Ngaba kwenzeka ngobudlelwane bakho ukuba umfana uchitha ixesha elikhululekile kunye nabahlobo bakhe, kodwa ukhohliwe ngawe? Ngaba uyazi oku kwaye awukwazi ukuba wenzeni kwaye ungasombulula njani le ngxaki?
Kutheni abafana bakhetha abahlobo baze balahle intombazana yabo?
Le ngxaki kunokuba ibhekisele kubafana abancinci, abo abangazange bahambe kwaye bangacwangcisi ukuzibopha ezandleni nasezinyaweni zobudlelwane obunzulu.
Abafana bakhetha abahlobo, kuba kunye nabo bahlaziye kwaye bekhululekile. Akukho mntu ufunda imilinganiselo kwaye akazami ukuyitshintsha. Xa umntu ekho nkampani yabahlobo, unokuphumla entliziyweni yakhe. Unako ukwenza nantoni na isisiphukuphuku kwaye uyazi ukuba akukho mntu uya kumgxeka. Emva koko, yena nabahlobo bakhe banabantu abafana nomqondo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafana bakhetha abahlobo baze bashiye amantombazana ngenxa yobumnandi babo. Ngokomzekelo, wayehlala ephethe ngokuqinisekileyo abahlobo bakhe - weza ngokufunwa, ngeveki kunye nayo yonke ixesha lakhe elikhululekile elichitha kunye nabo. Kodwa, ngokukhawuleza ebomini bakhe kwakukho intombazana aqalisana naye. Kule nqanaba, ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda kunye nentombazana ayinamandla kwaye umfana akayiqondi ukuba iyindlela eya kuye okanye cha. Uloyiko lokubingelela abahlobo bakhe, ngoko ubeka abahlobo bakhe ngaphezu kwezinto eziza kuqala.
Ndiza kukunika umzekelo webali elinye. Kwenzeke ebomini kwintombazana enye entle kunye nengqiqo. Ukusuka ecaleni, ndingathi le ntombazana ilungele nawuphi na umntu. Ukubonakala okubonakalayo, umhlobo othakazelisayo, onobuqili kunye nokufundwa kakuhle. Kwiminyaka emncinci yeminyaka, wayesebenomdla wokwakha ubuhlobo kunye nabafana.
Ngomhla wesantya wonyaka, wadibana nendoda yobudala bakhe. Umfana wayehlala ehlala ebudlelwaneni bakhe. Ngenxa yoko, wafezekisa injongo yakhe, baqala ukudibana.
Ezinyangeni zokuqala ezintandathu, le ntombazana yayonwabile injabulo-isoka lakhe laliyilungelelwano, lilungele kakuhle kwaye lifuna yonke imininingana yokukhulula ukuyisebenzisa kunye nayo. Wanikela iintyatyambo, wangithabatha kwi-cinema - wayenethamsanqa kwaye uyavuya kukuba wayesondele. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba kule nkwenkwezi kwakungekho ncokola ngabahlobo bakhe-abazange bahlangane nabo.
Kodwa, ngokukhawuleza xa umzuzu wokuthandana udlula, umfana wavula ubuso bakhe boqobo. Iingxaki zaqala. Zeziphi na? Zizo ezo sizama ukuzenza, ngesihloko: "kutheni abafana bakhetha abahlobo baze balahle amantombazana abo".
Ubusuku bonke kwafuneka aphume kwishishini - athathe umhlobo ovela emsebenzini, thabathe omnye umhlobo esitolo, uphuze ubhiya kunye nomhlobo wesithathu, leyo intombazana esandula yashiya.
I-heroine yethu yayingekho kwintloni elinesibindi kwaye ingathethi, xa into engazange ihambisane naye, ayizange iceba. Akulungiseli abahlaziyi, intombazana yazama ukuthetha kunye nesoka layo - ukuchaza ukuba indlela yakhe yokuziphatha iyamcaphukisa; ku cacisa. Ukuba ufuna ukuchitha ixesha elide kunye naye kwaye ukhubekile kukuba abahlobo bangcwele kuye, kwaye akabalulekanga.
Kodwa, ngenxa yesimo sakhe, loo nto yatshintsha izinto. Iingqungquthela zaqala - ngoko babuyisana kwakhona kwaye, lo mntu wathembisa ukuba ngoku zonke izinto ziya kuhluka. Kodwa inyanga yadlulela, kwaye wabuya wamkhohlwa malunga nentombi yakhe.
Umonde wakhe wafika ekupheleni - wayengenakho amandla okuchaza into ethile. Ngaphezu koko, ukuba loo mntu wayengeke alungele ukuyiqonda.
Wafika kwisigqibo sokuba akayithandi ulwalamano olunjalo, ukuba akafuni ukuhlala ehlala kwindawo yeshumi okanye leshumi.
Ekugqibeleni, baqhekeza. Nangona le nto ifuna ukuyibuyisela, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo, akayiqondi isizathu sokuphuka kwabo.
Ukuba ubhekene nengxaki enjalo, xa abafana bakhetha abahlobo baze bawahlasele amantombazana abo - ukuba baqalise ukuba baqokelele zonke izikhalazo zakho kwintonga baze bathethe nomfana. Mhlawumbi akazi ukuba ukuziphatha kwakhe kukucaphukisa. Ukuba incoko ayifuni isiphumo esifanelekileyo, ndicinga ukuba kulungele ukuphula ulwalamano, mhlawumbi, uya kulila ubusuku bonke emkhombeni xa iqabane lakho lihleka kunye nabahlobo. Beka phambi kokukhethwa - akufanelekanga. Ndiqinisekile ukuba uya kukhetha abahlobo, nokuba uyakuthanda ngayo yonke intliziyo yakhe.