Ukufumana abathandekayo ngumvakalelo oqhelekileyo. Kodwa kwabanye abantu baqala ukufikelela kwi-paranoia, echazwe kwiingcamango ezingenangqondo kunye neengcamango, izigidi zeefowuni kunye nemiyalezo, apho bajonga ukuba yonke into iyinto evamile nomntu. Kule meko, kufuneka ufunde indlela yokujongana neemvakalelo ezinjalo, kuba kuyaziwa ukuba ukucinga okungalunganga kungenza ukuba kube nengxaki.
Ungacacise umhlaba ukuvakalelwa
Abaninzi abafazi ngokwabo badala umoya ozuzisa kakhulu amava alo hlobo. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kungabonakali ukusasazwa kweendlela ezahlukeneyo zolwaphulo-mthetho kunye nolwazi olufihlakeleyo, ekuthethwa ngazo ngokufa kwabantu, kwaye oku kufana nokungalindelekanga. Siye safunda ukucinga ukuba ukufa kufike kwixesha elithile elibalulekileyo, kuphela kubantu abadala kunye ngokucacileyo kungekhona kwindlu yethu. Ukucinga okunjalo kuyindlela yokuzikhusela ngaphambi kokutya kwaye isebenza ngokugqibeleleyo de umntu, ngenxa yolwazi oluhlukeneyo, uqala ukuqaphela ukuba intlekele inokwenzeka kumntu wonke, kwaye ingalindelekanga. Ngako oko, ukuba uyaqonda ukuba ukwesaba kwabo abasondelene nomlingiswa onjalo obonakalayo emva kokuba ubandakanyeka kwiindaba ezahlukeneyo zobugebengu, khawuleza ukuyeka ukujonga iinkqubo ezinjalo kwaye ufunde amabali anjalo. Ewe, ubomi bungaqinisekanga, kodwa akuthethi ukuba inkathazo iya kwenzeka ekhaya lakho. Amabali owabonayo nokuwafundayo, ayenye ngamakhulu amawaka, kwanezigidi. Kwaye emva kokugqalwa, kufuneka uhlale uqaphele, kwaye ungaqali ukucinga ngokufa. Ukuba awukwazi ukulawula uloyiko lwakho kunye nemizwelo yolu hlobo, vumela ukuyeka ukufumana ulwazi olunjalo.
Ukutsalana kakubi
Ukuba uhlushwa ngenxa yoloyiko kubathandekayo bakho, khumbula ukuba nayiphi na ingcamango iphathekayo, kokubili kokulungileyo nokubi. Njalo xa uqala ngokuzimela ukumela umfanekiso wezinto ezimbi, zonke zijika zibe ngamandla anamathela kumntu ocinga ngaye. Ngoko ukhangelele ingxaki kuye. Ngoko ke, ngokukhawuleza ukuba loo nto iqala ukubonakala entloko yakho, khawuleza utshintshe ingqalelo yakho uze uqale ucinge ngenye into. Khumbuza ukuba ukulungele ukuba ucinge ngomntu, iimeko ezinjalo ziza kwenzeka kuye. Kwaye iingcamango ezimbi zingakhokelela ekuchaseni, ngoko akufanelekanga ukucinga ngako konke. Abantu abaninzi baqala ukuqonda iingcinga zabo ezimbi njengempawu. Enyanisweni, iimpawu zexesha elibi liyakwazi ukugqithiswa ngokukhawuleza kwizinto ozifunayo. Izibonakaliso zivela ngamanye amaxesha xa ungakhange ukhulume ngomntu, kwaye nangakumbi, akazange acinge into embi okanye embi. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo amaphupha akaze aphuphe, umzekelo, ukufa kwalowo mntu. Uphupha kwesinye isimboli sokuba wena, ngokusekelwe kwikhompyutheni yakho, unokungafani ngokucacileyo njengesilumkiso. Ukuba uhlala ucinga ukuba intlekele ingenzeka kubathandekayo, ngokwemvelo, iingcamango zakho zibhaliswe kwi-subcortex, ebudeni bokuba ubuthongo bunikeza imifanekiso embi ngeengozi, umngcwabo njalonjalo, kwaye ukuphandabuza kukuyixhala kwaye uqala ukucinga ukuba oku kuya kwenzeka . Unakekele yonke into engakumbi. Nangona ukholelwa kwimbali yam, akudingeki ukuba uzicinge njengengqondo enkulu, ovula imifanekiso yekamva. Ziyinyamekele, iimvakalelo zakho kunye namaphupha akho ngokumangalisayo, hlalutya yonke into. Kuphela ke unako ukuqonda xa ufuna ukuba ukhathazeke ngokwenene, kwaye kwiimeko apho iimvakalelo zakho ziba ngumphumo wokuzimelela kunye neemeko ezixhomekeke kuzo.
Khusela i kufuphi
Ukuba ukwesaba kakhulu abathandekayo bakho, zama ukuzikhusela kangangoko kunokwenzeka kwiintlekele ezahlukeneyo. Ngendlela, le ntetho ayifumani ngokumisa wonke umntu ekhaya okanye ukubiza wonke umntu ongenakususwa. Enyanisweni, ukuba ukwesaba izihlobo zakho, kufuneka ubenzele iwadi zamandla eziza kubakhusela abantu kwingozi. Abantu abaninzi banokungathembeki ngezinto ezinjalo, kodwa i-amulet iyinxalenye yamandla amancinci angenalutho, okufakwa kuwo ngumntu owenza le nto. Kungenxa yoko, ukuba ufuna ukuzikhusela kwinto ethile kufuphi, yenza ngayo ngezandla zakho. Ingaba yiminye imihlobiso, amabhonkco, iimboli ze-motanki, ezazisusela ngexesha elidlulileyo likhusele amaSlavs kwiinkathazo, njalo njalo. Ngelizwi, unokwenza nayiphi into, apho ubeka amandla akho, uthando lwakho kunye nomnqweno wakho wokukhusela umntu. Ngoko ke, xa umntu enza umtsalane, kufuneka adibanise kumntu owenza kuye, uhlale ucinga ngomntu lowo kwaye umnqwenele kakuhle, nqwenela ukuba le nto iyamkhusela nayiphi na imeko. Xa wenza njalo ngale ndlela, i-amulet yakho iya kusebenza, ukuba kukho into eyenzeka ngokukhawuleza. Ngendlela, umntu owenza umlindi, akanakukholelwa emandleni akhe kwaye abe nokungathemba. Into ephambili kukuba konke oku kuthembekileyo, kuba lukholo lwakho kunye namandla akho aqinisekileyo aya kukukhusela.
Ukuba umntu ofuna ukukhusela ubhekisela kumlingo kwaye izinto ezinjalo zingathembi, ngoko ungafuni ukuthatha iiwadi zakho, ungadikibali. Yiya ecaweni rhoqo kwaye ubeke ikhandlela impilo yakhe. Khumbula ukuba nayiphi na isigidimi esilungileyo kwicandelo lomntu othize liyakhusela ekuhluphekeni. Kwaye ukuba uhlala ucela kuThixo ukuba umthandayo uphile kwaye ulungile, ngokohlobo oluthile luya kulujikeleza. Ngendlela, ukuze sikhusele izihlobo zethu, simele sibathandazele kuThixo yonke imihla. Oku akuhambelani nxamnye nokholo. Kalula, ukuba ukholelwa ekubeni khona kukaThixo, mcele ukuba akhusele abo uyamthandayo. Unako ukunxibelelana namagunya aphezulu kunaliphi na ixesha nasiphi na indawo. Into ephambili enomphefumlo wakho ngokwenene unqwenela ukukhusela nokukhusela abo uyithandayo. Amandla nje, axhaswa ubuncinane ngumthandazo omncinci, unomyalezo onamandla kakhulu kwaye uya kunceda abathandekayo bakho kwiimeko ezinzima baze bathabathe ubuhlungu babo.
Kodwa unokwenza ntoni ukuba ungumntu onokwenzululwazi ongakholelwa kwamanye amazwe? Kule meko, usacinga ngento yokuba iingcamango ezilungileyo kunye nezifiso ziya kuba neempembelelo ezintle kubantu obathandayo kuba iingcamango zethu zisengamandla kunye nokuphucula amandla, bhetele kuya kuba yinto ekujoliswe kuyo. Ngoko ukugxotha ububungqina bentloko yakho uze uzame ukucinga kuphela okulungileyo. Ngenxa yokuba, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ukholwa kwamanye aphezulu amandla okanye akunjalo, akusiyo ize ukuba kukho kuphela izigaba entetho yethu ephethe imiyalezo emihle. Ngoko bayasebenza ngokwenene ukukhusela umntu kwiingxaki ezahlukeneyo.