Njengoko abantu bacacisa ukuba le ntombazana ayifuni

Amadoda atyhila njani ukuba le ntombazana ayifuni? Uyazi njani ukuba uyazibuza okanye ungomdla nje? Masizame ukuqonda ukuziphatha komntu kwaye siqonde indlela aziphatha ngayo, ukuba uyayidinga naxesha lokuqala ukukhathazeka?

Ukuba uthe wahlangana, kwaye wamshiya inombolo yakho yefowuni. Ukuba loo mntu ngokukhawuleza wabiza emva koko, oku kungumqondiso osisigxina: unokuthathwa ngokungathandabuzeki nguwe. Nangona, mhlawumbi, ubhekisela kuwe njengentsimbi ngobunye ubusuku. Kodwa, inyaniso yokuba wabuyisela umva sele isisimo esihle. Kuya kuba nzima ngakumbi xa ifowuni yakho ingayigqibeli inombolo yayo kwisiboniso.

Ukuba uyabiza, zama ukungaxineki kakhulu kwaye ungaqali ukwenza izicwangciso zekamva lakho kunye. Kufanelekile ukugcina uxolo nokuguqula ingqondo. Ungayiqonda njani ukuba ukubiza kwakhe kuthetha ukuba akayidingi ukuba ube nolwalamano olunzulu?

Ukuba wabiza ngokukhawuleza, oko kukuthi, wathembisa ngelo xesha, kwaye ubiza ezininzi emva koko. Ingxoxo yakho ayinamathele ngokukodwa: akayi kulungiswa, ukuphendula imibuzo malunga naye, kwaye malunga nawe akunakuthandayo. Into eyithandayo iyintlanganiso kunye nawe.

Kule meko, kuyafaneleka ukuba sicinge ukuba uyayidinga lo mhla. Unokuqiniseka ukuba le ndoda iya kutshabalalisa emva kwesondo sokuqala. Ukuba ulungele ukuziphatha kulo, unokuchitha ubusuku obunye naye.

Kodwa, ukuba usalindela ubuhlobo obunzulu kunye nokuphupha lokwenene uthando, ungangcolisi amandla kunye nemizwa yakho kule ntombazana.

Isimo esilukhuni xa umntu ecaca ukuba intombazana ayifuni, nangona bahlala bebudlelwane ixesha elide.

Ukuqala kobudlelwane bakho kungavuselela umbhali weenveli zokudala umzobo omtsha. Indoda yakho yayinyamekela, yakujikeleza ngqalelo kunye nothando. Kodwa, ngelishwa, lwakho lonwabo luye lwaphela ngokukhawuleza.

Indoda yakho yenza kucacise ukuba awuyimfuneko kwakhona. Ngaba wenza ntoni ngokuqinisekileyo - njani amadoda akwenza ukuba kucace ukuba intombazana ayidingi?

Uya kuziva utshintsho kwihambo yakhe kunye nesimo sengqondo sakho. Wayengakuvuyela ukudibana nawe kunye nanini na ufumana umsebenzi omningi, nje ukuba ungahlangabezane nawe.

Ngoku kubalulekile ukuba ahlale emsebenzini okanye aye kwibhagi nabangani. Ngokusoloko alibale ukuba akubizele, kwaye uchaze ngokubakho koqeshiso oluphezulu.

Uyeke ukuchitha ixesha kunye, nangona ngaphambi kokuba ube nenani elikhulu lezinto ezidibeneyo ezenza uvuyo kubo bobabini.

Iingqungquthela zanda rhoqo. Kuphi, ngenxa yezihlwele. Uhlala ephosakela kuwe: akayithandi indlela ogqoka ngayo, indlela opheka ngayo okanye indlela othetha ngayo naye.

Uvakalelwa ukungabikho kwengqalelo. Awunalo uthando olwaneleyo kunye nokunakekela kwakhe.

Ukuba uhlala phantsi uhlaziye yonke imeko kunye nokuziphatha kwayo, uya kuqonda ukuba indoda yakho yenza kucacise ukuba awuyomfuneko kwakhona. Mhlawumbi wadibana nentombazana okanye wayeka ukumthanda. Into edabukisayo kweli bali kukuba indoda ayinayo isibindi sokuvuma kuwe kule nto kwaye uthetha ngobungcwele.

Yintoni enokuyenza kule meko? Zibophe kunye kwaye uphelise ukukhala okanye ukwenze izihlazo. Kholelwa ukuba ezo ndlela azizange zancedise nabani na ukusombulula iingxaki. Ukuba loo mntu ngokwakhe akayi kukhwela ukuthetha, yenza oko. Kufuneka uzimisele kwisigqibo sakho-ukubeka onke amanqaku kwi "i".

Xa uthetha, musa ukumgxeka kwaye ukhale, uya kumthukuthelela kuphela. Mbuze imibuzo kwaye ulindele ukuba aphendule. Zama ukuza kwisisombululo esifanayo.

Nangona kunjalo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba wawubuhlungu kangakanani, qonda ukuba awuyi kuba mnandi kakhulu. Myeke aze afune nje uvuyo.