Ukuphucula ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda kunye nentombazana ayikwazi ukuba lixesha lonke.
Ukuphikisana rhoqo ngaphezu kwezinto ezinobungqina bubonisa ubungcamango obubonakala emva kokuba abathandi beqala ukufunda okunye malunga kunye kwaye basondela, kungekuthi kungekuphela nje ukukhanya, kodwa kunye namacala omnyama okhethiweyo wakho avela.
Ubunzima ubudlelwane buhlala rhoqo kwaye andifuni ukufihla emva kweziqalekiso ezingenangqiqo, kufuneka zixazululwe. Kuyaziwa ukuba kulula ukutshabalalisa ubudlelwane kunokuba ulondoloze.
Kungenxa yintoni na kukho ukungquzulwano? Kulula nje, ukususela ebuntwaneni sinemithwalo emininzi yemikhwa yethu nemithetho, edlalwa rhoqo kwintsapho, kwaye kaninzi ayinakuhambelana nemikhwa yabalingani.
Yazi ukuba bonke abantu bahlukile, kwaye umhlobo wakho akayikho ikopi yakho, ngoko ungalindelanga iimvakalelo, iimvavanyo kunye nokuziphatha okufanayo kuye, ungazami ukuzibuyisela. Ngokuqhelekileyo ngenxa yolu ngxabano kuphakama ngobabini.
Kodwa nokugcina ukunganeliseki, akunjalo, akufanelekanga, kuba kuya kukhula kwaye kanye kanye kuya kukwazi ukubulala uthando lwakho. Kubalulekile kule meko ukuphazamisa emacaleni omabini, ukuzama ukusombulula yonke into ngokuthula, ngaphandle kokungafungi. Ukuthetha nomfana kwaye uxoxe ngengxaki, unokuphepha isiphumo esibuhlungu sokuhlukana.
Ngaba u sazibuza ukuba ungayiphikisana nomfana? Okokuqala, hlalutye izizathu ozifungayo, cinga ngesizathu sokuba ziyintoni isiseko semfazwe. Ungamangaleli umntu okhethiweyo ngenxa yokungaqondi kwakhe, kuba mhlawumbi nguwe onqwenela ukumphulaphula.
Eyona nto ihlabathi elincinci kunokuba ixabane. Ukuba unako ukuphepha ingxabano, zama ukwenza njalo.
Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba kuya kufuneka uhlale uvumelana naye, oku kuya kukucasula kwaye kubangele ukuxabana okulandelayo. Ukuba kukho nayiphi na ingxabano, uhlobo oluthile lwenkinga, ngoko kufuneka luxazululwe, kodwa lungashiywanga kuso
Ukuba usenza isigqibo sokuthetha ngokugqithiseleyo, ungahambi ngokumemeza. Ukumemeza kusayi kufezekiswa nantoni na, abafana abanakuyinyamezela xa intombazana ikhala kwaye iqala ukukhala. Abafana badangalisa.
Futhi ungamkhumbuzi ngazo zonke izono zakhe kunye neziphene. Ngoko awuyicombululi ingxaki.
Enye yeentlobo zeengxabano ezinjalo zivela ekhaya, zivame ukudala intloko enye. Ngokuqinisekileyo ufuna ukuba nolwalamano oluhle, kodwa uhlala nomnye umntu, awuphepheki kwizinto ezibizwa ngokuthi "bytovuhi", ezinokuhlala ziphazamise ubuhlobo obuqinileyo. Kuphela kufuneka ubekezele, ngenxa yokuba ungumfazi, kwaye njengokuba uyazi, ubuhlobo bomfazi, kufuneka kubekho umntu okhaliphile. Ngokwemvelo, ukuba ukhethiweyo wakho unemiva ngawe, ngoko ke ukuphikisana, ngokuchanekileyo kuchazwe, akuyi kudlula ize.
Iingqungquthela ezingaphezu kwezinto ezixhamlayo - oku kubangelwa yinto yesikhashana, kude kube lula ukuba uqaphele ukuchitha ixesha kule nto, kwaye uya kuvuya ukuthetha nabanye.
Kule nkqubo yonke kukho umzuzu omhle, lo mzuzu wokuxolelana. Eyona nto imangalisayo emva kokucaciswa kwesiqhwithi sobudlelwane kunye nokuxubana kunye nokunyuka ukuya esifubeni sakho, ukuqonda ukuba uyithandana kangakanani. Eli xesha loxolelaniso lona lihle kakhulu xa ufuna ukuxelela wonke umntu ukuba ungubani. Ezinye iingxabano ngamabomu, ukwenzela ukuba ixesha lokuxolelana lifike. Nangona oku kuyisidenge, kufuneka uqonde yonke iminithi esetyenzisene kunye, kutheni uchitha ixesha ngaphandle.
Ukuba awunayo imvakalelo eyaneleyo, yenza enye into ebanzi ngokubanzi, iya kuba luncedo kunokuba kukho na ukuphikisana. Kwaye makungacingi ukuba ungayiphikisana nomfana!
Uthande kwaye uthandeke!