Ukuba umama wale nkwenkwe unomusa, uqonda kwaye unyana onothando, ngoko ke, kunokwenzeka ukuba, kuhle kakhulu, ukuba abe njengaye. Kakade ke, kufuneka nje uqinisekise ukuba le ndoda ayifuni ukukuphatha njengomama wayo. Kule meko, uya kuqalisa ukuphakamisa amabango esiwajwayele ukubuyela kubazali bethu, eyazi ukuba abayi kuyeka kwaye bazalise zonke iifom. Leyo ayiyona indlela efanelekileyo yokuphuhlisa ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nentombazana, kuba ayidingi kuphela, kodwa uyayidinga. Kwaye simthanda uMama ngakumbi kunokuba sikhathalele. Kwaye senza okuncinci kubo kunokuba basenzela zona. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba sizama njani ukunceda nokuxhasa, ngokufanayo, iimfuno zethu kubazali zihlala ziphakamileyo kunokuba zibuyele. Ngoko ke, ukuba umntu uthi ukhumbuze unina, yonwabele, kodwa qaphela. Inyaniso kukuba umama akafuni ukuba athathe indawo yakhe. Nangona kunjalo, oomama abafanelekileyo kunye noqondayo, ubuncinci, kodwa banomona onyana babo kumantombazana nabafazi babo. Wonke umama uyaqiniseka ukuba uya kwenza konke okulungileyo kunakho. Ngomnye umntu ongenalo ubulumko bokuzigcina ezi ngcamango, ngoxa abanye bezama ukungena kwiindwendwe ezingaqhelekanga kunye nomqulu wabo. Kodwa, nokuba kunjalo, ukuba umfana uyamthanda aze ahloniphe unina, ngoko unenhlanhla ukuba ubukeka ngathi. Isimo sakhe esihle sengqondo kumama siya kudlula kuwe. Kulo mzekelo, loo mfana akayi kumcaphukisa umfazi wakhe kwaye akayi kuphakamisela isandla sakhe, kuba unina akayi kwenza njalo phantsi kweemeko. Oonyana abakhulele phantsi kwephiko lomama elifudumeleyo bahlala behlukaniswa yintsapho, ububele, ububele kunye nokuqonda. Ngoko ke, kuwe. Mhlawumbi unelungelo lokuziqhayisa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ukhangeleka njengowesifazane owakhulisa umntu omhle kangaka. Emva koko, vumelani, ukuba wayengenjalo, awuyi kumthanda kakhulu. Eyona nto ingcono xa umama wakho akuthanda. Ufumanisa ulwimi olufanayo naye, njengesihlobo segazi okanye umhlobo. Kule meko, ukufana kwakho kukunceda ukuba ufumane ulwimi oluqhelekileyo kwaye awuxabani ngaphezu kwezinto ezifakekileyo. Vumelana, kuba ukuba abafazi bahluke kakhulu, bahlala bexabana, bobabini ekhaya nakwimoya yokomoya. Kule meko, kubantu abalungileyo kunzima ukuqonda kunye nokuza kwisisombululo esifanayo. Kodwa ukuba unesimo sengqondo esifanayo kunye neminqweno efanayo, ngoko unxibelelwano nomama womthandayo uya kuba kuwe ngokuvuya. Uyakwazi ukuqonda kunye kwaye ungaboni ngokucacileyo le ntombazana. Kule meko, ukufana nomama womfana kukunika inzuzo eninzi malunga nokuphuhliswa kobudlelwane, kokubili kunye noninazala kunye nendoda eselula, njengoko sele esazi amanqaku akho kwaye ibheka umzekelo wakhe.
Kukho imeko eyahlukileyo kwimeko xa umntu engenalo ukuqonda okufanayo kunye nonina. Nantsi yonke into iyinkimbinkimbi kwaye ingalingani. Isizathu sokungqubana phakathi koomama nendodana kungekhona nje ukungavumelani kwiimbono zehlabathi kunye neziganeko ezenzeka ngeenxa zonke. Enyanisweni, kukho iingxaki ezinzulu nangaphezulu nangaphezulu. Kukho imeko xa umama ongakulungele ukukhulisa umntwana unika izihlobo zakhe okanye abazali bakhe aze aphele ixesha elithile, kubonakala amaxesha ambalwa ngonyaka. Abafazi abanjalo banamathuba okukhula ukuba babe ngumama xa oonyana babo befika ebusheni baze bathathwe emakhaya abo. Le yilapho ukuphikisana kwezinto ezinomdla kuqala, okukhula kwintlonipho yolutsha. Umama olahlekelwa iminyaka emininzi yobomi bendodana yakhe uqala ukumfundisa njengokungathi usemncinci, uyisidenge kwaye akabi. Akaqondi ukuba phambi kwakhe kubunjani obunokuthi buqondwe. Ngokuqhelekileyo, oomama abanalo ukuzama ukuqonda abantwana babo, bafunde ngokuthanda kwabo namava, zama ukuza kunye nendlela yokuhamba. Xa bebona le meko, abafana baqala ukuvala baze baqokele i-kiloton yenzondo ngabomama. Abayi kugwetywa ngenxa yoko, kuba ukungabikho komama ophilayo, ngokuqhelekileyo, kuvelisa ezininzi iingxaki kunye nokungaqiniseki. Ukongezelela, abantwana abanjalo bakhula kakhulu kwaye bengathembeki. Babona ubomi njengemfazwe. Oku kubangela iingxaki zentlalo. Ngelishwa, kaninzi oomama abaqapheli ukuba badlala indima engafanelekanga ekubunzeni ubomi koonyana babo. Bonke bayaphika baze baqhubeke befuna ukuziphatha kwabo kuloo mfana, bengabakhathaleli ngokwenene iimvakalelo zakhe neemvakalelo zakhe.
Ukuba umntu uthi: Ndikhumbuza unina kwimiba enjalo, ngoko kufuneka uqaphele kwaye uzame ukuqonda oko ukukhumbuza ngokwenene. Inyaniso kukuba abantu abatsha abawela kwiimeko ezinjalo, kunomama abanamathuba. Bayabathanda, kuba umntwana ngamnye uzuza ilifa ngolu hlobo, kwaye, ngexesha elifanayo, uyamthiya, athukuthele kwaye unomsindo kubo bonke ubunzima neengxaki abaye bazenza ngenxa yokuziphatha komama. Ngoko ke, kunokwenzeka ukuba naye uyakuthanda ukuba uyamthiyile. Ukuze ube neengxaki ezimbalwa kunokwenzeka kwibudlelwane bakho, zama ukuqonda oko kufumanisa ngokufanayo phakathi kwakho nomama. Mhlawumbi ukubonakala nje okanye ukufana okunye okufana nokuziphatha, ubuso obuso, impawu. Emva koko, akukho nto ibuhlungu kakhulu, kodwa ukuba akunzima kuwe, zama ukuwususa, ukuze ungamcaphukisi umntu kwakhona. Ukuba incoko iphathelele umlingani kunye nokuqonda kwehlabathi, ngoko kufuneka ucinge ngako, kuba kuvela kulo mnye umhlobo wakho oshiywe ngaphandle komama. Ngoko uzama ukuqonda indlela oku kuchaphazela ngayo isoka lakho, iimvakalelo zakhe nezimo zengqondo kuwe. Ukuba wena uqonda ukuba izinto ezichazweyo zibi - zilahla. Yiba nomhle kwaye unothando kumfana osemncinci, kungekhona njengawo wonke unina, kwaye ngoko uya kuvuya.