Kutheni sifunde esi sihloko esiyinkimbinkimbi ukuze sicinge kunye nohlalutyo: iingxaki zentlalo-yengqondo yentsapho enotywala? Ngenxa yezizathu zokuba utywala kakubi kakubi kuphela umntu ogulayo, kodwa nangakumbi kwintsapho, ngoko ngoku ukusela utywala kubonwa njengentsapho yokugula. Ukuze ufumane izigqibo, kwaye kungcono ukufumanisa yonke into malunga nesifo, qwalasela izinto ezifana nomxholo wesifo ngokwawo, izizathu zokuvela kwayo, iziphumo zomntu kunye nentsapho yonke.
Utywala buyisifo apho umntu asebenzisa kakubi utywala, kwaye ngexesha elifanayo sele sele efumene imiphumo emibini, i-biological and psychological-social. Ngaphambili, xa utywala bevela kwiinkcubeko zamandulo, kwakusetyenziselwa ukuqhuba imikhosi yasendulo ngokuzenzekelayo, ngelixa usebenzisa iziphuzo eziphantsi kotywala. Emva koko isifo saqala ukukhula, xa kubonakala ukuxhamla kwintlalo njengobuncwane, kwaye abantu baqala ukuphepha iingxaki zemihla ngemihla. Nanamhla, ingxaki yokusela utywala imane ikhupha, mhlawumbi esi sixhobo esizibulala thina abantu bethu ngaphakathi.
Njengoko kubangelwa imbangela yokusela utywala, abaninzi banokuthatha isenzo esisigxina esenzeka emva kokusela utywala. Emva koko, ekungeneni kwamanqanaba athathaka, kunceda ukuphumla, ujabule, ube namandla, ukunqoba ubunzima beengqondo. Ukongezelela, izizathu zokunxiliswa kotywala zingabelana ngamacandelo amabini: izinto ezichaphazela ukufumaneka kotywala kunye nophuhliso lwayo kumntu, kunye nezizathu ezibangela ukuphuhliswa kwayo kwintlalo yoluntu.
Phakathi kwezimbangela ezibalulekileyo zokuvela kotywala njengesifo, kuya kubakho: i-socio-genetic (iimpawu zeemeko zentlalo kunye nesimo sengqondo sabantu), kwengqondo, njengendlela yokubonisa ukungabikho kwengqondo kwengqondo yomntu ngamnye, ukungaphuhliswa kweenkqubo zokuziphatha kunye neengxaki zangaphakathi ngokubhekiselele kuyo. Iimbangela ze-Genetic zibonisa ukuxhomekeka kwesi sifo, ngenxa yokuba utywala luyisifo esiza kufa. Nokwabelwana nenani lezinto eziphilayo, ezibandakanya isidingo somntu ngezinto ezifanelekileyo, ukuxhomekeke kuzo, njl njl.
Esinye sezizathu zikwazisa utywala lwentlanga yanamhlanje, ukutywala utywala kwiimeko ezininzi kubonwa njengento efanelekileyo ngenxa yokungabikho kwemiphumo ebalulekileyo. Abantu bafumana ngaphezulu nangaphezulu bejwayele kulo, ubudala bokusela utywala buyancipha, ekugqibeleni siyabona ukuba utshutshiso lunokuvela kwi ... abantwana. Ngaba sifuna ikamva elinjalo? Esi sifo ngokwazo asikho nje kwengqondo kuphela kodwa kuxhomekeke ekuxhomekeke kwezinto eziphilayo, iziyobisi, kunye nento ebaluleke kakhulu yokungabonxibelelwano. Utywala, kwiimeko ezininzi, ngumntu ozikhuselayo ngokunyanisekileyo, ukusela, ukuguqula inyaniso yakhe kunye nabathandekayo bakhe, ukwanelisa iimfuno zakhe, nangona zicelo zabanye.
Utywala luquka imiphumo emibi yemeko eyahlukileyo, kokubili i-biological and social, yengqondo. Ukongezelela, umonakalo ufikelela kwinani elikhulu labantu, ekubeni utywala adala iingxaki nje kuphela, kodwa nakwabantwana bakhe besikhathi esizayo, kwintsapho kunye nemeko ayenayo ngoku, kunye nelizwe lakhe. Umntu oyedwa ozuza kwixwala ngumvelisi wakhe, kuba kuyaziwa ukuba ukuvelisa utywala kubhetele kakhulu.
Ukuba sithatha iimeko zentlalo neengqondo-izizathu zentlalo yobunxila, iziphumo zazo ziya kugcinwa ngaphakathi kwezi zimbini. Ngokubanzi, luluhlu lweengqondo, ezentlalo, ezonyango kunye nemiphumo yomthetho. Ngokusetyenziswa kotywala, ubugebengu buphindaphinda, kunye nenkalo yaso ecacileyo lukhokelo lobuntu bomntu. Utywala luba sesithathu kunye nezizathu zokufa, lubhubhisa umzimba, inkqubo yeentlungu; Ukulimala ngokwengqondo kotywala kunokugqithiseleyo. Imiphumo iya kuba yintlupheko yezoqoqosho ekudakwa utywala, ukuhla kwexesha lokuphila, ukwehla kwamandla okusebenza kunye nezakhono ezahlukeneyo, ukwanda kweendleko zempilo, ukwanda kolwaphulo-mthetho, ukuphulwa kobudlelwane nabanye, ukuxabana.
Iingxaki zentlalo-yengqondo zentsapho kunye notywala ziya kubaluleka kakhulu. Utywala bukhokelela ekuqhawuleni umtshato, ukungquzulana, ukungaboni kakuhle kwentsapho, ukuphulwa kobudlelwane, uxinzelelo, iingxaki, ukunyamekela kwamalungu osapho olunxilisayo. Yintoni ekuxhomekeke kwintsebenziswano yamalungu entsapho, phakathi kwabo onxilisayo? Ukuzithoba, ukuphika iingxaki zomntu, ukulahlekelwa ngumlawuli kwisigulane sobomi, kunye nokwakhe. Utywala buyonakalisa ubomi kunye neentsapho zomntwana wakho, xa ufikelela kuma-65 ukuya kuma-80 ekhulwini oonyana bakho baba yizidyobisi okanye izilwanyana. Kwiimantombazana, umlinganiselo ungaphantsi, kodwa zichaphazela uluntu. Kubantwana, utywala lwabazali lubuhlungu ngokukhethekileyo kwaye lunokubangela ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo, ekugqithiseni - ukunyamezela kunye neentsholongwane. Utywala nabo ngokwabo banokubandezeleka ngenxa yokudakumba, ngaphezu koko, baninzi amathuba okufumana iingxaki zengqondo zengqondo.
Zizinyame wena kunye nosapho lwakho, ungangqubuzeki kwimpembelelo yotywala kwaye uncede abanye abasondeleyo. Mhlawumbi kwixesha elizayo, ngemizamo ehlangeneyo, siya kukwazi ukunqoba le ngxaki.