Ngokomzekelo, amabali anomthando kaNapoleon Bonaparte noJoseph Beauharnais, abadala kunabo abathandekayo abanomdla kunye nomfazi iminyaka engama-7, u-Diana de Poitiers noHenry II, umahluko phakathi kwabo uneminyaka engama-20. Inkwenkwezi ezininzi zeenkwenkwezi zifumaneka kwiinkwenkwezi zaseHollywood - uDemi Moore noAshton Kutcher, umlingisi omhle u-Antonio Banderas kunye nomkakhe uMelanie Griffith, kunye neenkwenkwezi zaseRussia zihlala zidibana kunye nabasetyhini abaninzi kwaye ababaninzi kakhulu.
Nangona kunjalo, nangona kunjalo, ngokuqhelekileyo kubhinqa abancinci kunabo abakhethiweyo. Ngaphezu koko, abaninzi abafazi abanqabile ukuqala ubudlelwane namadoda, abatsha ngokwabo. Kukho izizathu ezininzi zezi zinto - ukwesaba ukuba umfana uya kuba ngumoya kwaye angenangqondo, ekugqibeleni uya kunxila, aye kwelinye, emiselwe yimibutho yabantu, iingcebiso zamantombazana ukuba zingabi nkunkuma yamandla "kulutsha oluhlaza", njl njl.
Ngokufanelekileyo, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba amadoda amaninzi ayesaba ngabasetyhini abadala. Awazi ukuba ungayifumana njani, njani ukutsala ingqalelo yabantu abadala. Kule nqaku, siza kuzama ukunceda abo baphazamiseka yimvakalelo yamantombazana asebekhulile, kwaye uphendule umbuzo - indlela onokuyithanda intombazana endala kunawe?
Isithintelo soqhagamshelwano phakathi kwabantu sinokukunqotshwa kalula ngoncedo lwentlanzi efanelekileyo kunye nengxoxo enobungane. Ngokukodwa, abafazi, njengokuba uyazi, bathanda indlebe. Ngoko gcina ii-anecdotes ezimbalwa (ezintle zizingcolileyo), kwaye ngokubanzi zizama ukuba ngumxube oncokolayo. Ngokomgaqo, intombazana endala ayifani ngokuhlukileyo kwabanye abameli besifazane. Enyanisweni, kunokuthintela ngakumbi xa kuthelekiswa noontanga bakho, obunzulu kunye noxanduva, abanolwazi oluninzi, kubandakanywa nokulala, kwaye, njengoko kudlalwa ngabantu, banomdla ngakumbi kunxibelelwano. Umva wokugqibela, ngendlela, ngokuqhelekileyo udlala indima ebalulekileyo ekukhetheni umlingane wobomi. Ezi ntombazana zithetha ngendlela yokuphila kwaye ziyazi ngokucacileyo oko zifuna kuye. Nangona kunjalo, oku kuveliswa ngokubanzi, kwaye kufuneka ufumane umfanekiso wesigxina wezinto ozivakalayo.
Ngoko, uyithanda njani intombazana endala kunawe? Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi basoloko bathanda amadoda aqolileyo - ngendlela engcono yegama. Zama ukuzincama xa usenza isenzo, ukulahla intshukumo yobutsha (nangona amanye amantombazana enjengalowo mbonakalo kakhulu), kholisa loo ntombazana ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zinzulu kwaye uyithatha indawo ekhethekileyo entliziyweni yakho. Khumbula, nayiphi na ibhinqa, kungakhathaliseki ubudala, amaphupha ahlukile kwaye ayingqayizivele. Akukho ncokola ngeentombi zamandulo: sele ulibalekile ngabo, kwaye ungabhekane nomntu onyanisekileyo ukuba afune ukunyaniseka ngemicimbi yabo. Bhala ingqalelo xa uthetha ngomsebenzi, uthetha ngeempumelelo zakho zengcali, izicwangciso, impumelelo - intombazana kufuneka iqonde ukuba phambi kwayo ayikho enye ibhinqa eliselula apho, kodwa incinci inokuyithemba. Nangona kunjalo, ungahambi kakhulu kunye ne-odes yodumo kwidilesi yakho - "Iipontees" ziyakuthi zikhutshwe ngaphezu kwekhontsi. Namela ingqalelo yakho - kufuneka ibe yinto efanelekileyo kwaye ilungele. Jabulela iziqhumiso zamadoda azintle - abafazi banomdla kakhulu kumnandi ekhethekileyo. Ngelinye igama, jonga ukuba ufuna ukuthinta. Engxoxweni musa ukulibala ukuhlawula ngakumbi umlingane, ube nomdla ebomini bakhe, izinto ezithandwayo, izicwangciso, njl. Ngendlela, umdlalo oqhelekileyo usondele kakhulu. Ukuba intombazana yakho iyakuthanda ukudansa, ungabhalisa kwiqela lokudansa, ngoko uya kuba nethuba elihle lokumbona kwaye uthethe rhoqo.
Emva koko-khuluma naye malunga nendawo ayithatha ngayo ebomini bakho, njengoko uyayiqonda ... Musa nje ukusabalalisa ngeemvakalelo zakho ixesha elide. Ukuba intombazana yakho iqala ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza, yima uze uphulaphule. Mxelele ngovelwano lwakho kwaye unikezele ukudibana. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, musa ukuzicima. Iminyaka engama-2-3 ayikho umahluko kuwo onke, ngakumbi ukususela ekubeni ububanzi beminyaka abuzange buve. Qhubeka, kodwa unobtrusive, musa ukungafihli, zithembele! Gcina ngesithunzi, mxelele ukuba ungumntu onobuqili kwaye unethemba!
Ekugqibeleni, ngokungazi kakuhle, ngamnye umfazi ngumama, kwaye kufuneka aqiniseke ukuba unenkxaso yangempela ebomini! Ungazami ukubonakala ngathi lipholile! Yiba wena! Xa ebuza: "Wenzani na?", Ungaze uphendule "akukho nto". Njalo usho ukuthi uxakeke ngento ethile. Oku kuya kwenza ukuba amehlo akhe athande umdla. Gwema ukuqulunqa: "Kuthiwani ngokundinika inombolo yakho?". Zama endaweni yokusebenzisa into efana nale: "Ndingathanda ukuthetha nawe kwakhona, ngaba kunokwenzeka?". Unyango olunjalo luhlala lunika iziphumo ezingcono, njengoko kunqanda amandla okuphendula kuwe ngokugatywa, kuba kuya kukuvakala kunokuba bukhohlise. Hlala uphulaphule uze ubukele yonke into efunayo intombazana yakho. Uqeqesho olunjalo luya kukuxelela ukuba yeyiphi isihloko ekufuneka ukhethe xa uzama ukuqala incoko nommeli wesigqibo esihle sabantu othanda. Inkolelo evamile ukuba ukuze uphumelele, kufuneka ufike kumfazi ngokukhawuleza nje xa umbona. Kakade ke, xa izakhono zakho zokunxibelelana zikhula, unokukwazi ukuza lula neendlela ezikhethekileyo zokuthandana usebenzisa ukuhlaziywa. Kodwa ngelixa kulunge ukuhamba ngokucophelela kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe, ukuba ungadyiki kwaye ungashenxisi into enomnqweno wakho.
Ukuba yonke into ihamba kakuhle, kwaye ekugqibeleni uyayifumana, ungayikhohlwa ngemimiselo emnandi yokuqwalasela-iziqhamo ze-snowprops ekuqaleni kwentwasahlobo, izipho, isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo.
Ubudlelwane kunye nomfazi omdala ngaphezulu banamathuba amaninzi: kunye nalo uya kukhula ngokukhawuleza kwaye ibe yinto engathà sina, kwaye ngokuziphathekayo, umfazi unengxaki yokuziphatha ngokwesondo kwiminyaka engama-30, kuba amadoda kule minyaka aqala ukuhla kwesondo ngokuthe gqolo. Ukongezelela, ngokwemibare, abafazi baphila ixesha elide, ngoko unokufumana ithuba lokufa kunye ngosuku olunye.