Zininzi izinto. Kodwa, uyingxenye yenkampani, ngoko kufuneka uxoxe naye. Kuthatha ixesha, kwaye olu nxi Intombazana iqala ukuqaphela ukuba akayikrakra, ukuba ukuziphatha kwakhe kusemasikeni okanye into enjalo, kodwa kwindawo ephantsi, lo ngumntu onomdla kwaye onomdla. Ewe, akukho mntu ucinga ukuba unokuyithanda, eyazi ukuba ubuhlobo obuphakathi kwala bantu babuvela phi. Kodwa, iiveki ezimbalwa okanye iinyanga zidlulayo kwaye intombazana iyaqaphela ukuba ihlala inomdla ukuba ngaba le nsizwa iya kuba semhlanganweni, ukuba wenza njani, nokuba ufumene umntu. Ngendlela, umbuzo wokugqibela, ngokuqhelekileyo, ukhathazeka kakhulu. Kwiintlanganiso, xa intombazana ikhangelelana nomntu, uyichaza ngobudlelwane kunye nomkhwa, kodwa eqinisweni yonke into ihamba phambili. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kufuneka ufumane amandla okuvuma - wathandana, nangona abaninzi bebonile.
Indlela intombazana ekhangele ngayo umfana, indlela ethetha ngayo ngaye, ukuba ukhumbula kangakanani ngaye, xa engenayo, uyinika zonke iimvakalelo aziva ngayo. Nangona le ntokazi ayifumanga.
Kubonakala kukuphi na ukuba xa intombazana ibheka kwindlela eya kumthandayo? Ngokuqinisekileyo, konke kuxhomekeke kumoya kunye nendawo yokugcina impahla. Ukuba le ntombazana ivaliwe ngokufanelekileyo kwaye ingasetyenziswanga ukubonisa iimvakalelo zakhe zokubonisa, mhlawumbi, ukuba nesimo sengqondo salo mfana sele sitshintshile ngendlela yothando, iya kuphawulwa kuphela ngabantu abangayaziyo umnyaka wokuqala. Kodwa abathethayo nabangenayo, babonise iimvakalelo zabo ngokukhawuleza, bengayifuni loo nto. Oku kuphawulwa ngumntu wonke, ngaphandle kwezinto zokuqwalasela.
Ewe, akumangalisi, kodwa amadoda ahlale esayibona imiva yabasetyhini, ngakumbi xa ezi zifihliwe. Inyaniso kukuba akubona bonke abafana bakholelwa othandweni. Ukongezelela, kukho amaxesha amaninzi ukuba, ngokwenene, akakholelwa ngokwabo ngoko kwaye akavumelanga ukuba umntu angabathandana nabo. Inyaniso yokuba amadoda anjalo akholelwa ukuba umfazi unokunyamekela kuye kuphela ukuba uya kubonisa ingqalelo ngokwaneleyo kuye, ukukhawuleza, ukunika izipho. Abavumi ukuba loo mvakalelo ivela apho. Kwimeko enzima nakakhulu, xa phakathi kwendoda kunye nentombazana yayinxulumano olunzulu, kwaye ke ngokukhawuleza wawela ngothando. Le ndlela ayihambisani nombono womntu wonke. Kwaye ukuba ngathi le ntokazi ayibhekanga kuye, kungakhathaliseki ukuba wayibonisa njani iimvakalelo zakhe, uya kuphumla kude kube yilapho ephelileyo kwaye akakholelwa ukuba oku kwenene.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, akubona bonke abantu abanjalo. Kukho nabo bajonga yonke into kanye, kodwa bahlala bebancinci.
Yintoni endiyenzayo ukuze ndibonise uthando lomfana okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, yigcine imfihlelo.
Ngoko, makhe siqale ngetyala lokuqala. Ukuba intombazana ifuna ukubonisa loo mvakalelo yakhe, kufuneka ubeke imimiselo ethile ngokukhawuleza. Ngokomzekelo, ungaxhomeki kuye ngokusobala uze uvume uthando lwakho. Insizwa ayiyi kuba nomdla - kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba uqale ukuziva kuwe kunento eqhelekileyo yovelwano.
Kule meko, uya kufuna udlano. Ukhangele, uthinte, uyamamatheka - sebenzisa yonke into enhlekazi yakho. Mbonise ukuba unomdla kuwe, kodwa kungenjalo kunokuba kunjalo. Zama ukuhlala uvimba iimvakalelo zakho kunye neemvakalelo, kodwa ngelo xesha, akufanele uphenduke kwi-Queen Queen. Ukuba umntu osemncinini akakholelwa ukuba unokuthanda, ngoko uya kumkhawulela ngokupheleleyo. Nika ingqalelo kwiingxaki kunye neminqweno, uxhasane iingxoxo, uyinyamekele. Makhe azive ufudumele ukusuka kwicala lakho.
Ewe, ukuba unomuvo wokuthi umntu uyondla into kuwe, kodwa akakholelwa ukuba uyamthanda, mhlawumbi, kusenokwenzeka ukuba uthethe ngokuthe ngqo. Apha, ukunyonyana kunye nezinye iindlela zokwenza umdla akunakwenzeka ukuncedisa, kwaye konke oku kuya kutsalwa ixesha elide. Kwaye awufuni ukuba insizwa ivume kuwe ngokuthandana, isele ikude neyabantwana. Ngoko ke, khuluma naye ngokungathethekiyo. Chaza ukuba uyakuthanda, ukuba ufuna ukuba naye kwaye akusiyo i-farce. Vumela loo mntu azi ukuba unzulu. Emva koko kuya kuba lula kuye ukuba uvule umphefumlo wakhe uze uvume kuwe ngothando.
Ewe, ngoku ngamagama ambalwa malunga necala lesibini. Kwenzeka ukuba ibhinqa ayidingi indoda ukuba yayazi ngothando lwakhe. Izizathu zinokuba zininzi: ngokuqinisekileyo akayi kukwazi ukumthanda, unomnye, akanakwenzeka malunga nentombazana kunye nezinto ezinjalo. Kule meko, kufuneka uhlale ukhumbule ngokuzithiba. Ungaze uxoxe nomfana kunye nabahlobo abanokumxelela ngaye. Khumbula ukuba kukho phantse ikhulu-cent yepesenti ukuba umntu uya kuthetha ngokuqinisekileyo. Xa ukhangele kule ndoda, yima yonke iminqweno ukuba imkhangele, uthinte, nokuba mfutshane, zama ukumkholisa kwaye uncede. Ukunxibelelana kwakho kufanele kube ngumhlobo. Ungabonakali umdla kakhulu kwiingxaki kunye nemicimbi, uhlale unika uncedo lwakho. Kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba awuyidingi, ukuba le ntombazana ayikufanelanga. Ngelishwa, oku kunzima kwaye kunzima. Ngoko kulungele ukuxwayisa ukuba ukuzithiba rhoqo kunokukwenza ukhathele kakhulu kwaye ucasuke. Kodwa ukuba uyayidinga ngokwenene, zama ukuhlala uhlala ngesandla. Khumbula ukuba abantu abaselula abakwazi ukuqonda njengamantombazana, ngoko ke ukuba uyayibona, insizwa ayiyi kuqonda imizwa yakho.