Ibhakede elomeleleyo yindoda ekwazi ukufunda ngomtshato kunye nazo zonke iintlobo zemicimbi yentsapho emsebenzini evela kubalingane bakhe xa beqokelela imali yesinye isipho somtshato. Uyakwazi ukulungisa isaladi kunye nokupheka isobho, kwaye ngokutsho oku uzijonga ngokwaneleyo. I-bachelor ilingana namantombazana kwibhola, ukuloba, imidlalo, kungekhona kumazwi athi "uxanduva", "umsebenzi" kunye "neemvakalelo."
Kwabanye, "i-bachelorhood" yimeko yengqondo. Uyingcuka yodwa. Kuphela. Ubomi bam, indawo yam yokuhlala, izicwangciso zam, inkululeko yam ... Uluhlu luqhubeka kwaye luqhubeke.
Ukuba sithetha ngamachelona, ziyakwazi ukwahlula kwiindidi ezinemiqathango:
1. Abantu abangakaze batshata (kwaye akuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yobudala), abazi ukuba yintoni, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo benqabile emlonyeni, bathi umtshato uyona nto iyona nto iyona nto inokubakho ebomini. Baqhubeka bephephe ukuxhamla ubudlelwane obunzulu nangaphantsi. Mhlawumbi isizathu sokudumala kukudlulileyo?
2. Amadoda athile "aphethwe". Ngomtshato ngandlela-thile ayizange isebenze, kwaye ngoku bayesaba ubudlelwane beentsapho, njengomlilo, i-venozabolevaniyam okanye ukungabi namandla. Umyeni onjalo wangaphambili uhlala eqinisekile ukuba umtshato akayenaye. Ngamanye amaxesha - ekupheleni kobomi.
3. Amadoda - abaphandi abajonga ukuba ngaba ubomi emva komtshato, ngamava. Batshata, bahlukane, benze izigqibo. Tshatana, uqhawule umtshato, wenze izigqibo. Kwaye ngonaphakade ngokungqinelana nesikimu esifanayo ...
Ngokwezigaba zethu, kunokwenzeka ukuba ungeze elinye iqela - unyana womama. Thatha yonke into enyanyekayo kwizinto ezikhankanywe ngaphambili (ukwethuka kobudlelwane, ukungabi namsebenzi), siya kusebenza kulo Mama kwaye sifumane umntu onoyikisayo ukuba angatshatanga ukuze atyelele kwaye uyethusa.
Nokuba i-bachelors ingahlukaniswa ngala maqela amabini alandelayo: zemvelo kunye ... engeyiyo igugu.
Eyokuqala yiyo ebizwa ngokuba yi "bachelor of nature". Bazinene ngokwenene ukuba abayidingi isibini. Banako, ngokukhawuleza, bashade, kodwa bahlale 'bekhululekile' emphefumlweni baze baqhube indlela yokuphila ehlangabezana neemfuno zabo: abahlobo, ubhiya, ukuhlamba, ezemidlalo, iintombi kunye neentliziyo ezinokukhanya.
Ezinye izilwanyana ebomini zikhona nje ngenxa yokuzineliseka kwazo, xa iingxaki kunye nokuzithoba kungavumelekanga ukuba zizaliseke kwaye, ukufumana umhlobo, uphume kuloo ndawo yedwa. Kubo, akusisona sisisiseko seminqweno, kodwa indlela yobomi.
Nangona kunjalo, akunakwenzeka - kwaye akuyimfuneko-ukukhangela bonke abakwa-Adam banamhlanje ngaphantsi kwekhefu elilodwa.
Nangona kunjalo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba zezizathu zembono yehlabathi, izigulane zizinzima, "zizilwanyana ezodwa" ezixabisa inkululeko yazo zonke.
'Bafuna' umfazi ogqwesileyo oza kuba yikopi yabo. Okhethiweyo kufuneka athande ukutya okufanayo, ahlanganyele izinto ezithandwayo, acinge - kunye nendlela ayenayo. Ngoko ke, nangona i-bachelor ikhetha ukudala intsapho, ayikwazi kwamkela nawuphi na umfazi. Njalo xa ecinga ukuba: "Nalo mfazi ndiya kuchitha ubomi bam bonke!"
Ukuxiliswa akuyikrele. Ukuthula ngaphakathi kwindlu kunokuhlaziywa ngeidiski zakho ezizithandayo, isidlo sakusasa - ukuzonwabisa kunye neTV, kunye nesondo ... Akukho nto inokuthetha.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, isiqulatho sesigxina sisamente kwizinto zakhe siqu, imigaqo, uthando lwenkululeko yakhe kunye ... nentloko yesigxina sesibini sabantu.
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Umgaqo wokuqala wokuzingela ngokuphumelelayo ukujoliswa okuqinileyo kwaye kunamahloni. Akukho ukunyakaza okungazelelwe, njengengxoxo ngeesihloko sabantwana, umtshato, uthando, imisebenzi. Gwema imibuzo engadingekile kwaye, Mhlawumbi uThixo, ufune ukuphanda imibuzo. Umzekelo, ukufumanisa apho kwaye kunye nobani. Ezi zizathu ezivakalayo eziya kuthusa nayiphi na umdlalo. Into ephambili yintlonipho yokuzimela nokuzimela.
Musa ukulinda, uhleli efonini yefowuni yakhe. Ngaloo xesha unako ukuchitha imali engakumbi: ukwenza umququzelelo womzimba, ukuya kwiklabhu yezempilo, ukudibana nabahlobo nokuzonwabisa ubomi.
Xa ebiza, unokuvuya, uvuyo ngokuvumelana nemhlangano. Yaye ukuqinisekisa ukuba akazange alibale le ntlanganiso ixesha elide.
Ngendlela, musa ukulibala: kufuneka ube yi-Ideal. Ukumqonda kumgama wesigxina, ukwabelana nazo zonke izinto ezithandwayo kunye nemibono (abaphazamisi ukufunda kwangaphambili), nakweyiphi na imeko ihleli kakuhle, inomdla, inomdla kwaye ihlala ihluke. Ngoko ukuze ungakhathazeki.
Oku kunzima kakhulu, ngoko cinga ukuba lo mntu ufanelekile loo mizamo. Ukuba konke kuyafaneleka - siyaqhubeka.
Ungaguquki. Naliphi na izinga lokuzimela, amadoda asadinga iisokisi ezicocekileyo kunye nokutya okumnandi. Ekuqaleni, kunokuvela ubunzima-ukuhlasela kwesithuba sawo kungabangela ukuphendula okungalunganga. Kodwa kunzima ukwenza? Emva kwexesha elithile, uya kulibala ukuba wayekho ngaphandle kwakho. Ngaphandle kwenduduzo yakhe, ngenxa yokuba umqeqeshi uya kulibala inkululeko enenzondelelo ... Jabulela, ngoku kungowakho!
Ngendlela, unokufunda indlela yokwenza izinto kunye neklasikhi. Nasi, umzekelo, "Ukuhlamba kweSikhisi" kunye noCelentano okanye "Uthando Ngentambama" kunye no-Audrey Hepburn ongalinganiyo. "Eugene Onegin", ekupheleni! Yonke le mi sebenzi ibonisa ukuba akulukhuni ukuluhlula i-bachelor.