Abameli banamhlanje besini esilungileyo banamathele ekukholweni ukuba ukuphumelela kwinqanaba lomsebenzi liba yimpumelelo ebalulekileyo ebomini. Kunjenge "umgama omde osebenzayo", apho umfazi kufuneka aphumelele, ngaphandle koko uya kuziva 'engenako ukukhululeka'. Ngokuqinisekileyo, lo ngumqulu woluhlobo kuphela lwabafazi abaye banquma ukuhlawulela isimo somgcini wekhaya, bahamba phambili kwihlabathi lokunqoba nokuphumelela komsebenzi. Namhlanje sagqiba ekubeni sicacise malunga nokusebenza kwabafazi besuka kwimbono yeengqondo, ngokuthelekiswa komsebenzi kunye nomdlalo we-marathon. Ekugqibeleni, lo mzekeliso awunaso sonke isiqhelo, kuba kuzo zonke iilwimi zaseRomance-Germanic iqela elithi "ukuqhuba" kunye "nomsebenzi" lichazwe ligama elifanayo.
Ukufakwa
Ibhinqa elenza umsebenzi lifana ne-zarulm yintombi: into ehambayo leyo imeko ibeka isoyiko ngokwayo kwaye imo yindawo ephazamisayo. Akakaze alungele ukuhlehlisa ngomso oko kufuneka ukuba kwenziwe ngosuku oludlulileyo, kwaye ngenxa yalesi sizathu kufuneka ahlale emsebenzini ekupheleni kokuphumelela, okokuba, njengommiselo, ufuphi ukuqala komhla wokusebenza olandelayo, ngexesha apho yonke into ingaphindwa ngokuchanekileyo.
Ngomphathi omhle, njengommiselo, badibanisa umntu onobubele, onobuqili kunye nobandayo. Zonke ezi ziimpawu ezintle zifana kakhulu kunye nokuziphatha okwesifazane: ngokuzenzekelayo, ukungaqiniseki, iimvakalelo. Kwimeko apho ibhinqa lizama, ngoncedo lwemiqathango yemigangatho, ukufundisa umphathi omhle ngaphakathi kwakhe, umane nje unqande umgaqo wesetyhini kuye. Yiyo nje le nkqubo ihlala iqine phakathi kwendlela kunye nomfanekiso wesigxina-umfazi wesigqirha-sihlanu siphume.
Abafazi basoloko bebathanda ukusekela ukuqonda kwabo konke okwenzekayo ngeenxa zonke, ngokomgaqo "onjengafaniyo," kwaye "ayimfuneko - ayimfuneko". Amaqela amabhinqa ahlala elawulwa ngabathandana bezilwanyana, kunye nokuhleba, i-podsizhivaniya, ukukhushulwa okungafunekiyo kunye nokuxothwa. Umsebenzi wabasebenzi uwonakalisa ngokwemali yengeniso okanye umsebenzi wezoshishino, kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, njengoko intliziyo nesimo sichaza. Ekugqibeleni, inkosikazi yamakhwenkethi inomdla wokuphatha abantu abangaphantsi kwanjengabantwana.
Yaye yintoni eseleyo ekhaya kwikhaya? Ubungqina bokuba ingxaki ebomini babo bubomi, abaphathi bebhinqa abayi kubaxelela, ngenxa yoko banokwazi kwengqondo. Njengomthetho, isiqingatha sesibini senkosikazi kufuneka sibe yindoda ephosakeleyo. Leyo yinkalo yokwahluleka kwexesha lokulungiselela, ukuhlamba nokuhlamba iindleko kwintsapho kakhulu. Kakade, kukho izixhobo zomntu ezithembekileyo kunye nomrhumo owongezelelweyo umgcini wendlu ophetheyo. Kunzima kakhulu ukunxibelelana, kuba ngokuhlwa kusikhundla se-careerist ngokuqhelekileyo kuya kuba yintlanganiso yokuvelisa ngokukhethayo: kwifowuni (kunye nekhaya kunye neselula ngexesha elifanayo), iingxoxo zixubusha kunye nabo, kwaye "baphile" ngumbutho wobomi bokuphila, ngamanye amaxesha abanakho imizuzu yokuthetha ngezihloko zasemhlabeni. Ngokubhekiselele kumbhede, aba bafazi badla ngokutsala i-paranoia apho - "abayihloneli, abayikuyixabisa, bayayibamba" - kwaye le "iqabane elinesithathu" aliniki ukuzithoba ngesini.
Iintsuku? Njengomthetho, badlula ngokuqhubekayo "ukuphakamisa izinga": ukuqeqeshwa komntu siqu, iisemina, izifundo ... Abanye bazama ukuya kwidlovini, bekhokelwa yinyaniso yokuba bathi abafazi abanomfanekiso omhle kulula ukunyuka kwinqanaba elihamba phambili.
Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba indoda ye-ubiznes-lady, emva kwexesha elithile, iqala ukuphumla kwaye ilahlekelwe yiminqweno yendlela ethile yokufumana imali. Ewe, le nto ayilona imeko, kodwa i-exception ayilunganga. Ingxaki yomama yenye "ilitye elingaphantsi kwamanzi" kwihlabathi elijongene nomsebenzi wesifazane.
Kutheni ezi zihamba?
Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba abameli bezesondo eziqinileyo benza umsebenzi okanye imali ngokukhethekileyo ukuze bavakalise loo ntokazi. Inkcazo yemveli yabasebenzi besetyhini kukuzimelela kwamadoda. Njengoko, namhlanje kukho indoda, kodwa kusasa akukho. Ngoko ke, umqeqeshi wezobugcisa usenokuba ulungele ukuthotyelwa phambili. Ngamanye amagama, ukubhala.
Icala lesibini lomdaka kukuba ukuba i-careerist isele inentsapho. Injongo yeyiphi na kuthi ukukhululeka kweengxaki. Ibhinqa lichitha isabelo seengonyama ngexesha lakhe emsebenzini nasemisebenzini yezohambo (ephakamileyo umsebenzi, i-denser schedule), oko kuthetha ukuba unalo lonke ipesenti yeemvavanyo zeli. Kwimimandla yokuvelisa, ezinye izinto kunye nemiba ngamanye amaxesha ingasombulula lula. Umntu ongaphantsi akayena umlingane okanye umntwana, oko kuthetha ukuba akuyi kukhankanya nokuphikisana, zonke izicelo ziya kuzaliseka ngaphandle kokuphikisana.
Ibhinqa lentsapho libeka imisebenzi kamama "nangaphandle kokubetha iliso" kubaqeqeshi, izikolo ezizimeleyo, abafundisi kunye nabanye oomama abancedisayo, ngelixa bebonisa ukuqeshwa kwakhe ngokupheleleyo kunye nengeniso ephezulu yemali. Umvuzo omhle, ngaphezu kweenzuzo ezihambelanayo, kukunika ilungelo elipheleleyo ukuba ungenzi imisebenzi yasekhaya kwaye ugcine iqabane lakho likhangele, ukuba yena, uThixo akwenzanga, kwenzeka ukuba athathe imali encinci. Ngoko isisombululo sazo zonke iingxaki zomntu ngokwenza umsebenzi wezobugcisa zihlala zikhululekile kwaye zibandakanya ngaphandle. Eyona mpu melelo ibhinqa loshishino, ngokukhuselekileyo ikhusela imibono yakhe yentlalo.
Kuloo ntokazi, ubunkokeli bobunkokeli bavame ukuphela. Ixabiso elibaluleke kakhulu ubuhlobo boluntu obusondeleyo-kwaye, alas, alufinyelelwanga. Ekubeni izihlobo kunye nabahlobo bahlukana nayo ngokusebenzisa umnqamlezo wemali, kwaye abaphantsi bayahlukana. Nantoni na into oyithethayo, le ngxaki ihambelana ngqo nokuzimela kwabasetyhini. Into kukuba ngezinye ihlabathi namhlanje unokuhlangabezana nabameli bezesondo ezibuthathaka, ezibandakanya iqela "labangabesetyhini abasetyhini." Kwaye akukho nto ayinandaba nokuba ngaba ngabaqeqeshi bezenzo okanye abangazi. Uya kuba ngumfazi wendlu, oku kuya kuba yintlungu epheleleyo kwiintsapho zakhe, okokuqala, kubantwana.
Kwaye ngokuphambene: abameli bezesondo ezifanelekileyo abanokufaka isicelo ebomini zonke iimpawu zabo ezinobulunga kunye neenzuzo - intuition, ukuguquguquka, ukuqonda ngokugqithiseleyo abantu abakujikelezile, nangaphezulu, kunye nazo zonke iimpawu zengqondo ezichaphazelekayo kwiimeko zabo kunye nesimo sabo, ngokwenene bangene "kwibala ukuba yimpumelelo "nayiphi na, nangona yindoda enengqiqo.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ngokokuqala ngqa kwiwaka leeminyaka, abafazi banethuba lokuqonda ngaphandle kwendlu, ngoko abayi kuphinda baxoshe kwakhona. Kodwa njengoko lo mzekelo ubonisa, inani labapongi bendoda likhula kakhulu! Ngaba akusiyo isiseko sokuba abaqeqeshi bezinto ezikhundleni kunokuba amadoda athande yedwa?