Abantwana babesaba izinto ezininzi. Ngaphezu koko, ngokuqhelekileyo unjalo, malunga nabantu abadala abangacingi. Akunjalo nantoni na ukuba ukwesaba abantwana kunganakwa, kufuneka bahliswe. Emva koko, phantsi kweemeko ezithile, banokukhula babe ngama-phobias. Ncedisa umntwana wakho ukuba ahlangabezane naye! Iingcali zengqondo zifumanisa ukwesaba kwabantwana abakhulu abangela ukuphazamiseka kungekuphela kubantwana ngokwabo, kodwa kubazali babo. Ukwazi, unokuziphatha ngokufanelekileyo kule nto okanye kuloo meko. Kwaye oku sele kuninzi.
1. Ukuhamba.
Ukutshintsha kweendawo zokuhlala, kwikhaya labo eliqhelekileyo, mhlawumbi nabahlobo babo-konke oku kubangela ukuba banenkxalabo ebantwaneni babo nawuphi na ubudala. Ukuhamba kunzima nakumntu omdala, sithini ntoni ngomntwana. Ngaba uhamba? Buza abantwana bakho oko bacinga ngako. Into ephambili ayinakuyihoxisa le ngxaki. Akunakwenzeka ukuqagela ukuba yiyiphi "iibilisi" ngaphakathi komntwana ngeli xesha. Emva koko, abantwana banokukhathazeka ngento efana nombala weendonga egumbini labo lokulala, apho zisetyenziswa khona. Bancede ukuba bajamelane nale nto. Emva koko, ekugqibeleni, umbala weendonga kulula ukuyitshintsha. Yaye ukwesaba, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwenzeka ntoni! Thetha ngeenzuzo zezindlu zangomso. Ngokomzekelo, indlu entsha isekelwe ipaki. Okanye kufuphi nendlu indawo enkulu yokudlala. Uyazi kakuhle kunokuba uthwale umntwana wakho.
2. Iindaba kwiTV.
Awuyi kukholwa, kodwa le ngxaki yangempela kubantwana abaninzi. Eyona nto ingabangela ukuba abantwana babone iindaba kuzo zonke, nangona kunzima ukubenqabela ukuba baphulaphule. Abantwana banomdla. Zininzi izinto ezithandayo, nangona zikhwankqisayo. Ngokomzekelo, abantwana bayothuka xa beva malunga nokulahlekelwa okanye ukubulawa kwabantu, ukuhlaselwa kweenja ezigwenxa, iifake, iibhere, kunye nazo zonke iintlobo zeentlekele zemvelo. Kodwa ngaphandle kwalokhu, akukho ncwadana yokukhululwa kweendaba! Ukuba akukho ndlela yokukhusela abantwana kule nto ngokupheleleyo - bavumele ukuba babelane ngeemvakalelo zabo kunye neengxaki, kodwa baqinisekise ukuba iziganeko ezinjalo ziyinto engaqhelekanga. Kwaye kuya kuba yinduduzo enzima.
3. Into eya kwenzeka kuwe.
Abantwana bahlala bexhalabele ngawe, nangona ushiya ikhaya ixesha elifutshane. Bayesaba izingozi zezithuthi apho unokubandezeleka khona, ukuhlaselwa ngawe ngabaphangi, izinja okanye nabani na. Tshela umntwana wakho apho uya khona, kwaye uza kubuya nini na ixesha. Futhi jonga ixesha, ukuba uthembisa ukuba uya kuthi emva koko. Ndikholelwe, oku kunzima! Abantwana ngokwenene banesaba ukulahlekelwa nguwe, ngamanye amaxesha uloyiko luyabathatha ngokupheleleyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa udlula iminyaka. Into ephambili ayiyikugculela umntwana kwaye ungayicacisi "le nkathalo"! Kungomdla wakho.
4. Abazali baxabana.
Uninzi lwaba bantwana banetyala ngale nto. Akunamsebenzi ukuba uthi: "Awunanto nantoni na," oku akunakuqondakala kumntwana. Zama nje ukucacisa ukuba onke amaMama kunye noodade bahlala bexoxa ngento ethile, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba abayithandani. Kwaye kuya kuba kuhle ukuxolisa omnye komnye ukuze umntwana abone. Ngokuqhelekileyo, akuyi kuba buhlungu ukuphepha ukungqubana nokuxhaphazwa phambi kwabantwana. Nangona ukuxhatshazwa kobudlelwane bomntwana kukwazi ukuziva kwaye kwinqanaba leemvakalelo. Kule bantwana akunakwenzeka ukukhohlisa.
5. Izilwanyana nobumnyama.
Oku kunjalo, into eyona nto ebantwaneni abamoyika ngayo. Zama ukuchazela ukuba ubumnyama luncedo, kuba kukunceda uphumle kwaye ulale. Ngamanye amaxesha banenkxalabo yokuba kufuneka ubuyele endaweni ethile emnyama (umzekelo, ukusuka kweyesibini). Qiniseka ukujonga oku. Ngomnye umzamo, unokwenza ukuba abantwana bancede ngokukhawuleza. Into ephambili ayiyikuhlazisa abantwana bakho, ungabahlazi ngamagama: "Oo, mfana omkhulu, kwaye uyika ubumnyama!" Ngokuphathelele izilo, jonga nje nomntwana phantsi kombhede ukuze uqiniseke ukuba akukho mntu ukhona. Zama ukucacisa ngokungenakunyaniseka kumntwana wakho ukuba zonke ezi zilwanyana nezilwanyana ziyingcali. Yona nje ibali elingabikho. Elinye iphuzu elibalulekileyo: ukushisa kwigumbi. Akufanele kushushu kakhulu. Ngokusoloko singacingi ngako, kodwa ngeze. Igumbi lomntwana kufuneka liphuculwe ngamaxesha ngamaxesha, kwaye ukushisa okugqithiseleyo kunokubangela ukuba kubhubhe.
6. Ukufa.
Xelela abantwana ukuba banomdla obude kakhulu, obonwabileyo phambi kwabo, kwaye akufanele bakhathazeke ngokufa xa beselula. Kucacile, awukwazi ukulindela ukuphendula kwabo kwangaphambili, kodwa zama ukunika ulwazi oluhambelana neminyaka yabo. Musa "ukuxhatshaza" abantwana kunye nemithetho yobomi nokufa, musa ukuthetha ngesihloko esithi "akukho nto ihlala ngonaphakade." Lindela ade bakhule.
7. Inja.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukwesaba izinja akupheli. Mhlawumbi umntwana wayesaba inja epakini ngaphambili. Ulibale ngokukhawuleza malunga nalo, kwaye umntwana - hayi. Okanye, mhlawumbi, uyathuthumela kwaye ukhathazeke xa udlula inja, kwaye abantwana "bakhupha" ixhala lakho. Isisombululo esihle kakhulu kukufumana umhlobo onenja encinci, enobungozi. Kancinci umntwana uya kulusebenzisa. Enyanisweni, abantwana bahlala belula ukuqhagamshelana nezilwanyana. Emva kwexesha, uya kuqonda ukuba akuzona zonke izinja ezifanayo. Ngamunye unomntu wakhe kunye "neenqanawa entloko." Isinyathelo esilandelayo kukufumana inja ngokwakho. Ndikholelwe, ukwesaba kuya kugqitywa ngonaphakade.
8. Ukuxhaswa kwabangontanga.
Abantwana abaninzi banenkxalabo malunga neenkohlakalo ezikolweni. Thatha umkhwa wokuthetha nomntwana malunga nento yonke ehlabathini, ngoko banokukuthemba xa izinto zingaphumeleki esikolweni. Kuzo zonke izikolo kukho ingxaki yokungabikho kwamanye amazwe. Musa ukuyihoxisa! Qhubeka uqhagamshelana notitshala, kunye nabazali babanye abantwana, ukuba uqaphele zonke iziganeko zezikolo.
9. I-quarrel kunye nabahlobo.
Lo mbuzo uvame ukukhathaza abantwana abadala. Yaye uyayikhathalela ngokwenene. Mamela oko bathethayo kwaye ubuze imibuzo embalwa ephaphile. Ingaba buhlungu kangakanani umntwana wakho? Yintoni eyayiyintloko yokuxabana? Unokukunceda njani kule meko? Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantwana bahlangabezana nale ngxaki ngokwabo, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha unako ukubanceda ekwakheni ubudlelwane. Into ephambili kukuba, baxelele ukuba izinto ezinjalo zenzeka ebomini. Ukuba naluphi na ulwalamano oludinga ukuphuka, ukucinga kwakhona, "ixesha lokuphuma". Batshele ukuba ucinga ngengqondo nabo ngeli xesha. Oku kufuneka kuncede.
10. Ukuhamba kwidokotela wamazinyo.
Ukwesaba "isono" kungekhona kuphela abantwana, kodwa baninzi nabantu abadala. Le ngxaki ibuhlungu ngokukhethekileyo xa kwakukho amava amaninzi. Kunzima ukukholisa umntwana ukuba angakhathazeki, xa eyazi ukuba kuya kubangela ubuhlungu. Ndingathini? Vumela umntwana ukuba aqonde ukuba ukhona, ukuba uyamqonda, kwaye uziphatha ngokungazenzisiyo. Mangaliswe inkalipho yomntwana, nangona sele ekulungele ukukhala ngenxa yokwesaba. Mkhuthaze ngazo zonke iindlela. Musa ukuhlazisa i binzana: "I-Panty! Ewe, ndingumdala wakho ... "Ndikholelwe, oku kunzima kakhulu.
Oku, akunjalo, akukho konke ukwesaba okuvela kubantwana. Kukho ezininzi. Kodwa, ngokwazi oku, uya kukwazi ukuqamba i-algorithm yezenzo zokulwa nolwazi kunye nezinye izinto ezininzi. Into ephambili ayiyikugijima. Ungavumeli ukuba uloyiko oluqhelekileyo lomntwana lube ngama-phobias kunye nezinye izinto ezingaqhelekanga ze-psyche. Emva koko, ukusebenzisana nabo kuya kuba nzima nakakhulu. Ungaphuthelwa umzuzu. Kusemandleni akho. Khumbula oku kwaye usoloko usondele kufuphi nabantwana bakho. Bayakuxabisa ukuthatha inxaxheba. Nangona kuninzi kamva.