Ukuba izinto zokuqala zamantombazana anamhlanje zijamelana nokuphumelela, ngoko ukufezekisa ukuqonda ngokubanzi kunye nokufumana indlela abantu abaye ngayo yonke into, nangemva kweminyaka emininzi yokuhlala kunye.
Ngoko, indlela yokufumana indlela kumyeni wakhe, umbeke yena ngokwakhe, enze ukuba azivumele ukuba aziholele yena, kungekhona ngenxa yokuzikhukhumeza nokuzikhukhumeza kwamadoda.
Ukulawula amadoda yinto yesayensi efuna ukusetyenziswa kunye nolwazi, kwaye unamasu amaninzi, ukusetyenziswa okuchanekileyo okuya kukuvumela ukuba kube lula kwaye ngokusemthethweni ugqugquzele umntu ukuba enze okuyimfuneko kuwe, kwaye, ngelixa udala ukukhohlisa kweso sifiso.
Emva kokuba ufunde ubuchule obunjalo, kwaye ubafake ngokuthe ngcembe ebomini, uya kuba yinkxaso, fumana indlela kumyeni wakho, kwaye ufumane ukuthembela okukhethekileyo komntu oyintanda, kwaye ngoko ufumene olubalulekileyo ekulawuleni umlingane.
Mvume.
Ukuqala ukuyidoda loo mntu kuyimfuneko ukususela ekuqaleni kwakho, ngakumbi okanye ngaphantsi, ubudlelwane obubi. Isinyathelo sokuqala ukuya kwintlanganiso kufuneka sibe yi-poddakivanie evamile. Vumelana nayo yonke into ayimfuneko, uchaze ngesibindi umbono wakho, ukuba awuvumelani kwinto ethile, kodwa qi ni sekise ukuxhasa iingcamango nezenzo zabantu. Ngokomzekelo, mqinisekise ngokuqinisekileyo xa uthetha ngeengxabano emsebenzini, okanye ujonge, ukuba uthetha ngentshiseko ngomcimbi ozayo, awayephathiswe ukuba amkhokele. Into enjalo kwisabelo sakho iya kuqwalaselwa nje kuphela njengesiqhelo esiqhelekileyo, kodwa kunye nokubonakalisa ukuthembela, ukholo kumntu kunye nokukwazi kwakhe kunye nokwahlukana okunyanisekileyo kweminqweno yakhe kunye nemixhala. Ngaloo ndlela, enkampanini yakho, indoda yakho iya kuziva ikhululekile, kwaye kungekudala uza kuba ngowokuqala ufunde malunga nento eyenzekayo ebomini bakhe, kwaye umntu ocinga ukuba ubaluleke kakhulu kuye.
Kwakhona, xa uxoxisana nomyeni wakho, ungalibali ithoni yezwi, indlela yokubiza, ukubonakalisa nokubonakalisa ubuso. Ulwimi lomzimba lubonwa ngumnxibelelanisi kwinqanaba elincinci kwaye awunayo impembelelo encinci ekwakheni ubudlelwane obusondeleyo. Ngoko ke, ukuba uthi "ewe, ewe unomdla" ngezwi, kwaye yonke imbonakalo yakho ibonisa indlela eyahlukileyo - akukho mpu melelo inokuya nantoni na.
Ikopi encinane.
Indlela efanelekileyo yokufumana indawo yakho kukukopisha indlela osebenza ngayo. Ngenxa yoko, ngethuba lencoko, kubalulekile ukuba umntu onxibelelana naye aphinde aphindwe. Xa uxoxisana nomyeni wakhe, ungasebenzisa izenzo zomntu eziqhelekileyo. Le ndlela kumyeni wayo, iya kunika ithuba lokumthembelela ngelizwi. Xa uthetha, thintela, u-pat ehlombe, okanye xa kuyimfuneko, sebenzisa i-pat. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba usondelene kangakanani nomyeni wakho, ungamnaki isandla sakhe. Ngaphambi kokuba umangaze, okanye xa udibana naye, qiniseka ukumbamba ngesandla. Ezi zinto ziba ngumqondiso kungekhona nje kuphela uthando lwakho, kodwa ngenhlonipho, ngokuzama ukusondeza kunye nokwenza uhlobo lobuqili.
Ukusebenza kwale ndlela kuye kwangexesha elide libonakaliswe ngabangcali beengqondo, kwaye ukuhamba okufanayo akusetshenziswanga kuphela kubundlelwane bomntu siqu kodwa kwimibutho yezoshishino, kwindawo yokubambisana kunye nabatyalomali.
Iingcali zamakhosikazi.
Amaqhinga amabhinqa, enye indlela eqinisekileyo, indlela umntu angayifumana ngayo umyeni wakhe. Ukuba awuyena wokuqala unyaka kunye, kuthetha ukuba sele ufanele ufunde, kwaye uyazi ukuba yiyiphi "lever" yokudonsa ngexesha elifanelekileyo, kwaye uyakwazi ukulinda lo mzuzwana. Abafazi banako ngokukodwa izinto ezinjalo. Kukho amaqhinga amancinci amabhinqa, apho amadoda agcinwa kunyaka emva konyaka, kwaye akakwazi ukuhlakulela umkhuhlane nganoma iyiphi indlela. Indlela eqhelekileyo neyinkathazo yokwenza izinto iinyembezi zeentombi. Kodwa, ngokwemadoda, le ndlela ikhohlakele, kwaye ngokubhekiselele kubo. Xa ekhala, umfazi wakhe othandekayo ulungele ukufumana i-asterisk evela esibhakabhakeni, ukuba iinyembezi zayeka ukuhamba. Abasetyhini abaninzi bayazi oku kwaye bayisebenzise, amadoda ayazi nokuba abafazi banandipha ubuthathaka babo, kodwa kunjalo. Kuphela akusiyo indawo yokukhala kuyo yonke ikhefu, ngoko ke lobu buchule kufuneka bugcinwe kwimeko enzima kakhulu.
Wonke umntu uyamthanda.
Uthando olunjengomntu wonke, kunye namadoda alukho. Kodwa, ukubonakaliswa kothando kwinqanaba lakho akumele kufike kuphela xa ufuna into ethile evela kumyeni wakho, kodwa ube ngumgangatho wobomi. Kule meko, indoda, emva kwesicelo esinomdla, ayiyi kukhanyela ngaphambi kokubulawa kwayo. Ungalibali ukudumisa umntu wakho ngendlela efanayo. Iingcali zengqondo zithi indoda eyazibalulekileyo, ebalulekileyo kwaye iyingqayizivele, iza kuba neendawo zokuhlala, kwaye iya kuzalisekisa indima yabo bobabini kunye nomyeni. Ungalindeli ukuthatha eli thuba kuye.
Masivumele ukuba anincede, kwaye ubonise inkxalabo yakho. Ukunyuka kwamanzi kuye kwenza ukuba lo mfazi azimelele, kodwa ungakulibala ukuba kunjalo, ukuba sisinamandla kangakanani, isondo sesini sinamandla. Makuvumele loo mntu akukhusele, akuncede, kwaye ube "udonga" kuwe. Kule meko, unokukwazi ukufezekisa ukuba awuyi kuba nako ukukhumbula yonke imicimbi yendlu, kwaye iimfuno zakho ziya kuba zizenzo zakhe.
Musa ukugxeka umyeni wakho ukuba kukho into eyenziwe engalunganga, kwaye nangakumbi ungavumeli umntu ukuba akwenze. Amadoda akomeleleyo emzimbeni, kodwa abafazi abaziphatha kakuhle bangakwazi ukuphazamisa. Ngokuqinisekileyo, umntu akufanele akhuphe ukukhawuleza kwintlantshana encinci, kodwa makumvumele umcebisi angathandekiyo ukuba akayidingi ukwenza oku, unako.
Ngengcebiso echazwe ngasentla, uya kukwazi ukufumana ukuthembela okunjalo, kwaye ube yinxalenye yesibini yomyeni wakho. Ukuhlala kunye kukuphila ubomi obunye, kunye nawo onke amava kunye nemihlali. Ukuba akunjalo, umtshato onjalo unokuthelekiswa nokuhlalisana ngokuqhelekileyo, apho wonke umntu eyedwa, kwaye ahlula kuphela indawo yokukhusela kunye nokutya. Kuphela, ukusebenzisa i-theory ekusebenzeni, khumbula ukuba isiluleko sinikezelwa ngokubanzi, kwaye indoda yakho iyodwa. Kwaye ukufumana indlela kumyeni wakhe, kufuneka uthembele kwimikhwa yakhe, ukuthanda, iimfuno, iimpawu kunye nokubaluleke kakhulu, ukuphulaphula intliziyo yakho. Emva koko uya kuphumelela.