Ukuxhomekeka kwabanye abantu

Wonke umntu ohlala kuluntu kufuneka afunde ukuhlalisana, ahlale kunye. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba le nto ihlala yinto exhomekeke kuyo: ukuziphatha okanye izinto eziphathekayo. Le meko kunzima ukubiza ngokulungileyo, kuba wonke umntu, okokuqala, kufuneka ahlale ngumntu. Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukwazi indlela yokufunda ukungaxhomeki kwabanye abantu.


Ukuxhomekeka kwenyama

Le ndlela yokuxhomekeka isetyenziswe kuthi ukususela ekuqaleni. Ngenxa yokuba ufikelele kwiminyaka ethile umntwana uzuza yonke into kumntwana, usetyenziselwa kule mimandla, ngenxa yoko, ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba nzima ukuba afunde ukuhlala ngokuzimeleyo aze athembele kuye kuphela. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kukho abantu abaye babhekana nobunzima ukususela ebuntwaneni, ngoko bayazi iintsuku ezindala abafuna ukuzithemba zona kuphela. Kodwa abaninzi balabo abakhulayo kwimindeni enokwenza kakuhle bajamelana nengxaki yokuxhomekeke kwimpahla ethile kwiminyaka ethile.

Indlela eqhelekileyo yokufunda indlela yokuzimelela ngokwezemali yilabo banakekelwa kakhulu ngabazali babo. Ukufuna umntwana wakhe kakuhle, eyazi ukuba uya kufuneka asebenze ebomini bakhe bonke, abazange banikele ukuba baye emsebenzini, ufunda, ahlala ekhuthazwa, avumele intombi yakhe okanye unyana ukuba acele nje imali. Ngenxa yoko, umntu onjalo ukhula, uyaqhubeka ebala loo mama kunye nobawo mabawugcine. Enyanisweni, uluhlu olunjalo lwabantu aluhlali lubona ukuxhomekeka kwabo, kuba bakhululekile kakhulu. Kodwa ukuba bayaqonda, abaqondi kakuhle indlela yokujamelana nale nto, kuba abafuni ukuyeka indlela eqhelekileyo yobomi. Enyanisweni, le meko inokuhlelwa lula kunokuba ibonakala. Ngokomzekelo, akuyiyo imfihlo kubani na ukuba kubazali sihlala sisincinane ubomi bethu bonke. Kodwa ngaphezu kokuba sizimeleyo, ngokukodwa imali, kulula ukuba sibeke ukukhula kwethu kwaye sivumele ukuba benze izigqibo zabo. Ngethuba xa umama nobaba beqhubeka bekela imali, abayekanga ukulawula umntu, njengokungathi usemncinci. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukufunda ukuzimelela ngokwezimali, kufuneka uqale uhlalutye ubuhlobo bakho nabazali bakho. Emva kwabo bonke, baninzi, banokubiza rhoqo, stitvatki kunye neemeko. Ngaphezu koko, ukuba ukuxhomekeka kwezinto eziphathekayo akuvumeli ukuba baphile ngokuhlukileyo, ithuba lokuthetha ngokukhululekile kunye nabahlobo kunye nesondo esahlukileyo lulahlekile. I-Aeto ibaluleke kakhulu kunoma yimuphi umfana.

Kwakhona kuyimfuneko ukukhumbula isimo sakho senhlalakahle. Ukuba ebusheni kuthathwa njengesiqhelo ukuhlala ngenxa yeakhawunti yomzali, kwaye xa usakhula, abanye bayeke ukuhlonela ezi ntlawulo ezikhululekile, ngokuchaseneyo, bayazidela. Nokuba ngaba abahlobo bangatsho oku kumntu, iso elibi lixoxa ngokuxhomekeke kwimeko yokuxhomekeka kwimiba yomhlobo waloo nzala kwaye akucaci ukuba akunandipha. Ngoko ke, ukuba ungafuni ukuba ngumhlobo wabangani bakho njengomntwana kunye nomthwalo wokukhulula umthwalo, kufuneka uhlolisise ngokukhawuleza ulwalamano lwakho lwezezimali nabazali bakho.

Ukuxhomekeka kwezinto ezibonakalayo kunokuvela phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba intombazana ihlala endleleni yendoda yayo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, oku kubonakala ngathi akufanelekanga nantoni na, kuba umntu uthathwa njengomcebisi, kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuxhomekeka kwezinto ezibonakalayo kubakhokelela ekuxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kwiinto zonke. Ekuqaleni okanye ngokukhawuleza le ntombi iya kuva: "Ndikunika, ngoko kufuneka wenze oko ndithethile." Ukuba awufuni ukuba yintaka ebanjwe kwinqanawa edibeneyo, funda ukuba ungesabi ukuzama ukufezekisa into ethile. Ewe, ngamanye amaxesha kunzima kunene, kodwa ndikholelwe, umxholo wokonwaba ukwaneliseka ozuzayo, ukuzuza nokwenza oko uthandayo, uya kuhlanganisa zonke izinto ezimbi ezingenakuqala xa intombazana iqala nje indlela yokuzimela eyimali. Enyanisweni, ukuze ungathembeli kubantu ngokwezimali, kufuneka uhloniphe kwaye ukholelwe kuwe. Umntu ngamnye ngumntu onetalente kunye nobuqili, ungesabi ukuzityhila kuwe kwaye wazi ukuba oko ufumana ngokuzimela kuya kukunceda ukuba "ufike ezinyaweni zakho" kwaye ungesabi ngomso. Kodwa ubomi obutyebi kwindleko yomnye umntu unokutshintsha nangaliphi na ixesha, kwaye kuya kuba nzima nakakhulu ukuba "uphume emgodini".

Ukuxhomekeka kokuziphatha

Ngenxa yokuxhomekeka kokuziphatha, maxa wambi kunzima kunzima ukulwa kunokuxhomekeke kwimpahla. Inyani kukuba ukuxhamla okunyanisekileyo kunye nokuqhotyoshelweyo kuninzi kunamandla kunezinto zemali. Amantombazana amaninzi kukuba ayaqonda ukuba abahlali ngaphandle komntu. Ingaba ngumntu othandekayo, ongaphantsi umhlobo, umzalwana okanye omnye umntu osondeleyo kunye naye okhululekile. Kwimeko yokuba sinamathele kubantu abemi bomthonyama akukho nto engaqhelekanga. Kodwa xa esi siqhotyoshelweyo siba ngumlutha - lixesha lokubetha i-alamu. Akunakwenzeka ukuba ubomi bakho nobomi bakho buxhomekeke kwisimo sengqondo kunye nokukhetha komntu othandekayo. Ukuze ufunde ukungaxhomeki kwabanye abantu, kufuneka uqale ufunde indlela yokuphila ubomi bakho. Kufuneka ube neminqweno yakho, iiminqweno zakho, izenzo zokuzonwabisa kunye nabahlobo bakho. Oko kukuthi, into engayi kuguquka, nokuba umntu othandayo uyanyamalala ebomini bakho.

Kwakhona kuyimfuneko ukukhumbula ukuba kuqala ukuxhomekeka kumntu, simsusa lo mntu kude nathi. Ingavakala ingqungquthela, kodwa iyafana. Xa sithembele ngakumbi kubantu, ngakumbi sifuna ukubenza kubo kwaye ngakumbi siqala ukulawula. Oku kuguqulela into yokuba ubudlelwane bokuqala obuqhelekileyo buya kuba bukhoboka obuphambeneyo: umntu oxhomekeke kuye ulungele ukwenza nantoni na ukugcina umntu osondele kuye. Ekugqibeleni, oku kukukhokelela kwinto yokuba umntu uqala ukusebenzisa umntu oxhomekeke kuye. Okanye ulwalamano luba lubi, kuba lowo uxhomekeke kuye, uqala ukucaphukisa, zama ukukhawulela indawo yabo, kunye njalo njalo.

Ngako oko, ukuba ufuna ukuba ubudlelwane bakho buqheleke, kwaye uthando okanye uthando lube linye, funda ukwabelana ngesithandabuzo sothando kunye nokuxhomekeka kokuxhomekeka. Xa umntu eba ngumlutha kumntu, uyayeka ukuzaliswa, uqala ukucinga iingcamango zabanye abantu aze aphikisane nalawo maqela ayenze ngengozi okanye ahlawulwe ngokuthe ngqo. Vitoga, ngokukhawuleza ukuyeka ukuthakazelisa, kuba ilahlekelwa ngumntu ngamnye. Ngako oko, ukuba ufuna ukufunda ukuzimela kwabanye abantu, qho khumbuza ukuba mhlawumbi uya kulahleka. Kanjalo, kufuneka uhlale ukhumbule ukuba abanye abantu badinga ukuba ngabanye, kwaye kungekhona iikopi zabo ebusweni bakho. Akukho mntu uya kuvuya ukufumana emva kwakhe iqela lakhe, ojongene neenja, ulungele ukwenza yonke into kodwa ufuna ukuhlala esondele kuye ukuba akavumeli ukuya kwesibini. Khumbula ukuba abantu kufuneka banikele indawo yabo, emva koko, baya kukuxabisa ngakumbi, kuba bayaqonda ukuba ungumntu onobomi bakhe kwaye ukuba iindlela zakho zahlakazeka, uya kuba nako ukuhlala, kwaye awuyi kuhlupheka kuze kube sekupheleni kwemihla yakho. i-narcotic - uhlala ufuna idolosi. Ngoko ke, ngokuthetha nomntu, uthanda umntu, ukuze ungabi ngumxhomekeke, khumbula ukuba ubuntu bakho, iimfuno zakho nobomi bakho buxhomekeke kuwe kuphela, kungekhona kumntu omnye.