Ngokombono wethu, uthando luyinto enhle kakhulu, ingqongqo phantsi. Yilokho eyenza izibongo zeebongo, kunye nabaculi bezobugcisa. Iincwadi ezona zilungileyo kwihlabathi ziphathelele uthando, abalobi, ngokuqinisekileyo, bamnike umvuzo. Abaninzi bethu bathandana-uthando, abanomdla, abanomdla, nabamkelekileyo. Abanye bacinga ukuba uthando luya kubazisa uxolo, ukunyaniseka. Bamele, kwindawo yokuqala, uthando olude kunye olungenakuphazanyiswa yeso sibini esasikhulileyo, ebudlelwaneni bakhe bodwa, bakha induduzo kwaye banika uvuyo. Omnye wethu uhlukile, uhlukile, kwaye kunokuthanda.
Sonke silindele ukuthanda izinto ezahlukeneyo kunye ngexesha elifanayo. Ulingana nomlinganiselo apho umntu ngamnye elindele oko angenako.
Ukunyuka
Ngomntu, uthando luthando, i-adventure, imvakalelo edibanisayo. Uthando olunjalo lufunwa ngabantu, baninzi, banokukhathala ngenxa yobuninzi bobomi, ubomi obuqhelekileyo. Abantu abanjalo bafuna ukuthanda kunye neentlanga, kwaye badala ingcamango yothando ngesiseko sefilimu, iincwadi, amabali. Bafuna ubuntu obuvuthayo obuya kuqonda ubuntu babo. Mhlawumbi, abantu abanjalo bafuna nje iimvakalelo ezinamandla okanye basandul 'ingxabano, ingxaki. Olu hlobo lwabantu alulungele ukuthanda. Into efihlakeleyo emva kwesithando ngumdlalo kunye nomdlalo, ekugqibeleni uyaphela, ngaphandle kokuba ufumane ezinye iimvakalelo. Kuba bantu abanjalo, uthando ludibaniswe neengxabano, "zityhala ioli kuphela emlilweni." Ezinye iingxabano zangaphakathi ziqhubezela abantu ukukhangela izithintelo, ukuthintela uthando. "Uthando" olunjalo luphila ngenxa yobunzima, imeko, uxinzelelo, umdlalo. Isizathu saloo mnqweno kukunganeliseki kwangaphakathi, ukungabi nalutho, umbuzo ongaphendululwanga okanye ukungafuni ukuhambelana nobudlelwane obubi. Ukufuna olo thando olunomdla, umntu unokufuna i-adrenaline okanye isisombululo kwiingxaki zabo kunye nemiba.
Uloyiko lokuba yedwa
Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa sifuna uthando, ngokwenene sifuna umntu oqinileyo oya kusinceda kwaye asisindise kwedwa. Ngamnye wethu uvakalelwa kwinqanaba elithile, engenakuqondwa. Ukwesaba ukuhlala sisodwa kukhokelela kwiimeko ezininzi. Kwabanye abantu-esi sizathu esibalulekileyo sokufuna uthando. Ubuntu obuthathaka, obunzima kwihlabathi elijikelezile, ufuna inkxaso, inkxaso. Uthando lugxininiso olufanayo, ncedana omnye nomnye kwiimeko ezilukhuni, ukudibanisa ngokubambisana. Umntu omnye unokufuna uthando njengonyango kuzo zonke iingxaki zakhe, eziza kuzalisa ukungena ngaphakathi kunye nokunceda umntu abe noloyiko.
Kukho uluhlu lwabantu abangenakuhlala bodwa. Kubo, ubomi obomi-ukufumana iqabane eliya kuba kufuphi nabo, liya kukufihla ukungaphumeleli kunye nokungaphumeleli komlingiswa wabo. Abantu abanjalo bafana "nesiqingatha esilahlekileyo", esingenakusebenza ngokuzimela. Uthando luyanceda ngokwenene ukufumana ukuzithemba, lunceda ukuxazulula iingxaki ezininzi, ukuxhasa abantu ngexesha elinzima, lunceda ukuqonda izinto ezininzi. Kodwa oku akusiyo i-panacea kwiingxaki esizikwazi ukuzisombulula zona.
Abanye abantu bafuna uthando njengendlela yokusombulula iingxabano, iingxaki, njengempendulo kwimibandela efihlakeleyo, ukulibala ukuba uthando luyimfanelo yomnye umntu kunye nezenzo zabo. Uthando luyinkxaso kunye nokuqonda okufanayo, kwaye akusisisombululo sobunzima besinye iqabane kwelinye.
Ukuze sibe njengeqhawe lethu
Sifunda ngothando kwiincwadi, ubukele ezininzi iifilimu. Phantse kukho umxholo wothando, apho ngokuqinisekileyo sineqhawe elithandayo okanye iqhawe. Umnqweno wokuba ufanelekile, ukuthanda ngokulungileyo njengencwadi, inomdla kumnqweno wethu wothando. Sifuna ukubandakanyeka kwinto enhle kwaye "phezulu", sifuna ukuqonda iingcamango zethu. Ulwazi oluya kuthi i-nasokruzhaet, lusithintela kummandla omkhulu okanye ngaphantsi, ukubonakaliswa kweefom kunye nokufakelwa. Abalinganiswa beefilimu okanye iincwadi eziqhelekileyo kuthi ziqhelekileyo imeko efunwayo yobomi bethu. Sifuna ukufaka le fantasy, ukutshintshela kuthi. Ezi ngcamango zisinceda sibe nokuzithemba nokuzimela. Lo mnqweno unokuba ngumqondiso wokuba sifuna ukuziqonda, sifuna ukuzifumana size sibonise amandla.
Ngeengcamango sizijonga ngathi ungumlingisi oyintloko kwaye ngexesha elifanayo sifisa uthando. Nangona eqinisweni, akulungele, kuba yonke ingqalelo ihlawulwa kumfanekiso, kungekhona inkqubo. I-Lyubovtsie isebenza njengemvelaphi, isizathu, ukuxhasana, kungakhankanyi inkcazo yeqabane, elifunekayo kuphela kwiskripthi. Kule meko, umntu uthandwa ngumfanekiso "weqhawe elinothando" okanye ngokuthe ngqo, umnqweno wokuthandwa, ukusekwa. Iyakubonisa ngokuzithemba.
Uthando, yintoni na
Phakathi kwazo zonke izizathu ezikhankanywe ngentla, kubalulekile ukukhankanya into ephambili - ukukhangela uthando. Kukho uphando oluntu olunomdla, olubonisa ukulandelelana kweemfuno kumaqela ahlukeneyo. Uphando luya kuthatha ubomi bomntu kwixesha elibalulekileyo apho iimeko ezibalulekileyo zeli xesha zikhethwe, umzekelo, ukuzimelela-ezichongiweyo liqela, ukuthobela-ukuzimela, ukuzimela okanye ukufumana umlingane. Uninzi lophando kunye nokulinga luchaza umntu kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthanda, kungekhona ukuba yedwa, ukufumana inkxaso kubahlobo okanye "isiqingatha" sakhe. Ezinye izafilosofi zithi ngamnye wethu uyingxenye, kwaye ukuze 'sigqibe' sifuna isiqingatha sesibini. Ngaba kunjalo? Wonke umntu othandayo unokuphendula lo mbuzo ngokuqinisekileyo.
Uthando lusinceda sicamngce ngobomi bethu, sitshintshe, senze izinto ezinobungozi ngenxa yomntu othandekayo, ukuzithoba kunye nokuxolela izono, ngamanye amaxesha zidibanisa imigaqo yethu kunye nokuzikhukhumeza. Uthando lufundisa ukunyamekela ummelwane wakho, lusifundise uvelwano kunye nokukwazi ukuqonda ingxaki yomntu. Uthando lunokukunceda ufumane kwaye uzibonele, unike inkxaso kunye nento esiyifunayo yonwabo.