Ukuba ubuphosakele, wenze into engalunganga, okanye wenzakalisa intombi yakho ngegama elibi, ngoko kufuneka uxolele uxolo. Ngenxa yokuba unokucinga ukuba awukhathalele, ngoko umphefumlo wakhe unomsindo ngoku.
Makhe sithethe ngezizathu.
Ngaphambi kokuba ucele ukuxolelwa kwiintombi yakho, kufuneka uqale uqonde ukuba kutheni wacaphuka. Isizathu sokuba ukungqubuzana kwaqhambuka kunokuba nantoni na. Into engathandekiyo yinto xa ekhuphe khona kuwe, kwaye ungazi ukuba yintoni eyabangela ukuba abe nomsindo omubi, kwaye kutheni enenkani enqwenela ukuthetha nawe. Okubi nakakhulu, ukuba iinzame zakho zokufumana isizathu sesimo sakhe esibi kakhulu, akaphenduli nto, okanye unenkani unyanzela ukuba yonke into iyinto eqhelekileyo.
Ukuba intombazana inokuthetha nawe, nangona kunzima, kuya kubakho ukukhupha yonke into evela kuyo, le nto isele yesithathu impumelelo endleleni yokuxazulula ingxabano. Ngomnene, ungaxinzeli, nakweyiphi na imeko, ngaphandle kokusebenzisa amagama angamaqhinga kunye namazwi, yenza oko kuye, yintoni oyenzile, kutheni unesimo esibi.
Ukuba le ntombazana inenkani ihlala ingathuli okanye ihamba kakuhle emva kwemizamo yakho yokufumana into ephosakeleyo, uze umshiye yedwa - ngoku akunakuncedo ukuthetha naye, kuba uyayikhathaza imvakalelo yakhe. Zama kwakhona kamva kamva, xa ecima.
Ngoko, ufunde nge-hook okanye ngokugxeka ukuba kutheni, kwaye ngoku ucinga ukucela ukuxolelwa kwintombazana yakho ethandekayo. Okokuqala, hlalutya ulwazi olufunyenwe ukufumana ngokwaneleyo. Emva kwakho konke, ngamanye amaxesha izizathu zokuxabana ziyingane kwaye zihlekisayo, okanye ziyiziphukuphuku. Xa uhlalutya, qwalasela ukuba ubheka izinto ezithile ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, into efanayo inokuba yinto ehlukileyo kunye nokubaluleka kwakho. Into enokubonakala ngathi uyingqungquthela ingaba yintlekele yehlabathi kunye nayo.
Cinga izinto ezimbini: uqonda oko akuthethayo, okanye isizathu sokunyelisa kwakhe akunakuqondakala kuwe.
Ekugqibeleni uyayiqonda, ngenxa yento endiyithandayo oyithandayo. Khawucinge nje: ngaba iphoso lakho ngokwenene? Okanye ngaba omnye umntu wayebeka bucala kuwe? Kodwa ukuba wena ngokwakho uyayazi ityala lakho, kungcono ukuyiqonda kwaye uxolise. Ukuba uqala ukukhanyela, ukutshintsha ityala phezu kwayo, ngoko unokuthi ulahlekelwe yintombi yakho.
Ukuba isizathu sesikhalazo sisengenakuqondakala ... kakuhle. Kufuneka uthethe ngeelwimi zombini oziqondayo.
Ngoku into ephambili - indlela yokucela ukuxolelwa kwentombazana? Kukho amaninzi amatyala, konke kuxhomekeke kwimeko enokummangaza ngayo, ubuninzi obuqhetseba obwenziwe. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngenxa yokuziphatha kakubi okuncinci akudingeki uziphose ngamadolo uze ucele inceba ngezinyembezi. Kwaye ngokubanzi kuyimfuneko ukuziphatha ngokukhawuleza kangangoko kunokwenzeka, kungekhona ukuhlambalaza kwaye ungabi squeak. Ngenxa yokuba abaninzi abalinganiswa nabasetyhini badla ngokusetyenziswa kwelokuba indoda isasazeka phambi kwayo emva kokuphazamiseka.
Ukuba wenze into engakumbi okanye ingaphantsi, ungenza utshintsho ngeendlela ezininzi. Kodwa okokuqala kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthetha naye, ukuchaza isizathu sokuba wenze njalo, kwaye kungenjalo. Vumelana neqabane ngaphambi kokuvela kwengxabano, nokuba kukho nawuphi na umcimbi, kungakhathaliseki ukuba awusombululwanga ngephutha, ukuba kufuneka uxoxe. Kungenxa yokuba ukuba omnye wenu akayiqondi ngokugcwele isikhundla sesinye, ke ingxabano ayiyi kulungiswa. Wonke umntu uya kuma. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kulungile ukufumana umkhwa wokuphulaphula, ukuva nokuvuma umbono weqabane lakho ukuze ufumane ukungqinelana. Kwaye malunga neendlela iindlela umntu angacela ngayo ukuxolelwa intombazana:
1 indlela. Mnike iintyatyambo zakhe ezithandayo okanye ithoyizi elimnandi. Le ndlela igugile, kodwa ke uya kuyithambisa ingqumbo yentombazana yakhe ethandekayo. Ukuba iintyatyambo ezinikwe zona zibaleka ebusweni bakho, kuthetha ukuba wenze isono ngokunyanisekileyo, okanye intombi yakho inomdla kwaye ithanda ukuqhubela phambili.
2 indlela. Yenza konke njengoko efuna. Ngokomzekelo, uyamcaphukisa ukuba ukhetha ukuphuma kunye nabahlobo bebhola lebhola, kunokuchitha ixesha lokuhlwa kunye naye. Ngoko uchithe naye ngokuhlwa kakhulu, yenza isidlo sothando okanye uhambe ngqo! Uya kuqonda ukuba uyithande kuwe ukuba ibhola yeyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu ebomini bakho, kwaye unokuyihlawulela.
3 indlela. Bhala kuye phantsi kweefestile, indlela oyithandayo ngayo, indlela enhle kwaye emangalisayo ngayo! Kuya kuba mnandi kakhulu kuye, njengento efanelekileyo enamagama afudumele asele etafileni. Kuyakubonakala ngathi-yinto engummangaliso, iphepha elincinci kunye neempendulo zakho! Kodwa kuye kubaluleke kakhulu. Lo bubonakaliso obuhle bokuthanda kwakho.
4 indlela. Yenza into ongazange uyenze ngaphambili. Ewe, le nto kufanele ibe yinto entle. Ngokomzekelo, zipheke ngesidlo, okanye uhlambulule indlu, ngoko uyavuya xa efika ekhaya evela emsebenzini ekhathele. Unokumnika umsila - uya kumphucula, kwaye ukhulule uncedo olungakaze lube nalo. Kwizandla zakho zesandla ezinamandla, intombazana iya kutyhafaza njengetshokolethi kwaye ikuxolele yonke into ehlabathini.
Kodwa khumbula ukuba awudingi ukuxolisa xa ungaqondi kwaye ungaboni ityala lakho. Ngenxa yoko, ubudlelwane bunokuthi bube buthathaka, kuba ngelinye ilanga uya kudinwa ngokuba netyala elingunaphakade. Ngoko ke, intanda kufuneka ikwazi ukulinganisa kwimilinganiselo yakhe kunye nokumangalelwa. Ukuba akangalunganga, kodwa uyamangalela yonke into, ngoko ngaphandle kwemizwa engadingekile, ngaphandle kokumemeza, uchaze indlela obona ngayo yonke imeko. Futhi umcele ukuba ahlalutye yonke into oyithethileyo, kwaye ugqibe ukuba ulungile yini? Kodwa akukho mcimbi ungaba nomsindo. Ngoko uya kumisa intuthuko yoxolelaniso nonke. Kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba ungalahlekelwa. Ngoko ke, ukuba uyithande kuwe, yibambelele ekugqibeleni. Qiniseka kwaye uzimisele, thabatha ilungiselelo lazo zonke iingongoma ngaphezulu kwe "i" kwizandla zakho ezinamandla. Unokuqiniseka ukuba sele iphelile, uya kukubulela kakhulu ngokucacisa imeko. Ngenxa yokuba umntu uyengqondo, kwaye umfazi unengqondo. Ngamanye amava iimvakalelo zincinci, kodwa ingqondo ihlala ibeka kuyo.