Ufuna ntoni?
Umfazi ophumelelayo ufuna ntoni? Ufuna umntu onjani?
Njengomthetho, abo basetyhini abanokuzibonela ngokwabo, banomdla kubantu njengabanye, kodwa banemfuneko emininzi yamadoda. Bafuna ukubona umntu osondeleyo olinganayo onokulingana nomgangatho wokuphila, kodwa akayi kuwukhupha.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi abanjalo bayavuma ukuba babe ngabendlukazi okanye ukugcina indoda, ngoko isibambiso sobudlelwane obuhle nabo sinokuhlonipha nokulingana. Ukuba ungazi ukuba ungayinqoba njani umfazi ophumeleleyo, okokuqala, wena ngokwakho kuya kufuneka ube yomelele, uqiniseke, uphumelele, kodwa unzima kwaye unako ukunyaniseka. Kwaba besetyhini abanomdla kakhulu bafuna intsapho efudumeleyo neyomeleleyo, ininzi yabo iphupha ngabantwana, abayilungele ukwakha ubudlelwane nabani na odibeneyo ebomini babo kwaye kakhulu ingakumbi ngale ngxaki. Yintoni enokuthi ithathelwe ingqalelo xa idibana nomfazi onzima kangaka.
Ungayinceda njani?
Ungayinqoba njani umfazi ophumelelayo onayo yonke into? Umbuzo unzima kakhulu, kodwa kukho impendulo kuwo. Okokuqala, musa ukukhuphela okhethiweyo ngeengxaki zakho. Nangona kukho naziphi iingxaki ebomini bakho, akufanele uzame ukuzisombulula ngeendleko zalo. Kubomi babantu abaphumelele, baneengxaki zabo, abakhetha ukujongana nazo. Ezinye iingxaki zabantu aziyi kubuya uvelwano, kodwa kuphela ukuphazamiseka, kutheni umntu omdala engakwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kwenkxaso yowesifazane.
Okwesibini, umzamo wokunqoba loo ntokazi ngeemali ayiyisisombululo esihle. Njengomthetho, abafazi abaphumelelayo ngokwabo bafumana kakuhle kwaye abadingi inkxaso yezemali. Ukuba unika izipho , ngoko akufanele zihlahle, khetha izinto ezintle ezenziwe ngongcamango, kodwa ungazami ukufumbathisa ukhetho lwakho. Ukuba uthe wadibana, oku kufuneka kube yindawo ehambelana nenqanaba lowesifazane. Oku kusenokungabi yindawo yokudlela eyabiza, ngamanye amaxesha ukuhlwa kobomi ephahleni lwezindlu eziqhelekileyo kuya kushiya izinto ezintle kunezikhundla eziphezulu. Into eyona nto kukuba akufanele ahlaziye.
Okwesithathu, kholosa intliziyo ngaphezu kwengqondo. Abasetyhini abaphumeleleyo bayayixabisa imfesane kunye nomdla, kungekhona ingqondo engenangqondo. Ukuba ibhinqa liphumelele ukuphumelela ebomini, ngoko iyanelisekile iimeko apho kukho ukuqonda okubandayo kuyimfuneko. Nika enye indlela efanelekileyo.
Okwesine, akubandakanyi ebuhlotsheni bakho nakwizinto zokuzibuza. Abasetyhini abaphumelelayo banamhlanje bajamelana neemeko, xa bezama ukusebenzisa iinjongo zabo. Bayazi indlela yokwahlula abantu abanjalo, kwaye abayi kuphinda bewele ukukhohlisa, nantoni na ocinga ngayo.
Amadoda asandul 'ukutshintsha iimbono zabo ngokubaluleka kweempawu ezithile zabasetyhini ngobuhlobo obunzulu. Kodwa abazange balungele ukutshintsha ama-dummies axhomekeke kumamakazi anelisekile, kuba ngokuqinisekileyo abazi ukuba banokuwunqoba njani umfazi ophumelelayo. Kwimo yabo sengqondo, iindlela ezifanayo zokufumana iintombazana eziqhelekileyo azizisebenzisi, zihlakaniphe, zikholose kwaye zisoloko zikhohlakele. Konke oku koyikisa abantu kunye nokutsala ngexesha elifanayo. Imfihlelo kukuba ube nguwe. Ukuba imali kunye nesimo sakho asinomdla, njengamaxesha aqhelekileyo kunye namantombazana aqhelekileyo, ke kukho ithuba lokuba umntu okhethiweyo uya kuba nomdla kwingqondo yakho, umlingiswa, amava, indlela yokunxibelelana, uxolo lwangaphakathi. Ukuba umntu uyaqiniseka ukuba unayo into enikezela ngayo kumfazi onjalo, ngaphandle kwemali, uya kuphumelela.