Mhlawumbi, kufuneka uqale ukuqonda ukuba kutheni unengcamango enjalo kunye nokwahlula kwemizwa? Ngokuqhelekileyo, kwenzeka ntoni xa indoda ethandekayo ingazi ukuba ngubani ngokwenene.
Ngaba unesivakalelo sokuba eceleni kwakho akukho mntu munye kodwa ngabazalwana ababini, apho, enye yazo ingelosi, enye enye ingumtyholi wenene? Emva koko imbangela yamava akho ayaqondakala ngokupheleleyo. Inyani kukuba abantu abanjalo bathanda ukugqoka iimaski, bezama ukubonakala bebi ngakumbi kunokuba basenjalo. Kodwa nangona, xa amadoda anjalo nomntu esondela kakhulu, xa evulekile aze abonise iimvakalelo, imaski ubuncinane iwa phantsi okwethutyana kwaye ivula umntu ohluke ngokupheleleyo onokubathanda nokuqonda. Kodwa, ngelishwa, le ndlela, ngokuqhelekileyo, ibonakalisa kuphela ngasese. Kodwa kwinkampani, ingakumbi xa kusekho abameli besini, abantu abancinci baziphatha ngokuphambene kakhulu nento eniyibonayo xa behlala naye yedwa.
Ekuqaleni, lo mdlalo ngumntu ongendawo, unokuyidlala, kodwa, ngokukhawuleza, kuyacaca ukuba ngenxa yale mpawu, indoda ihlala ingonakalisa ukuthembela kwakho. Ndimthiyile umntu, ndiyamthanda umntu ... kutheni? Uyamthanda ngokoqobo ngokwenene, kwaye uyayithiya imaski eyaziwa kakuhle okanye engabonakali kakuhle phambi kwabanye abantu.
Indlela yokujongana nale meko? Ewe, kuyafaneleka ukuba ucinge ukuba ufuna ukuqhubeka nobudlelwane nomntu ongazi ukuba njani. Ngokuqhelekileyo, amadoda anjalo anamaqela amaninzi, athabathela ebuntwaneni. Bayakwazi ukuthetha ngokuvakalayo okanye baqhubeke bephika, kodwa ukuziphatha kwabo kukusoloko kubungqina obuhle.
Ngenxa yokuziphatha kwabo okubi, aba bantu bavela ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuvusa inhlonipho yabantu okanye ukwesaba. Kungaba ukuzithemba ngokuzithengisa abanye, ukukhwabanisa okanye ukuzithobela ngokwaneleyo, okuphazamisa abanye. Ukuba uqaphela ukuba umfana usoloko ezama ukuhlazisa umntu aze aphuke, unako ukuphakamisa isandla sakhe kumfazi, ubonise ubuqili kunye nokunyaniseka - uyeke. Kungekudala okanye kamva, uya kubonisa isimo sengqondo esifanayo. Abantu abanjalo bayazizonda kakhulu kangangokuthi bakhwela kwindlela yabo, bebonisa abanye ukuba bangento. Kungenxa yoko, nangona uvakalelwa kukuba uyamthanda, udibanisa intando yakho ibe yintonga kwaye uphule ubuhlobo obunjalo, kuba kuya kuba bubi kakhulu. Ngenxa yoko, wahlukana, kodwa uya kuba neelonda elide emphefumlweni wakho kunye nomxobo omnyama entliziyweni yakho. Uyakulibala ukuba wade umthanda, kwaye uvakalelwa kuphela, kuya kutshisa kuphela. Intiyo engekho. Ngoko cinga malunga nokuba utyhefu umphefumlo wakho ngomsindo, xa unokuyeka yonke into ngexesha.
Yinto enye into, ukuba uyayiqonda ukuba ukuziphatha kwakho, insizwa iyingozi kuphela. Kule meko, abafana bahlala babhekisela kubantu ababajikelezile, benentlonelo ngokufanelekileyo, abaze bahlazise nabani na, nokuba bathetha inzondo yabantu bonke. Enyanisweni, aba bantu banentlonelo kwaye banomdla abaselula. Enyanisweni, "ukuthabatha" kwabo, babonisa ngokugqithiseleyo kakhulu, xa belibale ukuba kufuneka badlale indima yabo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umntu onjalo uzama ukubonisa ngokubonakala kwakhe konke okubi nokuba yonakalise, utsho ngaye ngamabali angamangalisi kwaye asongela ukubonisa konke oku kusebenza. Ewe, akahambanga ngaphezu kwamazwi, kodwa abanye baqonda yonke into ebaluleke kakhulu kunye nokubhekisela kuyo, ngokuhambelana nale ndlela.
Kakade ke, amantombazana awaxhomekeke kakhulu kwimbono yoluntu njengabantu, kodwa ke, akunakwenzeka gqitha xa umthandayo wakho uthathwa njengongenelisekanga ye-schizophrenic kunye ne-perverted. Ngezihlandlo ezinjalo, utshaba lwenzondo lubandakanya intloko. Yintoni esifanele siyenze kule meko? Ngokuqinisekileyo, ungakhohlwa ukuba umntu osemfana unokuziphatha konke ubomi bakhe aze adlale inkwenkwe embi. Kungenzeka ukuba, yodwa uya kuba nomusa, ubekezelele kwaye ahlaziye, kodwa esidlangalaleni akanakukubeka emasikini. Oku kubonisa ubuthathaka kunye nokuxhomekeka kwakhe. Ngaba ufuna umntu onjalo? Ukuba impendulo nguwewe, ngoko kufuneka uzame ukuyitshintsha. Yaye umsebenzi uya kufuneka ufihliwe kwaye ude. Abantu abanjalo abazitshintshi ngolunye usuku, ngenxa yokuba iingxaki, eziyimpembelelo yolu hlobo, zivela ixesha elide kakhulu, zihluma kakhulu kwi-psyche kwaye aziyi kukhanyela lula, kwaye zishiye inkosi yazo.
Uya kufuneka ube nesineke uze uyibale ngokuzonda kwakho. Abantu abanjalo bafuna uthando. Ayikho into efanelekileyo, engabonakaliyo, inceba kunye nokunyamekela. Zama ukuthetha kunye naye ukuze ufumane izizathu ezizenzekelayo zezakhiwo zakhe kwaye ungazithandi.
Zama ukumqinisekisa ukuba ufanelwe ulonwabo kwaye unokufikelela eninzi ebomini. Kodwa nangona kunjalo, ungavumeli ukuba amazwi akho abe neengqinamba ezingenakunyakaziswa, ongenalo ilungelo lokuphikisa. Ubunzima bentliziyo buya kwenza ukuba iqabane lakho lilahle yonke into oyithethileyo, nangona ukuba, ngokwenene, uyayibona ukuba yinyaniso. Ngoko ke, mnike nje ukutya okucingayo. Thetha malunga nento yonke, njengoko kunjalo, phakathi kwezinye izinto.
Ngendlela, ungacingi ukuba kufuneka uvumelane naye kuyo yonke into. Ngokuphambene noko, kuyimfuneko ukuxoxa, kodwa ungayiguquli ingxoxo ibe yimpikiswano emlonyeni, kuhlazola kunye ne-hysteria. Indoda kufuneka ive ukuba kukho umntu osisilumko, onengqiqo ecaleni kwakhe. Emva koko, ngexesha, willy-nilly, uya kuqala ukuva kuwe igunya kwaye ngokungaqhelekanga uyayithobela ingentla.
Uthando luyinto engaqhelekanga. Ngoko ke, ngokungathi ngamanye amaxesha asizange sicinge ukuba siyayithiya intanda yethu kunye nomphefumlo wethu wonke, ixesha lidlula kunye nentukuthelo. Ngoko ke, zama ukuchitha amandla akho kwiimvakalelo ezingenangqondo. Eyona nto ilungelelanisa onke amandla ukunceda wakho umthandayo. Kwaye ukukhawuleza ukuba "Ndimthiyile umntu" ukuba "Ndiyamthanda intombi yam" akuyiyo indlela yokuphuma. Ingakumbi xa ufuna ukufumana le ndawo.