Isigaba esisodwa. Ukungabaza.
Xa usuqhekekile, awuyikholelwa into eyenzekayo, ngakumbi ukuba umqalisi wekhefu wayengekho wena. Kubonakala ngathi le "ngongoma" ayikho ichaphaza kuyo yonke indawo, kwaye ingeyona nkcazelo yokumemeza, kodwa nje umbuzo umbuzo okanye i-ellipsis. Uyabona ukuba ihlabathi alizange liwile, kodwa kukho into elahlekileyo kuyo: ukuvumba, ukukhanya, ukumbumbana ngaphambi kokulala. Kodwa into edabukisayo kukuba imemori, ingqiqo enkulu yokungabi nento ebalulekileyo yenza ukuba ukhale. Enyanisweni, iinyembezi azikwazi ukutyhala ngonaphakade, kuthatha iintsuku eziliqela okanye iiveki, uze udibane. Ngokuchanekileyo, ucinga njalo.
Kule nqanaba, amantombazana akwazi ukujonga imingxuma yeefilimu ezibukrakra, adibanise i-disc efanayo ne "ingoma yethu", athathe i-candy entabeni. Emva koko kuza ingcamango yokujonga i-pluses kwindawo yakho yedwa kwaye kukho umnqweno onamandla wokutshintsha. Isizathu kunye namava athetha ukuba utshintsho phakathi kwethu alukwazi kwenzeka okwesibini, kodwa intliziyo ayifuni ukuphulaphula ukuqonda. Ngoko ezintloko zethu kukho izinwele eziqhelekileyo, kunye neentambo ezintsha kunye neengubo ezingagqithwa kuphela kwiholide kwindlu ephosa. Emva koko sicinga ngento yokuba awukwazi ukuba yedwa ubomi bakho. Kwaye ke sibanjwe ngenye impazamo.
Amanqanaba amabini. Ukudibanisa.
Ngokukhawuleza khumbula ukuba uye wathanda ummelwane, umlingane, owaziwayo, kwaye uqala ukuthatha iinjongo ezijolise ekuphumeleleni intliziyo yendoda entsha. Oku kuyona nto eyona nto ungayenzayo kule meko. Enyanisweni, kunqabile ukuba abafazi bazimisele ukuqala ulwalamano olutsha, bengabhidli ngokukhawuleza kunye nabadala, ngakumbi ukuba ukuhlukana kwakubuhlungu. Nabani na umntu ubonakala engumsindisi oza kuphazamisa intlungu yakhe, ukuthuthuzela, ukuthanda kwakhe kunye nokunceda ukulibala izikhalazo zakhe. Enyanisweni, yonke into iyajika iphosakeleyo.
Ngokwalo, isithandwa sakho esitsha sinokuba ngumntu omhle kwaye uyindoda enhle, kodwa awuyi kubona yakhe imbeko. Uya kuluqhathanisa rhoqo kunye neyokuqala, kwaye ukuthelekiswa akuyi kuthanda umntu omtsha. Usakhumbula ukuba, enye iphunga, ilizwi, imikhwa, usayithanda, kunye nomntu ongaqhelekanga ungomnye. Ekugqibeleni, ngokugqithiseleyo uvele ulahleke ebomini bomntu owanike ithemba, kwaye ngokugqithiseleyo uya kulila, uthethe izinto ezintle kuye, oza kuzizisola emva koko. Ngako oko, musa ukukhawuleza ukufuna uthando, ngelixa intliziyo yakho ishushu.
Isigaba sesithathu. Imizamo yokwenza uxolo.
Emva koko uyaqaphela ukuba akunakudingi mntu ngaphandle kwakhe. Kodwa akabizi, akayi kubhala, kwaye uyamangalisa ukuba ube nexesha elikhulu ngaphandle kwakho. Kule ngongoma, kunokubonakala ngathi ukuzingca kufuneka kufakwe ingqalelo ngenxa yomnye-umnxeba kuphela onokunika ithuba elitsha lolwalamano lwakho.
Nangona ubiza, akuyiyo into yokuba uya kuvuya. Ilizwi lakhe lingakuchukumisa ngokungakhathaleli, ukucaphuka, ityala. Amadoda akakho konke ukulungele ukubona abo basandul 'ukushiya, ngokukodwa ukuba bahamba ngokuzithandela. Abafumana nje ukukhulula, kodwa banokusola ngezenzo zabo, kwaye iifowuni ziyakumkhumbuza rhoqo oko akwenzile kakubi.
Iingxoxo ezinjalo ngokukhawuleza ziphela entle into enhle. Ubiza umnqweno ofuna nje ukwazi ukuba ukwenze okanye uthathe into ekhohliweyo. Emva koko ubuza imibuzo enomshukumisayo, uzama ukufunda okuthile ngobomi bakhe, ngoko uyamangalela kwaye ufune. Ukhawuleza udibanisa ifowuni, uhlambela into ehlambalazayo, kwaye ukhale kwakhona uze uzifungele ukuba ungayi kuphinda uphinde uphinde ubize.
Enyanisweni, ixesha lokubuyiselwa alisoloko lidlula ngokukhawuleza. Ukuze ukhawuleze inkqubo, musa ukwenza le mpazamo, ngoko uya kusindisa amandla kunye neentliziyo. Zama ukushiya amava, utshintshe indlela yokuphila yobomi, thola into entsha, kodwa ungagqibi ukwenza iiveli. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba uqonde ukuba uyeke ukuthelekisa bonke kunye nabo bonke bakho, ukuba awufuni ukubiza okanye ukuphinde wabuyisele, uya kuba ulungele ulutsha olutsha oluya kutshabalalisa elidala.