Kutheni oku kwenzekayo?
Abantu abaninzi bakulula ukwenza into ethile kunomntu, kunokuba baxelele ukuba kungani bengenakukwenza oku, nokuba bangabakho bungozi. Ukungakwazi ukukhanyela kubalulekile kubantu abanothambileyo, abanomusa nabanqabileyo, abanokuzithemba. Bavalelwa "ngokwenene," kodwa abaqhiphi ukuba babhikishe "abafake izicelo" ngenxa yokwesaba ukubacaphukisa ngokungazi. Ukungabi nantoni, kodwa amaninzi amaninzi akwazi ukukhanyela "umntu olungileyo" kukhokelela kwisithsaba nendoda engathandekiyo. Sonke sifuna ukubukeka ngcono emehlweni abanye kunokuba sinyani. Kodwa abanye kulo mnqweno womntu wokuba ulungile kuwo wonke umntu ukuya kwangoko ukulibala ukuba ngubani ngokwenene. Balahlekelwa ngu "I". Kwaye ufumene umntu othembekileyo onomusa, onokuthi "ugibele", kwaye ngokungahlawulwanga ngokupheleleyo, unobunzima beli meko, kodwa akakwazi ukutshintsha nantoni na. Njengomthetho, "ukungaphumeleli" ngabo "bangathandwa" njengomntwana. Abazali abangqongqo okanye ukungabikho kobomi bomntwana baya kumgweba ekubeni uya kuzama ukufumana uthando lwakhe bonke ubomi bakhe, kuquka ukungaphumeleli ukufezekisa izicelo kunye neminqweno yabanye abantu.
Kuthekani ukuba abantu basebenzisa ububele bakho ukuba baqhelane? Izibalo zibonisa ukuba abantu abaninzi abalungileyo abanako ukulahla isicelo kumphathi wabo, indoda enhle kunye nabo basebenza nabo. Ewe, kunye nomphathi wonke into icacile - iyabiza kakhulu! Ngomntu oyithandayo - nayo (ngokukhawuleza uyayixabisa nje amandla okusebenzisa iimpazamo kunye neendlela ezichanekileyo zegrama, kodwa ubuhle bakho buya kuqaphela). Abazalwana nabo abafuni ukucaphukisa - ngokukhawuleza ngelinye ilanga uncedo lwabo luya kufuneka, kwaye aluyi kulungeleka ukuza nokubuza. Nangona, ngokweengcali zengqondo, abantu abalungileyo abangenalo mntu, ngokwabo, ngokusemthethweni, banqwenela ukufuna uncedo, bakhetha ukuhlangabezana nabo. Ukungakwazi ukuthi "hayi" kungakhokelela kuphela kumava adibeneyo, kodwa, ngokungaqhelekanga, ukuxabana emsebenzini nasemndenini. Ukuphazamiseka rhoqo ngenxa yezicelo zabanye, unokukwazi ukugqithisa inxalenye yakho yomsebenzi kwaye ubangele ulaka lwabaphathi kunye nokunganeliseki kwabasebenzi. Ukwesaba ukukhanyela umntu kungonakalisa wena kuphela, kodwa naye: ukuziphatha kwakho okuhle, uya kufakwa kwisiphoso esimnandi kuye, indlela yokuphuma ayimnandi. Ubuchule bokuthi "hayi" luphawu lomntu oqolileyo. Kwaze kube yilapho ufunda ukulahla (ngokuqinisekileyo, kwifom ephothiweyo kwaye ngokukhethekileyo kunye nenkcazo yezizathu zokulahla), awuyi kuba nako ukulahla ukuziva ungahambi kakuhle. Nangona kunjalo, kunye nokuvakalelwa njengomntu okhulileyo kwaye wabanjwa.
Andifuni ukuba ngamahashe egibeleyo!
Ngexesha elizayo xa uvakalelwa kukuba "ugibele", sebenzisa iiluleko ezinjalo kwiingqondo zeengqondo. Buza ukuba kutheni kufanele ube nawe. Ukuba inkcazo yomfaki sicelo ibonakala inganqweneli, ungesabi ukunqaba okanye ukucebisa umntu onokufeza isicelo. Impendulo yakho imele ibe mfutshane, ngaphandle kwezichaso ezide kunye neenkcazo ngezizathu zokungala. Ukuba ufumene kuyimfuneko, unokuchaza isizathu sokuba wenqatshelwe. Kodwa kukuchaza, kwaye akunakulungelelanisi kwaye ungaxolisi kule meko.