Indlela yokuqonda ubuxoki kunye nento oyenzayo xa ukhohlisiwe

Intukuthelo, ukudideka, intukuthelo, intukuthelo, ukuxhalaba - yonke le mvakalelo esiyifumanayo xa sifumanisa ukuba umnxibelelwano uyasikhohlisa. Akunakwenzeka ukuba umntu uya kufuna ukuvakalelwa kwakhona. Kungcono ukufunda ukuqaphela amanga ngokukhawuleza, ngoko kuya kuba neengxaki ezincinci. Kodwa uyazi njani ukuba umntu uthe walala okanye uthetha inyaniso? Kuye kwenzeka ukuba nangaphandle komtshina wamanga, unako ukugqiba xa ukhohliswa. Emva koko, umzimba womntu ngokwawo unikeza imiqondiso ethile kwimeko xa ilele. Qaphela ubuxoki bokuziphatha kwabantu
Kuyinto engaqhelekanga ukuba bonke abantu bambi bambi baxoka. Kunzima ukwenza oku. Xa sithetha into engeyinyaniso, indalo yethu kufuneka ilawulwe i-subconscious, kwaye i-organism, ingene ukungqubuzana, ayikwazi nje indlela yokuziphatha ngayo. Khawucinge ukuba uhamba ngezitrato. Hamba inyathelo eliqhelekileyo uze ukhangele. Yintoni enokwenzeka ukuba uya kuba neengxaki zokuhamba, ukuba uyakulibala indlela yokwenza oku kwaye uqale ukuzilahleka? Ewe, hayi-le nyathelo yenziwa ngokukhawuleza kwaye ilawulwa yi-subconscious. Kodwa ukuba ucinga malunga nendlela ozohamba ngayo, zizigcinele ("Ngoko ke, ndiphakamisa kuqala unyawo olungasekhohlo, ngoko lifanelekileyo .Ndiphakamisa malunga ne-10 cm emhlabathini ..."), ngoko uya kulahleka. Uza kuqala ukuthoba, ungabonakali ngokungaqhelekanga phantsi, kwaye ebusweni bakho kuza kubonakala intshabalalo engeyena impawu yakho. Phantse kwenzeka into efanayo xa sikhe ixesha. Umntu ulawula onke amagama, acinga ngaphambi kokuthetha, kwaye ... uyazithengisa. Kukhona ukungaboni emzimbeni kwaye kunamandla ngakumbi emqaleni nangomlomo. Ukufuna ukujamelana nale nto, singakwazi ukuthintela entanyeni, singaxubusha iingqimba zomlomo kwaye ngokubanzi sichukumisa ubuso ngokuqhelekileyo. Inkulumo iyaba yinto engcolileyo-ukuba iqulethe uvuyo, sinyanzeliswa ukuba siyicotha. Ngokuqhelekileyo sithatha amehlo ethu, okanye singakhange sijonge umnxibelelwano nonke, senze ngathi sinomdla ekuqwalaseleni into enomdla kuthi, senza izenzo ezithandabuzayo (umzekelo, vula ipeni, vula i-notepad) kwaye uzama ukuthetha ngokucacileyo-ukuba ungabikho krokre. Ukongezelela, ukunyuka kwenyuka (njengoko kwimeko apho nayiphi na into evuyisayo kunye nokwesaba) kunye nabafundi bayaphula. Abaqambi bamanga basekelwe kwimbono yazo zonke iinguqu emzimbeni - babonisa ukuba umbuzo obangela ukuxhatshazwa kunye nokuba kuboniswe kangakanani.

Qaphela ubuxoki ngoncedo lwe-intuition
Kodwa abafazi abayidingi naziphi na izixhobo. Thina sinakho ukuqonda inyaniso namanga. Ibhinqa ayithethi loo mazwi, ngesimo se-back, ngokuphefumula, ngendlela eyona nto inqakrazo yokukhiya, iyakwazi ukuqonda imeko. "Ukhange kabini ewindini, xa uphendule umbuzo wam, wancincizela ekhaleni lakho, uthetha ngeemeko zakho, ngoko ngandlela-thile udibanise umnxeba umnxeba ngandlela-thile ... Ngoko, ulala lam!" Hayi, ewe, kule fomu, akukho mntu ubonisa ukusola kwakhe. Uninzi lwethu uthi: "Ndivakalelwa kukuba oku akunjalo (into eyenzekayo)." Kwaye le "ndiziva" yimbambano enamandla kakhulu. Abasetyhini banako ukuqonda inani elikhulu leemvakalelo, bafumane kwaye bangafani. Ngokukodwa xa kuziwa kumntu ofanayo. Ezi talente ziyamkeleka: ngoko uhlobo luye lunyamekela ukuba ibhinqa, njengomntu obuthathaka, lidala yena kunye neemeko zokhuseleko lwabantwana. Akwanele ukuba sikhethe umntu ofanelekileyo oya kuyinyamekela inzala yakhe, kubalulekile ukumgcina. Ngenxa yoko, kuyimfuneko ukukulindela kwangaphambili onke amathuba okuba unakekele kwaye uyayiphendula. Ukuba umfazi uthi "Ndivakalelwa kukuba umyeni wam unendawo yokuzilibazisa", ngoko kunjalo. Nangona umlingane imihla ngemihla ngentsimbi yesithandathu ngokuhlwa, usele ekhaya kwaye rhoqo unika izimbali. Enyanisweni, ngokuqhelekileyo le ntuthuko ibangela ukukhungatheka - into oyaziyo ayithethi ukuba ingatshintshwa.

Baxoki
Kuthiwani ngabaphangi kunye nabaphangi bomtshato? Emva koko, bafumana amaxhoba phakathi kwabesetyhini nabo. Okokuqala, abantu abanjalo bayazi ukuba ngubani oza kukhetha, kwaye uyakwazi ukusebenza kunye neemvakalelo zexhoba. Bamnika oko akufunayo okwangoku. Ukukhathala kwindlela yokuphila yowesifazane weshishini, ukushiya onke amandla akhe kumsebenzi onoxanduva, yinto epheleleyo yomntu othanda ukuthandana naye. Uya kumngqongeza ngolo hlobo kunye nokunyamekela ukuba uya kuziva u-Asol, owalindela inqanawa efanayo kunye neendlela ezibomvu. Kwaye kwindlela, nangona efumene ukuba ukhohlisiwe, uya kuhlala ekhumbula izinto ezimnandi ezinyangeni ezimbalwa okanye kwiinyanga ezichithwa nomyeni ongaphumeleli. Okwesibini, abaninzi abantu bafunda ukuthetha amanga ukuze kubonakale bekholisa. Bazibona zonke izenzo zabo, onke amagama, kwaye ekugqibeleni, bafezekisa ubuchule. Siyalila ngenxa ye-heroine yefilimu, kwaye ngokwenene abadlali, ngokubanzi, banamanga. Okwesithathu, kukho abantu abaye baqhelana ukuthetha amanga, ukuze kubo babe yi nyaniso. Ngokomzekelo, abantu abonakalisayo nabaphakanyisiwe beza ibali, baxhatshazwa kukuba bazilibala ukuba akukho nto iyenayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, akunakwenzeka ukuqonda ukukhohlisa kwabo.

Njani ukumelana nobuxoki?
Yintoni ongayenza xa ujamelana nobuxoki? Ayikho iresiphi yeqiniso, indlela yokuyiphepha nendlela yokuziphatha kwimeko enjalo. Njengoko akukho sizathu esinye sokuba abantu baxoke. Kukho ubuxoki - ukunyanisela ukubonisa imeko ngokukhanya okungcono. Kukho ubuxoki ukuphepha ingxoxo engathandekiyo nenkcazo. Kukho ubuxoki esinokuziphakamisa ukuzithemba kwethu. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha umntu ulala ukufumana uncedo oluyisiseko nokuqonda.

Ukuba udibana nobuxoki ngexesha lonke, kwaye oku kuphazamisa ubudlelwane bakho, ngoko kuqala ucinge-kutheni oku kwenzeka? Yintoni oyithandayo oyifumayo kwizinto akuxelela ukuba akunjalo? Mhlawumbi konke kukunyaniseka kwimeko yakho, ukunganyamezelani kwemiphumo, kwaye uzama nje ukubalekela nayiphi na isohlwayo okanye ukuxabana okuvulekileyo?

Musa ukwenza amabango kanye, ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ugweme amagama athi "uxoka" njalo njalo. Mane ucele umnxibelelwano oko ufuna ukukwazi kwaye ujonge ukuphendula. Unokubuza "Ngaba into eyenzekayo?", Njengokungathi ukwazisa ukuba ukhathazekile kwaye ukhathazekile malunga noko kwenzekayo. Ngingazi ukuba yintoni inkohliso, kusengqiqweni ukuvumela umntu ochasileyo ukuba uyaziva. Ukuba uyakuxabisa, mhlawumbi uya kucinga. "Kukho into endiyikhathazayo ngandlela-thile kum." Ulwalamano lwethu alufani nokokuqala "- eli binzana lifanelekileyo ngokubambisana kunye nezoshishino.

Ukuba ukuhlukana akuyiyo inxalenye yezicwangciso zakho, kwaye intetho engathethekiyo ingakulimaza, zama ukucima imeko. Yithi nje: "Ewe, umyeni wam ulala ngam. Andizi ukuba kuya kuhlala ixesha elide kangakanani, kodwa kube ngoku."

Abantu abalala ngenjongo ethile baqinisekile ukuba awunakucongi nantoni na. Ukubaphazamisa le ntliziyo inokwenzeka ngokuncedwa ngombono "Ndiyazi yonke into, kodwa ndinayo icebo lam." Oku kuya kukusindisa ekuzixhomekeke kwintembeko kwaye kunika amandla. Yaye imeko leyo ngokwazo ibulela kulezo ziqhinga zingaphendukela.