Bonke bavela ebuntwaneni
Yonke into esiyenzayo, into esiyithethayo, indlela esenza ngayo yiphumo lokukhuliswa kwethu. Yiyo kanye indlela abazali abasiphatha ngayo, iba yimbangela yendlela esiziphatha ngayo, isimo sengqondo kubantu nakwiimeko. Abo banqwenela ukubonakalisa abanye baze bafake iimvo zabo baye bahlaselwa rhoqo ngabahlaselwa ngabazali babo. Ngaphezu koko, oku akuthethi ukuba abazali babengabantu ababi kwaye abazange bathande abantwana babo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, olunjalo unyango luyiphumo lothando olukhulu kakhulu. Abazali bafuna ukuba abantwana babo babe neyona nto ibhetele kwaye bengayiqapheli, bayimisele ukuqonda kwabo. Ngokomzekelo, xa umntwana omncinci ecela i-tsokolate yobisi, i-mamanist ithi "Masifumane i-ts'olethi emnyama. Ufuna yena ngakumbi, kuba uncedo ngakumbi. " Kwaye nantoni na into eyenziwa ngumntwana, umama uyaqhubeka ephikelela kuthi. Ngoko kuyaqhubeka ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ekugqibeleni umntu uyayeka ukuqonda into ayifunayo ngokwenene. Usebenzisa oko abanye bazi kakuhle kunokuba ufuna. Ngoko ke, ekhokelwa ngumzekelo onjalo, abantu baqala ukukholelwa ukuba bayazi kakuhle kakuhle abanye abantu abafuna. Ngokuqinisekileyo banikela iimpawu zabo, nangona bengacingi ukuba yonke into ingahluka. Ngokuqhelekileyo, esi simo sengqondo sibonakaliswe ngokuchanekileyo kubantu abasondeleyo, kuba ngakumbi xa sithetha nomntu, ngakumbi kubonakala ngathi simazi kangcono kunokuba. Ingcamango eqingqiweyo yokuba umntu osondeleyo uyazi yonke into engcono kunokuba senziwe ukuba sibonakalise abantu basekuhlaleni, nokuba baqala ukubeka ukuxhathisa okunzima.
Iingcingo zangaphakathi
Abantu banikela iimpawu kwabanye kwaye kwiimeko xa beva ukuba umntu uphelele kunokuba yena. Ukuziphatha okunjalo kuthiwa ukunyundela, ukunyelisa. Abantu bathetha izinto ezingaqinisekanga. Ngendlela, umntu unokunika iimpawu ezinjalo ngokungazi kwaye engazi. Kuye kwenzeka ukuba ingqondo engqondweni engakumbi ifuna ukuthethelela izenzo zethu, ukuba ifumanisa iimfuno kunye nokungahambi kakuhle kwindlela abaziphatha ngayo abanye abantu. Yilapho siva ukuba umntu ongenakho umgca wokuqala uqala ukuxelela ukuba umntu wayengenzanga nje ngokuba uhlakaniphile kwaye unenjongo, kodwa ngenxa yokuba unabantu abacebileyo, kwaye intombazana sele isatshatile ngempumelelo, kuba ingaba iyindoda enhle okanye ingcolile, okanye u kuhlutha. Abantu abahlala bebala abanye, zama ukuguqula ingqalelo kubo. Abafuni ukuba nabani na ukuba baqaphele amashishini abo kwaye baziphathe. Ngokunika zonke iimpawu, zizolile kwaye azivumeli abanye ukuba batshintshe ingqalelo yabo. Ukuba umntu uqala ukumelana, ngoko-mthetho, abantu bayasabela ngayo ngokukhawuleza. Oko kukuthi, bahlala beqinisekile ukuba amagama abo alungile, kwaye abanakho ukuvuma ukuba uluvo lwabo lubuxoki nokuba umbono womntu ulungile. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, umntu akafanele aphikisana nalabo bazama ukuchaza umntu. Ngokwemvelo, kwezinye iimeko akunakwenzeka ukuthula. Kodwa kusenakunqweneleka ukuba ungene kumgca, kuba nje ungeke uphikisane, umntu, ngokuchaseneyo, njengokungathi uyomeleza uluvo lwakho ngokunyaniseka kwakho kunye nokushisa okukhulu kuqala ukunika iimpawu zakhe.
Ukuzingca
Umnqweno wokubonakalisa unobangela obuncwane. Abantu abanobugovu bafuna ukuhlala kwihlabathi eliya kuba likhulu kakhulu kwaye lilungele. Yingakho abafuni ukubona ubuntu. Umntu onjalo uzama ukudala indawo yokudlala, eya kwenza njengoko ifuna. Yingakho uqala ukubala abantu, abanike iimpawu ezithi zilungele kuqala kuye. Njengomthetho, i-egoists ihlangene nabo ngokwabo ababuthathaka kunabo abayithandayo yaye bayayithanda. Kulula kuba bantu abanjalo ukuba bafake iimpawu zabo baze baqhube entloko into abayifunayo. I-Egoists ibonakalisa abantu ukuze bazive bebi kakhulu, banobuqili, abaphantsi kokuziphatha kunabo. Uhlala ezama uku "bhala" kwaye abulale umntu uluvo lwakhe, umqondo wesithunzi kunye nokuzithemba. Kwimpawu yomntu ongalonwabo, unokuva amagama anjenge "smart", "injongo", "abanetalente" njalo njalo. Ngokuchasene noko, umntu ubeka abanye uluvo lokuba bayisicwenge, bangenalwazi kwaye abanakwenza into ngaphandle kwayo. Njengomthetho, loo mbonakalo isasaza impawu iba yinkokheli kunye neenkcukacha zabanye ngendlela efika ngayo kwingcamango yokuba ngaphandle kwayo ayinasiphelo nantoni na. Kule meko, umnqweno wokubonakalisa abanye awulona nje umphumo wemfundo engafanelekanga. Umntu uyazihlazisa abanye ukuba azikhusele. I-Prichemon ayibonisi nje into yakhe. Uyenza yonke into ukuqinisekisa ukuba abantu abazungezile bayakholelwa ngokupheleleyo kuye, kwaye baziphathe ngokubhekiselele kwinto ekuthethwe ngayo. Zizo ezi mpawu ezimele ziyesabeke kakhulu. Ukuba umntu wenza okungazi kakuhle, ngokuqhelekileyo ukhokelwa yintswelo yothando kunye nokugcinwa okanye akaqapheli oko kwenzekayo. Kodwa xa iimpawu ezimbi zihanjiswe ngenjongo, kuyimfuneko ngokukhawuleza ukulahla umntu onjalo kwaye uphume kwimpembelelo yakhe. Inyani kukuba abantu abanjalo banobuchule obuhle. Bahlala benza konke, njengabo kwaye abafuni ukucinga ngombono womnye umntu. Nangona banengqondo ngomnye umntu onokunyamekela, ngoko ukuqonda umnqweno womntu akaze athethe. Egoist uhlala eqinisekile ukuba uyona mhle kwaye unengqiqo, ngoko uyazi kakuhle ukuba ngubani ofuna ukuba ayenze njani kunye nendlela afanele aziphathe ngayo. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba phakathi kwabantu bakho abasondeleyo kukho umntu ohlala exelela "inyaniso yobomi", ngandlela-thile ayihambisani neengcamango zakho nezimvo zabanye ngawe, cinga ukuba uzama ukukunika iimpawu ezimbi, ukhokelwa nguwe iinjongo zobugovu.
Abantu babalingisa abanye rhoqo. Kodwa kude nomntu wonke ubona ukuba ukuziphatha okunjalo akuchanekanga kwiinkalo ezininzi. Akukho mntu okwaziyo kangcono kunabo. Ngoko ke, ukunika iziganeko, kulungele kwakhona ukucinga malunga nokuba ngaba silimaza abantu besifo sengqondo nokuba ngaba asiyikumisela imbono engachaphazela ikusasa labo.