Ungowami kuphela wam!
Umama, owayesoloko athi "sinenkinga nge-physics", "siya kwikholeji", akunakwenzeka ukuba samkele ukuba umntwana ngoku uyintloko yentsapho, kwaye nangakumbi kuba ebomini bakhe ibhinqa elinamalungelo amaninzi kwisivakalisi "thina". Kwaye kunzima ukusho ngubani onxantathu enomsa kakhulu: unyana okanye umfazi omncinci okhuselekileyo kumacala onke. Iingxaki ezingaxilwanga kwi-"son-mother-boy", njengombandela, zikhula zibe yincantathu enzima. Ukuba uninazala akazange aqonde ilungelo lokuba unyana wakhe akhule ngexesha, ukuzimela, kwaye intsapho iya kubhekana namaxesha anzima.
Amantombazana ahlala "adibanisa" kunye namadoda abo ngendlela efanayo noomama. Ngokuqhelekileyo umama womfana kunye nomfazi wakhe bazenza njengendawo ekhethekileyo entliziyweni yomntu, ongenakwenzeka. Ewe, ukuziphatha komama-mkhwe kunokuba kubi, kodwa ulwalamano lomntu nonina lushishino lwabo. Kanye nolwalamano lomyeni nomfazi. Unokufunda kwiqabane lakho indlela yokuzimela ngokuzenzekelayo kwimilinganiselo yomama okanye uzame ukunciphisa imeko yoqhagamshelwano abathathu kunye ubuncinci. Kodwa kufuneka simelane nenyaniso: asikwazi "ukuxosha" umama wendoda ebomini bentsapho.
Udocher kunye ndiza kufundisa
Inyaniso yokuba ukungathandeki kwintlalo yengqondo yobudlelwane phakathi komama-mkhwenkwe kunye nentombi-mkhwenkwe iphuma kuyo, iyaqondakala. Kodwa, kuvela, kwaye isimo sengqondo sikamamazala sinokubangela iingxaki.
Sikucebisa ukuba uchaze ngqo umamazala wakho ukuba uyayibona ingqalelo yokungathembeki kwezakhono zakho, ubona ngamazwi akhe ukwesaba unyana wakho kunye nefowuni yokuyeka abazali bakho. Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuphulaphula inkcazo, uphulaphule. Kufuneka ukuba uzame ukufumana ukulungelelanisa, ukuze nonke nizivekile kubalulekile - nganye inendima yayo. Ngaphambi kokuba incoko ibe yinto enhle ukuzisebenzisa ekwakhiweni kwe "I-statements" kunye nezinye iindlela zobuqu.
Andizange ndihambe enkundleni
Kwimbali yamabhayisikobho endala, isikhulu esinesibindi sasinobawo onomusa, kwaye uMamma wayengekho. Ubawo wamkela ngokunyanisekileyo umntwana wakhe okhethiweyo: akukho nto engcolileyo, kodwa enomdla, ehlabelela kunye nemidanso, unokuyibuyisela ingxoweni yakhe. Kwaye akukho nto iyamangalisa - abantu ngokubanzi banamathele ngakumbi kwientombi-zabo.
Kuyinto engafanelekanga ukucinga ukuba akubangelwa nantoni na into yokuba umalokazana nomkhwekazi baxabana. Bobabini abesifazana bathanda (nangona kwindlela ezahlukeneyo) umntu oyedwa - umhlaba wokuxabana ngowona mhlaba. Ngokukodwa kwixesha lethu, xa ininzi "iintsapho zomntwana omnye". Indodana yedwa yinkalo yokusetyenziswa kwayo yonke imizamo, ukuxinwa kwezinto zonke iingcinga kunye namaphupha. Kwaye ngoku lo nyana uyatshata ... Ngokuqinisekileyo ukhethiweyo wakhe ngandlela-thile uphantsi komfanekiso obhalwe ngunina. Ukucaphukisa ngoku ngeyona nto akufanelekanga: enjalo ingenakufumaneka ngokusemgangathweni; nantoni na oyiyo, uya kubonakala ngathi ungumama omncinci okanye ogcweleyo, ozelekile okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, owaziwayo, njalo njalo. Isabelo seengonyama sinokuphetshwa xa uqala ukuhlala ngokwahlukileyo kubazali bomyeni wakhe. Kwaye kulwa nokulwa nesiphatho esiseleyo-ukuzola, ukuchaneka kunye nokuhlekisa.
Musa ukulibala malunga ne-physiology, echaza kakhulu. Uninzi lwabasetyhini luba ngumkhwekazi oneminyaka engama-50 ubudala - eli lixesha lokutshintsha kwe-hormonal emhlabeni. Ngenxa yoko ukukhawuleza, nokucaphuka ngokweqile, kunye nokuguquka kwemizwa rhoqo. Yibeke le nto engqondweni uze ukhuthaze.
Umendo weengqondo zentsebenziswano phakathi komama-mkhwenkwe nomalokazana ukhombisa ukuba umama-mkhwenkwe othulileyo ufumaneka kubasetyhini abaneememori ezilungileyo: bawakhumbula ngokucacileyo ubutsha babo, iminyaka yokuqala yomtshato kunye nobudlelwane nomama wabo. Kwaye oku akuvumeli ukuba abe yi-classical judge-judge, engakwazi ukunyamezela. Ukuba unomama-mkhwenkwe ngememiselo emfutshane, zama ukuqhuba ixesha elizayo, kwixesha elizayo, kwaye uliqonde apho. Khawucinge ukuba unyana wakho watshata ... kunye nomfazi wakhe-ngokuqinisekileyo, akunjalo, oko wakucinga ngaye!
Xoxa ngeemvakalelo zakho kunye neqabane lakho. Unokumcela ukuba abe yintlanzi phakathi kwakho okwethutyana, udlulise amava kunye nokwesaba (kwaye unqwenela) ukuya kwelinye icala. Unokumbuza nangomama wakho kwaye uzame ukufumana / ukudala intsimi efana nayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukhetho lokuphumelela ekuphuculeni ubudlelwane kukufunda ngembali yentsapho, malunga nezo "zithethe". Musa nje ukuthatha izinyathelo ezifana nokunyathela ukuzingca kwakho - hayi, yinto nje isinyathelo esifanelekileyo. Omnye kufuneka akwenze.
Umama ongenakunceda
Uninazala, uninazala, unina-mkhwenk-utitshala ... Unokukhetha okungenakunzima. Kodwa mhlawumbi kunzima kakhulu - umama-mkhwekazi: umntwana ohlala ekhubekile, engaqiniseki, efuna ukunyamekela. Akulungele ukufumana ubudlelwane naye - uyathemba kakhulu ngeengxabano "ezibulalayo" ezinjenge-"ityala lonyana" kunye "nobuthathaka obuthathaka bomama".