Kulula ukuthetha - phuhlisa ingqiqo yengqondo. Oku kwenziwa njani? Into ebalulekileyo kukuba ufunde ukuqonda nokubeka uluvo lwakho neemvakalelo zakho ukuze uzincede ekulawuleni uxhathiso. Asikwazi ukutshintsha into esingaziyo, kungekuhla kokuziphatha okujikeleze abantu, okanye kubomi bethu. Ngoko ke, kufuneka ufunde indlela yokujonga ngayo iimvakalelo zakho, kunye neendlela zazo ngokuchanekileyo ngokunokwenzeka. Ngaba udla uvakalelwa "kukubi"? Kwaye ngokuthe ngqo? Ngaba ulimale, udandathekile, ububi? Ukufumana igama elifanelekileyo akulula. Kwinqanaba elilandelayo - ukufumana izizathu ezikuvakatyelayo, okanye ukuvavanya imeko yakho yengqondo.
Ukongeza, kufuneka ukwazi "iingongoma zentlungu" kwaye ungavumeli abanye ukuba baziphathe.
Mna, mna kuphela kwaye ndaphinda mna.
Ngoku ufuna ukukholisa ngokwakho, nazo zonke iimpawu, ungaxhomeki kwiibhile ezihlukeneyo. Uphuhliso lwe-EQ alukwazi ukucingelwa ngaphandle kokuzifeza. Oko kukuthi, umnqweno wokubonakalisa amandla awo. Yaye njani? Kulula kakhulu: ngokuthanda kwakho iimfuno zakho nolwazi! Qalisa inkqubo yokuzimelela, ukuphucula imeko yengqondo, nokulungisa ingxabano ngendlela elandelayo. Cinga kwaye ubhale phantsi ngeendlela ezintathu onokuyenza ixesha lakho libe lula lula ukufunda, intsapho, abahlobo, bodwa, kulula, unomdla okanye uncedo. Emva koko bavavanye ukuba ngamnye wabo uya kufuna imali, amandla, ixesha. Futhi ukhethe ubuncinane indlela enye kwiqela ngalinye. Nge tozaklyuchaetsya kwinto yokuba udidi kuphela luya kunceda ukuchaneka ngokufanelekileyo ukuziphatha kwayo kwexesha elizayo.
Ndiyathanda!
Imfesane ayikho nje inzondo, kodwa nayo ikwazi ukuthetha ngokuncoma. Akufanele uvumelane ngokupheleleyo nomnye umntu kwaye uphephe impikiswano. Enyanisweni, uvelwano luyakwazi ukubonisa ukuqonda kwimeko yesimo sengqondo okanye imbono yombonisi ngaphandle kokusebenzisa isizathu sokungabi namacala. Ukuphulaphula kulula ngakumbi kunokuthetha - ukuze uqale ngoku.
Ukuphulaphulwa kwe-Empathic kuthatha ukuba awuyi kuthungatha intloko yakho, kodwa ubuze nemibuzo ephakamisayo eya kubonisa ukungakhathaleli kwakho. Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa zokukholisa umntu ukuba unomdla kwintetho:
- ungacingi ngetetho yakho. Uthi "uqobo lwangaphakathi" lukuvimbela ekuboneni isithethi.
- Musa ukuguqula isihloko sencoko.
- Musa ukuthula - oku kudala ukuxhatshazwa. Ubungenani ndixelele ubuso obunjani "apha" - kwaye awukhathaleli.
Ksenia Ivanova , ngakumbi kwisiza