantwana bayesaba umnyama; Iminyaka engama-6-8 yabantwana bayesaba ukubulawa kwabo, ukufa kwabathandekayo kunye nezihlobo. Lo mzali kufanele alungiselele ukujamelana noyiko lwabantwana bakhe ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo obomi babo.
Uloyiko oluqhelekileyo kubantwana luloyiko lobumnyama. Xa uneminyaka engama-3-4 ubudala, abantwana banokwesaba ubumnyama, ukungaqiniseki, ubungabodwa. Kodwa kutheni umntwana eyika u bumnyama? Oku kungenxa yokuphuhliswa kwengcinga yakhe kunye nokukwazi ukucinga. Ukongezelela, abantwana bayesaba indawo abangakwazi ukuyilawula, kwaye ubumnyama, njengomthetho, kumvimbela ukuba enze njalo. Ingqondo yengane ingakwazi ukudala imodeli elula yeemeko kwaye zibale izihlunu zazo, yeso sizathu sinoyiko ngamacangca amnyama, iiconic, ezingekho izikhala ezikhanyayo, zinokuthi zifihle ingozi. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana abanakho ukuchazela isizathu sokwesaba kwabo, ngoko abazali kufuneka bancede inkonyana ihlangabezane nale ngxaki.
Siye saqikelela ukuba kutheni umntwana oyika ebumnyameni ixesha elide. Kwaye ukwenza kube lula kubazali ukujongana noloyiko lwabantwana, unokwenza iziphakamiso ezimbalwa ezilukhuni:
1. Mamela ngokucophelela ibali lomntwana lokwesaba kwakhe. Ngenkcukacha, mbuze ngale nkwantyi, zonke iinkcukacha ngokubanzi. Ungesabi, ngoko ke, mvumele umntwana azi ukuba yintoni ebangela ukwesaba kwakhe nendlela oza kunqoba ngayo loyiko. Umsebenzi wakho oyintloko kukuvumela umntwana ukuba aqonde into onokuyenza kwaye kufuneka alwe noyiko, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu kuwe.
2. Umntwana wakho kufuneka azive ngenkxaso yabazali ekulweni noloyiko. Kufuneka azi ukuba uya kuhlala usondele. Ekuqaleni, linda umzuzwana xa umntwana elele ngokulala, kwaye emva koko ushiye ekamelweni, kwaye ngokuhlwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo ungena kwii-nursery, ukuqinisekisa ukuba yonke into ihambelana nomntwana.
3. Chaza kumntwana ukuba, ngokuqala kobumnyama, igumbi lihlala lifanayo, akukho zilo zibonakala kuyo, zonke izinto zihlala kwindawo enye kunye nobukhulu obufanayo. Abantu abadala bayazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba umntwana akasongelwa, kodwa akayikugculela le nkxalabo yabantwana, kodwa kunoko uhambe egumbini elimnyama kunye nosana uze utshele kwaye ubonise yonke into oyibonayo kwi-nursery, uchaza ukuba ayesabi nto. Funda uluvo lomntwana, oku kubaluleke kakhulu kuye.
4. Ukuba uqaphela ukuba umntwana uqala ukuthetha njalo ngesaba, babuze imibuzo malunga nabo, bahlanganise ukwesaba kwabo kwimidlalo, babuze abantu abadala ukuba bathethe amabali awonayo, konke kubonisa ukuba umntwana ngokwakhe uzama ukujamelana noyiko lwakhe, ungesabi , kodwa nje ukuxhasa, qiniseka ukuphendula imibuzo kunye nezicelo. Kwaye ukuba kunokwenzeka, bonisa iindlela ezintsha zokulwa nokukwesaba, ukuba iindlela zayo, ngenxa yezizathu ezithile azisebenzi.
5. Yintoni eya kujamelana noyiko lobumnyama, unokwakheka umntwana kumnyama, ngokudlala ufihle kwaye ufune kwigumbi elimnyama. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kuyo yonke into enokwenzeka, uqeqesho lomntwana ukuphucula izakhono zokunqoba ukwesaba nokuzithiba, ngokuzayo kuya kunceda ufunde ukunqoba kalula naziphi na ezinye iingxaki.
6. Gweba inkqubo yokuthetha nabantwana bee binzana: "Ndiya kuhamba ndize ndibuyele", "Ndiya kuma sitrato", "Beka ekhoneni", "Hlalani nedwa", "Zapru kwindawo yokuhlambela", "Ndiza kuliphosa kwinqwelo".
7. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, utshintshe indawo yezinto egumbini, ngokuninzi kunokwenzeka ukususa iikona kunye neendawo ezikhululekile ezibangele ukukhathazeka kwengane.
8. Ukuba umntwana esaba ukulala egumbini elimnyama, zama ukushiya isibane okanye ukukhanya ebusuku kusigumbi. Ungasebenzisa izibane ezikhanyayo, uhlambela imifanekiso ehambayo eludongeni okanye kwisiqwenga, esayikuguqula ingqalelo yomntwana kwiingcamango zakhe kunye nokoyika.
9. Ikhefu lezilwanyana eklasini lakhe, ikati kunye neenja zilungile kule nto. Kwaye izilwanyana ngokwazo azifuni ukuhlala nazo, musa ukuphazamisana nazo.
10. Cela umntwana ukuba enze ukwesaba kwakhe emfanekisweni, kwaye kunye kunye naye ukutshabalalisa loloyiko. Izindlela zokutshatyalaliswa zingaba zininzi, zinokutshatyalaliswa yigorha yeqabane elinesibindi, umntwana angakwazi, ukuhlamba ngamanzi ukusuka kumfanekiso, ukutshintsha kokutshisa okanye ukusika izicucu kuya kwenza. Unokunikela ngento ekhohlakeleyo, xa ugqiba ukwesaba into enokuyenza ibe yinto ehlekisayo kwaye ingenacala.
11. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, shiya umntwana wakho ebusuku ebusuku egumbini lakho lokulala iminyaka engama-3-4, kungekhona ukuba iphupha lifanele libe kwibhedeni lomzali. Yaye ukuba umntwana unenkxalabo yokwesaba, ke inkqubo yokumfundisa kwiphupha elihlukile ilungile ixesha elithile ukuyeka.
12. Uncedo kakhulu, kunokubakho amabali ngabazali malunga noyiko lwabantwana bobusuku, kodwa kuya kuba kuhle ukuthetha ngendlela owawunqobile ngayo, okokuba konke ukwesaba kuphelile.
Ukongezelela, zama ukuphepha imidlalo enomsindo kunye neyomsindo ngaphambi kwexesha lokulala, ngeli xesha, kungcono ukuyeka ukubukela iTV. Iyure enye ngaphambi kokulala, unike umntwana itiye elifudumele elenziwe kwi-minti, i-lemon balm, i-currant emnyama, i-chamomile kunye ne-thyme, enezela ubusi oluncinane. Esikhundleni seti, ubisi olufudumele kunye nobusi okanye i-yogurt kulungile. Ngaphambi kokulala, mfundele incwadi yakhe ayithandayo okanye ibhali. Ukuhlamba kunye nee-herbs eziphuculayo zilula ukulala. Ungasebenzisa amafutha anamakha anciphisa ukunyaniseka nokuphucula ukulala kwamaqabunga.
Yiba neentlonelo kubantwana bakho, bathethe nabo rhoqo kwaye uxoxe ngazo zonke ezoyiko kwaye uya kunceda umntwana wakho akhule abe ngumntu ophumelelayo nonamandla onokufumana indawo yakhe kwihlabathi leengxaki. Ingqwalasela yakho kunye nokuqonda yinto ebalulekileyo kwaye iyimfuneko ukuba unikwe umntu omncinci, ngelixa ehlala encike kakhulu kuwe.