Kuthekani ukuba umhlobo wakho utshatile?

Isoloko yinto ekhethekileyo kakhulu. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba iziganeko zenzeke ebomini bethu esingazilindelekanga okanye ezifunayo.

Yonke intombazana iphupha lokuhlangana nendoda ethandekayo eya kubeka ihlabathi lonke kwiinyawo zakhe ize imenze avuyiswe. Intombazana nganye, ubuncinane kanye kanye ebomini bayo, yathi la mazwi alandelayo: "Andiyi kuhlangana nomntu otshatileyo." Kodwa, ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba xa udibana nomfana oseluhambweni, uthanda. Kwaye, xa uvakalelo lweemvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo zithintela uphahla, kuvela ukuba umhlobo wakho utshatile.

Kuthekani ukuba umhlobo wakho utshatile?

Amadoda, eyazi ukuphendula kwamantombazana emtshatweni wabo, bakhetha ukuthula. Kwaye, nokuba ngaba amahemuhemu sele sele efikelelekile kuwe ukuba utshatile, uyamxhoma eludongeni - uya kudibana, kungekhona nje ukutyhila inyaniso kuwe.

Ukuba umhlobo wakho utshatile, kwaye wafunda ngale nto emva kwesikhashana kwaye sele sele esithandana naye kwiindlebe, unokufumana indlela yokuphuma kule meko.

Utshatile, kodwa awuzange uqikelele malunga nalo, kodwa wafunyanwa ngengozi kumntu omaziyo okanye wamthatha ngokuziphatha okungaqhelekanga - akasiphenduli ngeefowuni zefowuni, ngokukhawuleza uzama ukuphendula imiyalezo ye-SMS.

Kutheni eziphatha ngale ndlela? Ngokuqinisekileyo, mhlawumbi uloyiko lokulahlekelwa nguwe. Ngeli xesha owaye kunye naye, yena, njengowe, uye waqhotyoshela kuwe. Ulungile nawe, kodwa akazange afune ukucaphukisa okanye ukuthusa.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, iingcinga ezinjalo zinokudunyiswa, kuba wayekhathazekile ngoxolo lwakho lwengqondo. Kodwa, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuthula kwakhe kungabangelwa yinto yokuba wayethusa ukuthetha inyaniso okanye injongo yakhe kuwe akuyona ingqongqo kwaye akayi kuguqula ubomi bakhe ngokugqithiseleyo.

Ukuba kuvela ukuba umthandana wakho utshatile kwaye ukususela ekuqaleni kobudlelwane engazange axoxe nawe, kuyafaneleka ukuba ucinge ukuba ufuna umntu oqale ulwalamano kunye nobuxoki. Kunqabile kakhulu, amadoda ashiya abafazi bawo ukuba asebenze iimpazamo - oku kunjalo. Xa umfana efumana inkosikazi-mhlawumbi ukhangele i-adventure okanye kwintsapho yakhe kubakho iingxaki. Intombazana, inkosikazi yakhe, nje into yokuzonwabisa.

Amantombazana, ukuba umhlobo wakho utshatile, kukhetha ukuba ukhethe, ube naye okanye udibanise lobu buhlobo. Ndiyaphinda ukuba kuya kuba budenge ukulinda nokukholelwa amazwi akhe ngokukhawuleza uya kuqhawula, kwaye kunye kunye uya kwakha uxolo oluhle. Amadoda ngokwemvelo ayenentlonelo kwaye ayesaba ukutshintshela ubuhlobo obungqina kunye nokungaziwa.

Cinga ukuba amandla akho neemvakalelo zakho zifanelekile ukulwa nomntu onokungcatsha. Emva kokungena kwintombazana nentombazana, umntu otshatileyo uyamkhathaza umfazi wakhe, uyamkhaphela.

Ngaba udinga indoda esele isatshatile, nokuba uthembisa ukushiya umfazi kwaye unezizathu ezininzi zokumkholelwa? Cinga, nokuba uyashiya umfazi, kwaye uya kuba kunye, apho uqinisekisa ukuba emva kwexesha uya kuwela kwindawo yomfazi wangaphambili - akayi kuba nomdla kuwe, kwaye uya kufuna ubuhlobo obutsha kunye neemvakalelo.

Kodwa, ke, ukuba uhlala uxolo malunga nelokuba umthandane wakho utshatile kwaye awunakuhlaziswa yinto yokuba awuyena kuphela umfazi ebomini bakhe kwaye ubusuku bonke ungamvumela ukuba alale kunye nomnye-ke mhlawumbi, ezi Ubuhlobo buya kukuvuyisa okanye kuzuze. Konke kuxhomekeke kwinto oyifunayo kule ndoda.

Amantombazana amaninzi athabatha indima yenkosikazi, kuba isetyenziselwa ukucinga ngeentloko zabo, kungekhona ngeentliziyo zabo.

Ukuba uyazixela kulolu hlobo, ngoko uThixo uyisiphelo sakho. Ubomi bakho kunye nesiphelo sakho sokuba unelungelo lokwakha indlela ofuna ngayo.

Kodwa, musa ukulibala ukuba yonke into ibuyela ebomini.