Emva koko, ngokuqhelekileyo ininzi yethu sikhula kuqala kwintsapho eyenziwe ngabazali, ngoko yakha eyabo, kwaye kungekudala ingaba yinxalenye yeentsapho zabantwana babo. Ininzi ibhaliwe malunga nendlela yokwakha ubudlelwane bokwenene lwentsapho nokuseka isimo sengqondo. Kubuhlungu ukuba ezi zifundo zeengcali zeengqondo aziqhelwanga ngokukhawuleza, kwiimeko ezininzi ziqhelekileyo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oogqirha bezengqondo ezifanayo banokukunceda ukuseka ubomi kunye nokudala umoya wokuqonda, kodwa kuphela kwiiklasi zabo nokuqeqesha, emva kokuba bakukwazi, kwaye baqonde oko kufunekayo kuqala. Kodwa, ngelishwa, abantu bethu abasetyenziselwa ukusebenza ngokwengqondo, kwaye bahlala becinga ukucela uncedo kwizengcali ezilinganayo nokugula kwengqondo. Mhlawumbi, yoko kutheni ii-psychologists zidla ngokuba zibizwa ngokuthi "iingcamango".
Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kulula ukubeka iingcamango ngendlela efanelekileyo, kwaye ukuwahambisa kwisitishi esifanelekileyo akwanele, kuba ingxaki yentsapho inzulu kakhulu kunokuba ibonakala kuqala. Ngokuqhelekileyo iingxaki zivela xa abatshatileyo beqala ukusabalalisa uxanduva, kunye nokuseka indawo yendoda kunye nendawo yowesifazane kwintsapho.
Iingqungquthela.
Ubomi bethu bonke bubungqina obukhulu, apho sisekelwe kwinkqubo yokwenza izigqibo malunga nokusebenza kwezenzo kunye neziphene, kwaye ngokubanzi ukugxeka kokucinga kukuphawu lwabantu abaninzi behlabathi. Ewe, kwenzeka kangangokuba ikhulu kangangokuba kufuneka sithembele kwiimbono zabanye, ngokuqwalasela iimfuno kunye namathuba abo. Kwaye akukho nto ongayenza ngayo, into yokuba sihlala kuluntu inendima enkulu. Emva koko, kukho abantu abangabakhathaleli ngoluvo lwentlalo, bakha imithetho yabo nemimiselo baze baphile ngazo. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo zibonwa luluntu njengabakhutshwayo. Awukwazi ukufumana ngexesha elifanayo kunye nesihlwele kunye nesihlwele. Unyanzelekile ukuba ukhethe.
Indlela yokucinga ibonakaliswe ngokukhethekileyo kwiintsapho zentlalontle, okanye kunoko ukwakhiwa kwazo. Inkqubo yokulawula ubomi bemihla ngemihla, ukucacisa amalungelo kunye nemisebenzi yabalingani, indawo yowesifazane kwintsapho iyatshintsha kwinqanaba elincinane kakhulu, ngezinye izihlandlo, akunakwenzeka kodwa lusizi.
Ngokukodwa kuxhalabisa ukwahlukana kweembopheleleko phakathi kwabatshatileyo. Ngaloo ndlela, ngokuqhelekileyo unokubona oku okulandelayo: ibhinqa-ubomi, indoda-impilo yokuphila. Nangona uvavanya umsebenzi wesikolo umthwalo wakhe wokunxibelelana kukungabikho koqhagamshelwano kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kungeyona nto inzima, ngoko ke ukuhanjiswa kwahlukileyo kwaye ufuna ukuyibiza ngokungalinganiyo. Ngethuba elifanayo, ukuba indawo yabasetyhini kwintsapho imiselwe kuphela kwimisebenzi, intambo yomyeni ayanele, umfazi wesimanje uya kuvuma ukhetho olunjalo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo abasetyhini bavame ukuzibeka endaweni yabasindileyo endlwini. Emva koko, unina, ugogo wakhe, mhlawumbi ezinye izihlobo. Ekubuntwaneni sasikuqonda oku njengobonakaliso obufanelekileyo bokunyamekela nothando oluvela kumama, kodwa ngokubudala sasiqonda ukuba kuyahluka ngokupheleleyo.
Eli bhinqa ngumdlali wokudlala.
Indima yabasetyhini kwintsapho, inezinto ezininzi ezahlukahlukeneyo, ezenza ngokuphumelelayo. Ukusebenza ngokwenene kwimiba ethile yobomi kuya kuba nomona nangona abadlali abanamakhono amaninzi. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo into eyenziwa ngumfazi, wenza ngomphefumlo kunye nentliziyo ecocekileyo. Ngaphandle kokulindela nayiphi na inzuzo, ngokwenene, ukuba ixhala kuphela yintsapho yakhe.
Ngoko ke, ukuba ushwankathela zonke iindwendwe zamabhinqa, ungazinqumla kwiindima ezithile. Ngoko umzekelo, ekuqaleni umfazi wenza njengomfazi, othandana nothando nokunyamekela. Kwakhona kuthatha iimbopheleleko zendima ezifunyenwe ngumphathikazi endlwini. Ukuqhuba ubomi, qaphela ukuba yonke into endlwini iyimfuneko, qwa lasela zonke iimfuno kwaye usasaze uhlahlo lwabiwo lwezentsapho njengoko luvela, luphela yowesifazane. Musa ukulibala malunga neemfuno zomyeni wakhe othandweni nothando, ukuze ngobusuku umfazi abe ngumfazi onamandla.
Emva kwexesha, uqala ukudibanisa indima yomfazi ngendima yomama. Nangona ukhathalelo kunye neengxaki ziphindwe kabini, ngokuqhelekileyo inkathazo enjalo kumfazi uyonwabile kuphela. Ngokufika komntwana kunye nokuqaliswa komfazi kwindoda yomama, yena, ngaphandle kokuhlala nomfazi, inkosikazi, kunye nenkosikazi, naye uzama kwinqanaba lootitshala. Emva kwakho konke, nangona abantwana bekhuliswe ngabazali bobabini, umama uhlala esondele ngakumbi kumntwana, kwaye upapa uba yinto yokuthobela ngokungathandabuzekiyo. Kodwa kuphela ukuvelisa abantwana akwanele, kufuneka bafundiswe, bakhulise kubo umnqweno wolwazi. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukusuka kwiminyaka yokuqala yobomi bethu, umntwana uyaqiniseka ukuba umama uyazi yonke into. Ngoko ke, sinokuthi ngokukhuselekileyo ukuba umfazi udlala indima yotitshala. Kwaye ngokugqithiseleyo zonke izibophelelo zangaphambili, umfazi uphinde abe ngumcebisi, isazi sengqondo sekhaya, ugqirha, umqeqeshi, kamva ugogo.
Ukuba ubheka konke oku kuvela ngaphandle, kubonakala ngathi inhlanganisela enjalo ayinakwenzeka. Kodwa eqinisweni, sijonge umfazi oqhelekileyo, siyaqonda ukuba ummangaliso ukhona.
Ibhinqa kufuneka liyazi indawo yalo.
Nangona ubuninzi bomsebenzi kubomi bentsapho, abafazi abasoloko behlala bengabalulekanga. Kwaye indoda iya kuzibona iphakamileyo ngaphezu kwanomfazi. Ngako oko inkcazo yokuba indoda ihlala ilungile, ukuba umfazi akufanele aphazamise xa abantu besithi, kwaye indawo yowesifazane ekhitshini. Nangona ucinga ukuba abantu baya kwenza ntoni ngaphandle kwabasetyhini?
Uphi na lo mfazi? Ukuba ulandela imifanekiso engokwenkolo, indawo yowesifazane ayikho phambi komntu-ukuba akayi kuthatha zonke iingxaki kuye ngokwakhe, kungekhona emva kwendoda-engayi kuhlaziswa, indawo yowesifazane engasecaleni kwendoda, entliziyweni yakhe-eya kuhlala ivakalelwa ukukhuselwa kwesandla sayo esomeleleyo , nothando oluvela entliziyweni. Kwaye kunzima ukuvumelani ngala mazwi.
Ngoko ke, bafazi abathandekayo bathathe indawo yakho efanelekileyo kumyeni wakho othandekayo, kwaye ungazikhubekisi. Emva kwakho konke, ngubani, ukuba akunjalo wena, ufanelekele kuphela okulungileyo?