Iimvakalelo kunye nobunkokheli , ngokwenene, iingcamango ziphantse. Sisoloko sifundiswa ukucacisa ngokucacileyo "ingqondo kunye neemvakalelo," zazikho nje ukuba zingekho ngaphandle komnye. Siyazi kakuhle ukuba iimvakalelo, iimvakalelo, amava angaphunywa, agxothwe, agxothwe, agxothwe. Kodwa, kuvela, unako ukuthetha nabo "ngengqondo"!
Yiyiphi ingqiqo yeengqondo (siya kuthiwa nge-EI okanye i-IQ kamva)? Enyanisweni, ukukwazi kwethu ukuqonda iimvakalelo zethu kunye nemvakalelo yomnye umntu, kunye nokukwazi ukulawula kwaye ngale ndlela sakha ukusebenzisana kwethu nabantu. Khawucinge ukuba umntu othuthayo wandixelela into enyanyekayo-imeko eqhelekileyo, akunjalo? Kwaye wenza ntoni - ukucaphuka, ukuhlambalaza, ukuphazamisa isimo sengqondo sabanye kwikhonkco? Kule meko, kwakhona, unako ukuphuma, ukuba kungenjalo ngeemeko ezilungileyo, ngoko, ubuncinane, kwimeko.
Iingcamango zengqondo zengqondo ziqhekeza ngokubonga kwi-Goleman, ethi "Intelligence Intelligence". Ebonakala ngo-1995, wajika iingqondo zezigidi zabantu baseMerika kwaye kungekhona kuphela. Okwangoku, incwadi kaGoleman inithengise ikopi ezingaphezu kwezigidi ezi-5 kwaye iguqulelwe kwiilwimi eziliqela!
Yintoni ekhangayo malunga neengcamango ezikhoyo kule ncwadi? Okokuqala, ukucinga kwakhe ukuba ubukho bezinga eliphezulu le-IQ kumntu akuqinisekisi ukuba unako ukufikelela kwiindawo eziphakamileyo ze-career kwaye uphumelele. Ngenxa yoko, kuyimfuneko ukuba ube nezinye iimpawu ... Xa uphando, xa kuthelekiswa ukuba ngabaphathi abaphumeleleyo bahluke njani kumagosa aphezulu, kwavela ukuba abo babesakuba neempawu ezifana nokukwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo, kunye nokuqonda nokulawula iimvakalelo zabanye. Abantu abaneengqondo eziphakamileyo zengqondo banako ukwenza izigqibo ezigqithiseleyo, basebenza ngokubanzi ngokucacileyo nangokufanelekileyo kwiimeko ezibucayi, baqonde kakuhle kwaye baphathe abaphantsi kwabo.
Iimvakalelo zinezinto ezinamandla , ezingasetyenziselwa wena kunye nabanye. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kukuziqwalasela ngexesha xa ziphakama, ukuhlalutya ubunjani babo kunye nesibalo senzeke kwazo kwaye zigqibe ekubeni zilawulwe njani. Kwaye ulawulo lweemvakalelo - le yikhono onokufumana kunye nokuphuhlisa!
Ndacinga "inkolelo" yengqondo. Kodwa kulula ukuthetha "ukulawula iimvakalelo," kodwa lisebenza njani ekusebenzeni? Yiyo kanye eyona ndlela ekhethekileyo yokuba mna, kunye nabanye abathathi-nxaxheba, senza uqeqesho, kuya kunceda.
Enye yezona zinto zinomdla kakhulu, ukusuka kwimbono yam, kuthiwa "Ukutshintshela urhulumente ngezwi lezwi." Isitshixo salo kukuba sonke sasi "ngena" kwisinye sezihlandlo ezine ezicetywayo: "umlindi", "umhlobo", "inzala" kunye ne "showman". Kulo msebenzi, abaqeqeshi bacebisa ukuba iqela lethu lihlukane zibe zibini. Umntu ngamnye wahamba ngokutshintshela "ukungena" kwiindawo ezifanelekileyo, kwaye enye iphulaphule ngenyameko, kwaye yanika uvavanyo - yayiyi "executor" ekholisa. Emva koko satshintsha indawo.
Kuzo zonke "ezichaziweyo", kucelwa ukuba sithethe ngezwi elifanelekileyo, sebenzisa intetho, ithoni, kwaye ukhethe amagama alungileyo. Ngokuba "umhlobo" lizwi elithambileyo, elithembayo, ithoni evulekile kunye nentlalo. Eli lizwe linikwe lona lilula. Kodwa ithoni "yindoda elumkileyo" andizange ndiyiqonde ngokukhawuleza. Kule meko kuyimfuneko ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza, ngokulinganiselwe, ngokungenasiphelo, njengokufundisa, ukutyhila inyaniso, ngelizwi elizolileyo, elizolile. Ndathi ngandlela-thile ndagqiba ekubeni le toni isondele kakhulu kum. Sekunjalo, iincwadana zithatha "ukufundisa," "ukufumana iinyaniso," "iimfihlelo zokuzithemba" ... Kodwa enye into ukuyibeka yonke iphepha, kwaye enye inokuvakalisa iingcamango zakho, kunye nesigxina sezwi, usebenzisa amagama amkelekileyo, ukukhetha amagama afanelekileyo. ... kodwa ndenza!
Ithoni ye "mfazwe", endicinga ukuba yayingenakuchasana ngokupheleleyo, yaphumelela okokuqala! Leli lizwi lisasazwa yimikhosi, iinkosi, iinkokeli ezinzulu. Lo myalelo-ntetho, onamandla-willed, umyalelo, banikwa imiyalelo.
Kwaye kufuneka ukhulume ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba imiyalelo yakho ilandelwa ngokukhawuleza. Kuye kwangoko kuye kwavela-kungabikho, umkhosi kum ukuba ulandelele kungekudala, kodwa "ukwakha" indlu ndingakwazi ngokuchanekileyo. Kwaye into eyona nto, njengoko kubonakala kum, kuvela kum kuyaneliseka.
Nge "showman" andingenakulula ukujamelana nayo. Le ithoni ibonisa ngokucacileyo, ngokukhawuleza, ukutsala ingqalelo. Ukuthetha kuyimfuneko kwiitoni eziphakamileyo, ngoko ke, ukuzenzele umdla. I-ideal "ye-showman" ingaba yindlela yokuthetha ngombonisi weTV noAndrei Malakhov. Yaye nangona i-tone "ye-showman" ndiyibambe, kwaye ndigcine ndibonakala ndikholisekile, andinakuyithetha ukuba ndiziva "ndikhululekile" ...
Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba lo msebenzi awuyinto elula, njengoko kubonakala kuqala. Kodwa mbulela kuye, ndaqonda ukuba ndiziphi iimpawu endingazidinga. Emva kwakho konke, ukusebenzisa izwi (ivolumu, ithoni, tempo kunye nesigxina) ungenza iimeko ezithile kwaye "usebenzise" kwiimeko eziyimfuneko. Ngokomzekelo, ulungiswe ekhaya, kwaye abakhi babekho, ngokunyanisekileyo, kungeyona nto inembeza ... Le yilapho ithoni ye "mfazwe" ifika ngokufanelekileyo! Okanye, zithi, unomxholo obalulekileyo nomntwana. Ngenxa yale njongo, ithoni "yesilumko" iya kuhambelana. Kwaye ngexesha loxubusho lwezoshishino, unokufuneka usebenzise zonke iziganeko ezine!
Kodwa into enomdla kakhulu kulindeleke! Sonke siyakuthanda ukubukela iingxoxo zeTV, imiboniso yezopolitiko, apho abapolitiki abadumileyo benza izibhengezo zomlomo. Yaye yintoni na ukuba ibe kwindawo yabo kwaye "njengokungathi umdlalo kunye nokudlala" ukuphendula imibuzo enzima kakhulu, engathandekiyo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ahlambalaza iincwadana ... enomotheka ebusweni bakhe? Emva kokusebenzisa "Intetho Yomviwa WobuMongameli," ndaqonda ukuba kwakunjani.
Ingundoqo yolu hlobo lubonisa ukuba ngalinye iqela lethu lathetha nabanye abathathi-nxaxheba kumfanekiso "wokubhalwa ngumongameli" kwaye waphendula imibuzo ekhohlakeleyo yeendaba zentatheli (ngomfanekiso apho asebenza nabo). Kule meko, ibinzana lokuqala elithi "umviwa" kuyo nayiphi na umbuzo kufuneka ukuba: "Ewe, oku kunjalo." Ngaphandle koko kuyimfuneko ukuhlala uzinzile, ukuzithemba ukuzithemba kwaye ungabonakali ukuhlazeka okanye ukunyaniseka ngesisipha okanye ngesenzo.
Ugh! Kwakungekho lula: amaxesha ambalwa "ndilahlekile", ndingayazi indlela yokuphuma kwimeko enzima. Kwakungekho lula ukufumana iimpendulo kwimibandela enokumangalisayo. Ngokomzekelo, enye ye "intatheli" yandibuza: "Ngaba yinyaniso ukuba xa uba ngumongameli, ngaba uya kuvumela abaqhubi ukuba baqhube ngokujikeleza isixeko ngokukhawuleza kweekhilomitha ezingama-200 ngeyure?" Ndaphendula: "Ewe, yinyaniso" ... kwaye qalisa ngokukhawuleza ukuza nempendulo. Ngenxa yoko, ndididekile kakhulu, kodwa, xa ndandifumana umfanekiso "wokhetho lomongameli", uphendule umbuzo olandelayo, ndandifunde indlela yokuqhuba kwaye iguquke, kwaye iimpendulo zam zicaca ngakumbi.
Ndiyavuma ukuba indima "intatheli" inenzuzo kunokuba "umviwa". Xa ndabuza imibuzo ephosakeleyo kuba "abaviwa" ababethetha phambi kwam, ndiziva ngathi ngunkosikazi wale meko. Kwaye emva kokuba ndandenza "njengomviwa" ngaba ndiyazi ukuba njengombhali weendaba, bekufuneka ndiyicinge ngempendulo efanelekileyo phambi kokuba ndibuze umbuzo, ngokuqinisekileyo, ndingayiphendula njani xa ndandisesikhundleni sithethi. Emva koko ndandiziva ndithembele kwi-rockstor!
Kodwa ngoku yonke imihla "ndiyathetha" kwindima yokuba "ngumongameli wongameli" - ngokwengqondo ndimbuza imibuzo, kwaye mna, kwaye ndibaphendula ngesithunzi. Olu buchule alunakulimaza nabani na, kodwa luya kulungelelanisa nayiphi na imeko - ukususela kwansuku zonke ukuya kwishishini.
Kwaye ke, ngubani owaziyo, mhlawumbi lo msebenzi uyisinyathelo sam sokuqala kwimisebenzi yezopolitiko. Kukho nawuphi na, sele ndikulungele iingxoxo zeTV!
Kodwa ngokungathí sina ... Ukuqonda iimvakalelo zakho neemvakalelo zabanye yinyathelo lokuqala ukuya kuthi, nakwixesha elinzima, uziphathe kwaye ulawule imeko apho yavela khona. Njengomntu oyisilumko wathi: "Abantu bayakulibala into oyithethayo, abantu baya ku libala into oyenzayo, kodwa abayi kuze bayikhohlwe indlela ozive ngayo."