Ingqumbo ingavela xa umntu engathethi ngendlela esilindele ngayo. Umhlobo wam waqhekeza nomyeni wakhe, owayengumbono wam, umntu ontle, ngenxa yerhafu. Kwafuneka kukhishwe ngexesha elithile, ngoko kwakungekho zikhonkwane kunye neengxowa zeplastiki kunye nabantu beebhakethi bakhupha imfucuza. Kwaye kwintsapho yabazali bakhe, le ndoda yabuyisa imfucuza, yayingumsebenzi wakhe. Umhlobo ugqiba ukuba xa engayithathi inkunkuma, ngoko akayithandi, akayihloneli, kwaye uyayihlazisa. Ngokwemvelo, kwakukho ezininzi izikhalazo phakathi kwabaselula abasetyhini, kodwa ukhumbula le nxaxhiso iminyaka engamashumi amane.
Izindlela zokurhoxisa izikhalazo
Abahlobo bahlala banika iingcebiso zokukhafulela baze bakhohlwe xa sibaxelela kwakhona ngezikhalazo zabo. Kwaye banikezela ngolu hlobo isiluleko, ngenxa yokuba umntu okhubekileyo, unxibelelwano olubi, uthetha nje ngomntu owamcaphukisa. Kodwa ukuba sizama ukuphoqa ukuhlambalaza kwimemori, ukuba siyeke ukuthetha ngawo, kuya kubakho ubuhlungu besimo sethu. Indlela yokulwa nokuhlambalaza - ukuwucima: ukuphindezela, ukuphosa omnye umntu. Olunye uhlobo luya kwenzeka njani ukuba umphathi wakhe ulungiselele ukungena kwakhe, kwaye yena, wabuyela ekhaya, waqhekeza unyana wakhe, unyana wayibetha inja, kunye nenja ecatshukile yambamba umlenze wakhe, ngoko isangqa sivaliwe.
Kodwa ezi ngcebiso azisebenzi, ndimele ndenze ntoni? Ukubandezeleka kwintukuthelo, umona, umsindo kunye noyiko, oku kukudandatheka nokuxinezeleka, ukulahlekelwa intsingiselo ebomini, ubuvila, ukuhluleka kunye nezifo. Ukubandezeleka kwengqondo, esi siqhamo sefilosofi engcolileyo yobomi, isiqhamo sokucinga okungalunganga. Indlela yodwa yokulahla ukuhlambalaza - kufuneka ucinge ngako. Thatha uxanduva malunga neemvakalelo zakho. Kwaye ukwenzela oku 8 amanyathelo okulungiselela kunye ahambelanayo.
Inyathelo 1
Ukukhumbuza intukuthelo yakhe, buyele kuyo, kwaye ukhumbule indlela ukuziphatha okutshintshile ngayo, yiziphi iingcinga ezafika engqondweni. Kungaba ngcono ukubhala konke phantsi, umhlobo wam wabhala abasebenzisa abahlukumezi bakhe, kodwa akazange ahlale ebathumela, ngoku unencwadana yokusebenza nezikhalazo zakhe.
Isinyathelo 2
Bhala ngokucacileyo indlela umntu ondicaphumele ngayo kufuneka aziphathe ngayo, ukuze ndingakhubeki kuye. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, ukhetho olufanelekileyo luya kuba wandibizela ukuba ndimsiye kwaye ndichaze apho ndiphosakeleyo kwaye oko ndenze kakubi.
Isinyathelo 3
Phendula umbuzo othi kutheni kufuneka enze oku. Kuvela phi iimimiselo, izithethe, imithetho kunye nokunye.
Isinyathelo 4
Yintoni enokuba sisizathu sendlela yakhe yokuziphatha, asiyi kufuna izizathu, kodwa kuchazwa. Uze uzihlulele zonke iinketho ezahlukeneyo.
Isinyathelo 5
Ngaba uyenjenjalo kulowo wonke umntu, okanye wenza oku kum kuphela?
Isinyathelo 6
Ngaba lo mntu unokukwazi ukwenza oko ndikulindele kuye, kwaye unokukwazi ukuhlangabezana nale miba?
Isinyathelo 7
Ziziphi iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo ezihambisane nokuthuka kwam? Ukungabi nethemba? Uthiya? Uloyiko? Nomsindo? njalo njalo.
Isinyathelo 8
Ukuxolela akusisizathu. Ukuhlala kunye nokuxolelwa yimizwi yengcambu enye. Ukususa ingqondo yakhe yentukuthelo, ukungabikho. Andikwazi ukuyilawula. Andiyi kukwazi ukumphoqa umxhaphazi wam ukuba aziphathe ngendlela endingathanda ngayo. Ndimshiya ukuba ndijongane nobomi benene kwaye ndilungise iimpazamo zakhe. Kufuneka udale umfanekiso wakho wokuxolela, uphawu. Umzekelo, abahlobo bam banomfanekiso we-birch, ndinomlambo wokukhanya, umntu unomfanekiso wesibhakabhaka, ezinye zineendlela. Intukuthelo iphelela ekuxoleleni, kufuneka uxolele ngamagama, kufuneka ucinge ngomntu oye wakucaphukisa, uqhagamshelana nale ntshutshiso uze ulandele umonakalo wakho ocinga, ngeli xesha uthi:
1. Umele uxanduva lokuba ... kwaye ezinye iinkcukacha zitshilo, zingcono. Ukuthetha ngoluphi udaba iinkcukacha zesivumelwano zaphulwa, kwaye ukhangele ukuba uye wazisa yonke into.
2. Kuya kuchaneka ukuba wenza njalo, ngelixa uthetha ngaphandle kwincityana ayikho.
3. Mhlawumbi, wayenalo sizathu sokwenza njalo, njengoko kwenza umxhaphazi. Chaza zonke izizathu ezikhoyo.
4. Kwaye, nangona ebenokuba nezizathu zakhe, ndisaziva ndihlaselwa.
5. Nangona ndivakalelwa kunye noko wenzeni, ndizimisele ukuxolela. Yaye mayeke.
6. Kodwa konke oku akuthethi ukuba kwakungekho, ndikukhulula. Simele sibize lo mfanekiso wokuxolela, ukudibanisa nayo, kwaye uthumele umlambo wothando kummoni.
Siyabulela kule ndlela ilapha ngentla, unokukrazula intukuthelo kwaye uxolele umxhaphazi wakho. Inkqubo yokuxolela ibuhlungu. Kodwa ukuba awukhiphi umthetho, ngoko unokutshabalalisa umntu.